This is a set of signs, principles, features and abilities that determine the level of usefulness of the system and the success of its interaction in various fields.
They are part of a person's character, a subset of features that make it possible to most effectively respond to certain influences, act and successfully achieve goals in a certain subject area. More information about character and characteristics is written in the method of Determining character and temperament.
The presence of certain personal qualities is the most important sign of success, and their development is the main way to improve it. Let's take a closer look at the main qualities successful person and methods of their development.
Intelligence
it complex model behavior of the system, using consciousness, preconsciousness and subconsciousness for the organization, management, control and planning of activities, the preservation and use of perceived and synthesized information in memory, personal development and the realization of purpose, limited by conscience.
Allows you to define actions and resources based on personal experience and generated ideas and combine them into a plan to achieve goals.
With a low level of intelligence development, a person is not able to engage in useful activities, cannot organize, control and manage it. He is also unable to consciously set goals, draw up a plan to achieve them, overcome obstacles and act in their direction.
With a high level of intelligence development, a person completely controls his life, determines the optimal ways of development and achieving goals, realizes himself, is engaged in creativity and continuously self-actualizes.
Increases success by identifying the optimal path to achieve goals and best ways overcoming obstacles.
It develops through the accumulation of experience and the improvement of such abilities as self-awareness, goal setting, planning, imagination, etc.
This quality is discussed in more detail in the Generation of useful ideas method and.
Self-discipline
This is the ability to start and complete the implementation of actions, to obtain expected results and achieve the set goals, regardless of the obstacles that arise.
Obstacles can be problems, needs, harmful influences, laziness, fear, lack of motive or incentive, etc. Moreover, the overwhelming majority of them are internal.
It requires the will to start acting, perseverance to bring things to the end and dedication to focus only on things that bring them closer to the goal.
Will
It is the ability to consciously initiate, manage, and organize actions to achieve goals.
It manifests itself at the beginning of actions to overcome inertia and when obstacles arise.
It allows you to become independent of the opinions and manipulation of other people, and to act only on the basis of personal decisions, i.e. get rid of reactivity when interacting and become more proactive.
The speed of decision making and implementation depends on willpower influenced by self-discipline, independence, determination, self-confidence and courage. The better these qualities are developed, the greater willpower.
With a low level of will development, a person does not begin to act independently, but only reacts to external influences. Cannot overcome obstacles, but simply stops reaching the goal or switches to another goal.
With a high level of will development, a person acts only on the basis of personal experience and goals. He instantly takes action when deciding whether to achieve a goal or when obstacles appear on the way to it.
Increases success by overcoming more difficult obstacles, doing more difficult tasks and achieving more and more rewarding goals.
It develops in a similar way to self-discipline - with the help of a progressive complication of the actions performed and the goals achieved.
Tenacity
This is the ability to continue and complete the implementation of the initiated actions to achieve the set goal, regardless of the obstacles that arise.
It is often used in case of defeats, when you need to "get on your feet" and continue to move towards the goal.
Showing perseverance, completing all things and successfully achieving goals increases motivation and self-confidence.
With low perseverance, a person completes few tasks, and only those in the performance of which there were no obstacles. If at least something interferes, then the person will immediately refuse to fulfill it or switch to another matter.
With high perseverance, a person completes all matters, receives the necessary results and overcomes with the help of will any obstacles on the way to the goal.
Increases success by completing all planned activities, achieving expected results and achieving all set goals.
It also develops with the help of a step-by-step complication of the actions performed and the goals achieved.
Purposefulness
This is the ability to concentrate only on achieving the current goal, not being distracted by unimportant matters, not succumbing to laziness and spontaneous desires.
With low purposefulness, a person is often distracted from the current task and goals, begins to perform other tasks that are not related to the current goal. This significantly increases the time and cost to achieve the goal.
With a high purposefulness, a person performs only those things that bring them closer to the goal, and spends personal resources only on such things.
Increases success by setting and successfully achieving more and more complex goals, focusing only on the most important ones and minimizing the cost and time for activities that are not related to the goal - time absorbers.
It develops with the help of conscious concentration on the planned business and a gradual increase in the duration of this concentration. For example, at first you can concentrate only on the current business for 10 minutes, then 15, 20, 25 ... And then take an effective break for 5-10 minutes to quickly recuperate.
At the same time, it is important to find the optimal balance between concentration on business and rest in order to maintain maximum efficiency, do not overwork and do not burn out.
Intensity
This is the ability to concentrate on one goal for a certain period and make every effort to achieve it as soon as possible.
It allows you to speed up the process of achieving the goal, but requires more resources per unit of time, which is usually a justified measure for faster results.
Prevents relaxed, calm, enjoyable activities that significantly slow down achievement of goals and increase costs.
At low intensity, a person can act very slowly, take frequent breaks, waste resources without benefit for current goals, which worsens the condition and significantly increases the time to achieve the goal.
At high intensity, a person performs actions at the maximum speed for himself and with the optimal expenditure of personal resources. Makes a minimum of breaks just for rest and recuperation, and does not get distracted by other, useless things.
Increases success due to faster achievement of goals, albeit with high, but payback, costs.
It develops with the help of a progressive increase in the period of concentration and the maximum application of efforts to one goal.
Confidence
This is the state of the system in which it has knowledge of its own response and the reaction of another system when it exerts a certain impact.
It appears during development and awareness as a result of obtaining true knowledge about oneself, one's actions and their consequences. Minimizes uncertainty, stress, fears and risks.
It is necessary to understand the results that will be obtained by performing certain actions and having an impact on yourself or the environment. Helps to take the first step towards the goal, reduces risk harmful effects and consequences that can worsen the condition.
Self-confidence manifests itself in speech, appearance, clothing, gait, physical condition.
When confidence is low, a person may spend a lot of time determining what is safe and beneficial effect which he can exert on himself or other systems in order to achieve a specific purpose... At the same time, the likelihood of harm is high, which can worsen conditions and relationships with other systems.
With high confidence, a person can quickly determine the necessary impact, which is guaranteed to lead to the necessary consequences and give the expected results. At the same time, the risk of harm and deterioration of the relationship will be minimal.
Increases success by accurately determining which impact will be beneficial and which will be harmful, which helps the will to take the first step towards the goal, which is often the most difficult, because you need to overcome your inertia and internal obstacles.
Develops with the help of awareness of oneself and the environment, one's abilities, positive attitude to yourself, faith that when doing correct actions you will definitely achieve success.
Organization
It is the ability to streamline personal activities and determine the importance of goals and activities to increase the likelihood of success and minimize costs.
It manifests itself when a large number disordered, chaotic tasks, the execution of which may be ineffective due to the waste of resources on less important tasks. Such cases are described in detail, the connections between them are determined, their importance and usefulness for self-realization and achievement of the goal of life is determined.
The main tools for the organization are planning and systematization of their activities. To do this, you can use various systems of lists, folders, categories, etc. You can also delegate the execution of important matters to more competent specialists. The tools for organizing are described in more detail in the method Organizing personal goals and affairs. You can also start using the powerful, free online organizer right now.
With low organization, a person has many things to do, the usefulness and dependence of which is unknown to him. He makes decisions in a chaotic manner, usually depending on his mood and desire to perform the most interesting, but not necessarily useful business.
With a high level of organization in a person, everything important goals and cases are detailed, structured and organized into a single system. With its help, he can quickly find necessary information and take correct decisions depending on current conditions and available resources. But this system requires spending additional resources to create it and update the information in it.
Increases success by having a clear understanding of what needs to be done to achieve a goal and quickly gaining the information you need to make decisions and take action.
It develops with the help of a progressive complication of the system of organizing activities for self-realization and continuous updating of information in it. This is facilitated by the development of purposefulness and self-discipline.
Courage
This is the ability to maintain the current state or improve it in the event of danger or fear that impedes the implementation of actions and the achievement of a set goal.
Fear is a good helper in determining the correctness of the decision. How more people is afraid to do something and it will definitely not do harm, the more useful this business is for his self-realization. Then you need to courageously take the first step, which is usually the most difficult, and then everything will go like clockwork.
With low courage, a person can completely stop acting when fear arises, even if its cause is not harmful. At the same time, he can switch to other, less useful goals, abandoning those that cause fear, but can bring more benefit (organize a company, take a higher position, build a house, etc.)
With high courage, a person overcomes any fear, and when it arises, he begins and completes all things to achieve the goal. Moreover, the stronger the fear, the more energy it gives to perform actions.
Increases success by overcoming more and more intense fears that arise when achieving more complex, great and rewarding goals.
It develops with the help of understanding the sources of fear, determining their harmfulness, ways to minimize it and step by step increase in the complexity of the actions performed and the goals achieved that cause fear.
Problem solving
It is the ability to acquire the missing resources to perform certain actions and overcome obstacles to achieve goals.
Imagination
This is the ability to create mental images in consciousness, regardless of the environment, combine them with real objects, simulate their interaction and determine the possible consequences.
It is used to generate original ideas that can be implemented in the form of material ( new house, machine, tool ...) or ideal (knowledge, theories, processes, methods ...) objects.
Applied by the system in creative activity to create new, unique objects used by itself or the environment and improving the state of the system, environment or supersystem.
With a low imagination, a person uses only the information that he perceived from the outside: he saw, heard, tried. This allows you to use in your activities only what already exists.
With a high imagination, a person continuously forms mental images of new and existing systems, connects them together, models their interaction and evaluates the usefulness of the consequences of this. If the image is assessed as useful, then a person can realize it in the real world by creating something new, improving the existing one or destroying the harmful.
Increases success by identifying new possible states, original ways to achieve goals and overcome obstacles.
Develops through the accumulation of knowledge about existing systems, the expansion of the paradigm and the progressive complication of the formed mental images of real and possible systems.
Generation of ideas
It is the ability to use the imagination to form new ideas based on personal experience and existing ideas.
With a low ability to generate ideas, a person uses only templates and proven methods to achieve goals. Can use technologies that someone has invented, but does not adapt them well to their activities, so they bring little benefit.
With a high ability to generate ideas, a person easily comes up with and implements new, unique objects, invents new tools and methods. Develops new and improves existing technologies and implements them into his activities, which allows him to more successfully and efficiently achieve personal goals.
Increases success by identifying original paths to goals, using new technologies and creating unique objects that can give an advantage or will be used as personal resources.
It develops through the accumulation of experience, the continuous search for more suitable ways to perform actions and achieve goals, the development and implementation of more complex and useful technologies, tools and techniques. This is facilitated by the improvement of the imagination.
Creativity
This is a set of capabilities of the system, allowing you to generate fundamentally new, original ideas and use previously unused means to overcome obstacles and achieve goals.
Allows you to find original means for performing certain actions that no one has tried to use yet.
It can lead to both a decrease and an increase in the cost of achieving the goal, but, as a rule, the speed of performing actions increases significantly when using the original means.
It is the main vehicle for creativity, creating something new, unique and improving the environment.
With low creativity, a person can perform actions only on the basis of known solutions, uses only proven technologies and never applies something new.
With high creativity, a person tries for each new business, new goal find a more suitable path than what is known. He generates many ideas for determining the best ways to achieve success. He is constantly looking for, creating and introducing new technologies into his activities.
Increases success by creating new, unique systems, which can give advantages, achieving goals in an original, non-standard way, which can be less costly and faster than the known ones.
It develops through the constant search for new ways and means of performing actions and the progressive complication of the goals achieved in an original way rather than formulaic. This is facilitated by improved imagination and the ability to generate ideas.
Self-awareness
This is the ability to analyze and evaluate your current state, thought processes in consciousness, etc.
It allows you to compare the current state with the desired one, determine the difference and, using the intellect, determine the actions to switch to it.
It also helps to determine the internal motives that give energy to start and end the performance of actions.
With low self-awareness, a person uses only external information to make a decision. He is very sensitive to the opinions of other people, does not take into account his thoughts and emotions.
With high self-awareness, a person makes decisions only on the basis of personal thoughts. He clearly understands what he wants, what goal to achieve and easily determines what he lacks for this.
Increases success by identifying the difference between the current and target states, using internal motives, thoughts and emotions.
It develops with the help of periodic concentration on thoughts and emotions, determining their essence, causes and consequences and the progressive complication of the goals achieved, which have an increasing difference with the current state.
This is the most significant qualities a successful person, the development of which allows you to successfully achieve any set goals.
And many of the qualities connected to each other and the development of some improves others. For example, willpower, perseverance, and determination improve self-discipline, and courage and confidence improve determination.
The development of these qualities and skills allows you to subconsciously, automatically interact, quickly and adequately respond to external influences and adjust your activities depending on new opportunities.
Let us consider in more detail how you can develop any of the qualities so that it influences life as much as possible and helps to achieve success.
Personal development method
For successful self-realization, you need enough high level development of personal qualities. You can improve several qualities at the same time. And it is better to choose those qualities that are most useful for achieving current goals, and concentrate only on their improvement.
All these qualities are innate - every person has them. But initially they are in passive condition and practically do not affect the activity. In order for them to be more useful in achieving goals, they need to be continuously developed.
The main thing in the development of qualities is the understanding that they cannot instantly improve. They should be developed progressively and regularly depending on the current goals. And with the cessation of development, they will worsen, degrade.
Improvement of any quality is based on a gradual, step-by-step complication of the actions that are performed with its application. The following method can be used to develop qualities:
1. It is necessary select quality and to know about him, as much as possible, so that a clear understanding of it appears: its definition, how it manifests itself, what happens to the state, how you react to external influences, how you influence the environment, etc. To do this, you can use their description in this chapter and search Additional information in the Internet.
For example, intensity is the ability to concentrate on specific purpose and make every effort to achieve it as soon as possible. It allows you to speed up the process of achieving the goal, but it is expensive, which is usually a justified measure for faster results. Prevents relaxed activities for the sake of enjoying the process, which significantly slows down the achievement of goals and increases costs.
2. Describe ideal level development of this quality by 10 points out of 10: what can this quality be for me personally, what will my behavior be, in what situations it can be used ...
For example, apply when doing any business. To act as quickly as possible, not to be distracted by extraneous matters. Have a supportive environment. Spend a little time analyzing cases, finding out whether it will help to achieve the goal. If there is an intention to fulfill it, then decisively proceed with it. Set deadlines for the completion of the case. Determine in advance the reward for its completion on time.
3. Determine current level development of this quality on a scale from 1 to 10. To do this, it is enough to ask yourself: "How satisfied I am with this quality in myself on a scale from 1 to 10" and listen to the emerging emotions, they will prompt a subjective, but most accurate answer.
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4. Describe a few simple steps , actions that can be performed to develop this quality by 1 point. Describe what exactly can be done, in what situations, what to use for this, etc., so that the quality improves slightly. In this case, it is enough to rely on personal experience and his idea of this quality in an ideal form.
For example, before starting the execution of a case, determine its term and reward. Organize a supportive environment so that nothing gets in the way of doing it.
5. Then describe the steps to develop quality by 1 more point, and 1 more, and more ... And so to reach such steps that will improve the quality up to 10 points out of 10, ie. to the ideal level.
For example, perform the actual actions as fast as possible (walking fast, typing fast, speaking fast, etc.). Spend a little time analyzing the case, answering the question "Why do it?" Immediately do things that are needed to achieve goals and that you yourself want to do. Delegate the necessary things, but which you do not want to do. Act decisively so as not to miss out on opportunities.
6. Choose the steps from which you can begin quality development soon and start following these steps.
For example, setting deadlines and rewards, organizing a supportive environment, and avoiding distractions.
7. Repeat this method periodically and update your answers.
This method must be performed for each quality, which is useful to develop in the near future for current goals. You can make a list of qualities, draw a scale next to it and mark the current level of this quality on it. For example, like this:
Periodically, for example, once a week, you can update this list, mark the current level of development and analyze the dynamics of change. You can choose the quality that has become the highest priority and perform those actions that will help improve it.
This will help determine which qualities are currently most lacking or which need to be improved in order to achieve current goals.
You can hang this list in several prominent places, regularly review it, recall the steps that it was decided to take first to improve them and perform them under suitable conditions.
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Dina Mikhailovna Ramendik, candidate psychological sciences, Senior Researcher of the Department of Higher nervous activity Faculty of Biology, Moscow State University M.V. Lomonosov.
The personality is formed on the basis of innate biological prerequisites and social experience acquired in the process of life, as well as active objective activity. The personality is relatively stable, but, at the same time, it changes as a result of adaptation to a constantly changing environment.
Since both biological prerequisites and individual experience are unique, each person is also individual and unique. It has a unique structure in which all psychological properties are combined this person... However, there are also general patterns that make it possible to explore, understand and partially change the personality.
Three components can be distinguished in the structure of the personality, the content of which testifies to its maturity:
1) Cognitive component - includes a person's ideas about himself, others and the world; a mature healthy personality is distinguished in that:
assesses himself as an active subject of life, making free elections and bearing responsibility for them;
perceives other people as unique and equal participants in the life process;
perceives the world as constantly changing, and therefore always new and interesting space to realize their capabilities.
2) The emotional component of a mature healthy personality includes:
the ability to trust your feelings and consider them as the basis for choosing behavior, that is, the confidence that the world is really what it seems and the person himself is able to make and implement the right decisions;
acceptance of yourself and others, sincere interest in other people;
interest in the perception of the world, first of all - its positive sides;
the ability to experience strong positive and negative emotions corresponding to a real situation.
3) The behavioral component consists of actions in relation to oneself, other people and the world. A mature healthy personality:
actions are aimed at self-knowledge, self-development, self-realization;
in relation to others, behavior is based on goodwill and respect for their personality;
in relation to the world, behavior is aimed at increasing and sometimes restoring its resources through their creative activity in the process of self-realization and careful handling of those already available.
There are four levels in the personality structure:
The lowest level is the biological basis, which includes age, sexual properties of the psyche, innate properties nervous system and temperament. This level almost defies conscious self-regulation and training.
The next level of personality organization includes individual characteristics psychological processes of a person, i.e., individual manifestations of memory, perception, sensations, thinking, emotions, abilities. This level depends both on innate factors and on individual experience, on training, development, and improvement of these qualities.
The third level of personality is her individual social experience, which includes the knowledge, skills, abilities and habits acquired by a person. They have a social character, are formed in the process of communication, joint activities, training and, accordingly, can be changed through targeted training.
The highest level of the personality, the inner core, is made up of its value orientations. The simplest definition of value orientations is ideal representations of the good. In more general sense value orientations are the basis for a subjective (internal, own) assessment of reality, a way of dividing objects according to their subjective significance. Any thing or phenomenon acquires a personal meaning insofar as it corresponds or does not correspond to the needs and values of a particular person.
Value orientations determine the general approach of a person to the world and himself, give meaning and direction to the social position of an individual. Their stable and consistent structure determines such personality qualities as integrity, reliability, loyalty to certain principles and ideals, the ability to volitional efforts in the name of these ideals and values, active life position, persistence in achieving goals. It is obvious that the value orientations of an independent person may not coincide with some of the values that exist in public consciousness.
Inconsistency in the value system gives rise to inconsistency in judgments and behavior. Underdevelopment, uncertainty of value orientations are signs of infantilism, the domination of external stimuli over internal impulses in the structure of the personality. It is relatively easy for such individuals to instill anything, and it is easy to persuade them to any kind of behavior under the guise of personal or public benefit.
Value orientations affect the stable system of drives, desires, interests, inclinations, ideals and views, as well as a person's beliefs, worldview, self-esteem and character traits. Value orientations are formed on the basis of a person's entire life experience, but they are only partially realized. Their purposeful correction is possible as a result of serious training and entails a restructuring of the entire personality.
In society, human behavior does not unfold spontaneously, but within the framework of social roles. Roles are stable places in the system of relationships with other people (for example: student, teacher, wife, customer, etc.). Representations of the external manifestations of roles are based on socio-cultural norms, constraints and expectations. In other words, in accordance with social norms adopted in this culture, each person in any role receives certain rights, certain restrictions are imposed on him and is expected from him certain behavior. For example, a doctor in his office may ask a patient to talk openly about himself, undress, etc. In this case, he must wear white robe and behave correctly. He is expected to pay attention to the patient and a fairly high level of professional knowledge... The same person after work, entering the store, finds himself in the role of a buyer with completely different rights, restrictions and expectations.
A person may accept roles and meet expectations, or may not accept them - out of principle (adolescents), out of ignorance or because of character traits. Compliance with role expectations and the ability to accept the role of another form the basis of conflict-free and social adaptation person. The ability to take on a useful role and successfully resist the imposition of unnecessary roles are important social skills that can be developed during the training process.
Although the personality is something holistic, in different life situations its various features are manifested. A trait is a person's tendency to behave in a similar way in different circumstances. A personality trait is what determines constant, stable, typical characteristics of human behavior. For example, a shy person or with a leadership tendency will only be able to display these traits when in the company of other people, but will discover them whenever possible. A person is not a passive "carrier" of certain traits, he does not just react in a certain, inherent way to the situation, rather, on the contrary, the situations in which a person finds himself most often are, as a rule, the very situations in which he is actively seeks to get in (although, perhaps, does not realize it). For example, a sociable person seeks and finds communication, while a risk-taking person finds himself in "unexpected" adventures. Personality traits "line up" the actions of the individual.
Each personality trait is only relatively independent from the others. There is no sharp line separating one line from another. The same person may have conflicting traits that appear in different situations... For example, a person can be kind, gentle and tactful with loved ones, but tough and rude with other people.
In a person's behavior, in his relations with others, certain, most essential and stable features of his personality always come to the fore. These most pronounced, closely interconnected personality traits are called character. The character is clearly manifested in different types activity, is determined and formed throughout a person's life.
The character of an adult is very stable. It is difficult to change it significantly through training. But a person can be taught, firstly, to realize the traits of his character, and secondly, to analyze the situation and to show or restrain his certain features, that is, to make his behavior more adaptive.
The severity of certain personality traits in a person is manifested not only in everyday communication, but also in professional activity. The presence of a person professionally important qualities to a large extent determine his success and satisfaction with his profession.
In order to understand the character of a person in everyday life, and even more so the personality as a whole, you need to observe him for a very long time in different situations("Eat a pound of salt with him"). In order to significantly accelerate this process, various methods of personality research have been created. A personality can be described by measuring its individual traits, using a variety of sources of information: observations, conversations, analysis of diaries and letters, etc. But the most convenient (both from a technical and ethical point of view) is the method of psychological testing. A test is a set of questions or simple tasks(for example, draw a tree). The answers to the questions and the results of the tasks are processed according to strictly defined rules and give an idea of the severity of the person's personality traits to which the test is directed. Professional psychological tests(unlike some popular fakes) can provide a lot of useful information.
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This article is written specifically for those people who adore personal growth or who have just recently begun to take an interest in this exciting activity. The first half of the article was written for the second group of people. The second half of the article is for those who are very addicted personal development but never gets any visible results. We will figure out why this is happening and what is the matter, why there are no results?
What is personal growth?
Personal growth - this is self-development of the individual, but - this is regular work above oneself, development and improvement of new and existing qualities. Personal growth and self-development, or even, are synonymous. All of these terms mean the same thing. A person who is engaged in personal growth - tries to bring positive changes in yourself, to strengthen your inner core and increase your own potential.
Even if a person knows nothing about personal development, he still develops according to the law of development. Personal growth can be both conscious and unconscious. In most cases, a person develops based on events, requirements, location, environment and their own. Two people will be completely different if one is placed in one environment and the other in another. For example, the first will be sent to study at military school and the other to the observatory. Occupation and environment shapes the personality and makes him what he becomes. This is how the unconscious happens personal development, and I would even say forced.
Agree, if one person is engaged in fights without rules, and another is in ballet, then the level will be completely different. The former is accustomed to constant wrestling and waving fists, while the other is accustomed to tight-fitting pants and splits. One, in the course of his activity, brought up such and such character traits, the second completely different traits. Hence the conclusion - the type of activity forms the personality.
And, of course, the environment has a significant impact on a person. If a person grew up among poor people, then a philosophy of poverty is formed in him. If the other person grew up in a wealthy environment, his philosophy corresponds to the environment given to him - the philosophy of wealth. In the first person, personal growth was reflected in the form of degradation, in the second, personal development in the form of development. So personal growth can be with the + sign and with the - sign.
Personal growth is conscious only when a person independently takes his life under his own control, and is engaged in the development of those skills and qualities that he lacks. This definition of personal growth is most suitable because it begins with the word "personally", by the person himself, and not by his environment and circumstances. Such people subsequently become winners. They themselves break out of their cells, into which they have been pushed by fate, environment and occupation, and begin to strive for their cells, where they will be who they want to become.
In our time, it is simply necessary to engage in conscious personal development. Otherwise, it will be unconscious. Perhaps you will develop the wrong skills and qualities that you would like to have. In order to avoid this, a person needs to understand what exactly he lacks to acquire the desired lifestyle, and then begin by any means to acquire those missing components.
Personal development
Those people who are engaged in personal growth sometimes face the following situation - NO RESULTS. In our 21st century personal development became a kind of business. On the Internet and in real life, now there are a lot of so-called coaches who, for a specific amount of money, are ready to help you solve a number of certain problems. And many people, after undergoing live trainings on personal growth, ask the following question: "Why am I not getting results?"... Well, it is clear that after completing the training a person is inspired, he exclaims to himself personally: "Now my life will definitely change!", but months pass, and everything remains as it was. Some people even come back to the same trainings and go through them again, but later nothing changes again. It's like watching a movie two hundred times and hoping for a miracle.
And then many people start to think that personal growth- this is a divorce, a scam and complete garbage. And what is personal growth for? Why do it? First of all, people who are engaged in personal development want. They are not satisfied with the current situation, and they go to coaches who supposedly will help them. Other people want through personal growth. I'm not about coaches who cash in on this, I'm about common people who believe that personal growth will help them. Personal development can help people achieve whatever they want. But statistics are always against people. For example, after completing trainings, no matter what topic, only 2-5% receive real results... All the rest are left with nothing.
One day a friend of mine received a letter from a woman:
“I spent all my youth on personal growth. Now I am 51 years old and I am still a beggar. And now I am interested in one question - ".
So what is the conclusion that suggests itself? It is clear that personal growth will not help you. In order to become rich, you need to learn how to make money from rich people.
The problem of people after undergoing personal development trainings is that they first light up, that is, people begin to act and act a lot, and then go out after not seeing visible results. Then a person comes to another training for another person and everything is repeated again.
To avoid this, you need to find practice. A true practitioner always has something to show and tell. The practitioner will bring you the results you want. You will not learn to drive from Vovochka, who only recently got off a four-wheeled bicycle? Find yourself a mentor in the area in which you want to excel and in which he personally excelled. Then the question: "Why do I have no results ???" will not.
Well!!! In this article, I told you what is personal growth or personal development, why is it needed, why there are no results after passing trainings on personal growth and what needs to be done to prevent this from happening. I wish you success in everything - my dear readers.
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