Introspection of character. Is introspection necessary? Introspection in different situations

Your possibilities, man! Pekelis Victor Davydovich

DO I NEED A SELF-ANALYSIS?

DO I NEED A SELF-ANALYSIS?

Self-distrustthe reason for most of our failures.

K. BOWIE

A person needs to look at his life with an attentive glance from time to time. Without this, there can be no true growth of the human personality. Leo Tolstoy once said about himself: "The most serious work of thought is constantly going on: is this how I live, check myself ..."

It is never too late to check yourself, and it is always useful. A person never discovers in himself so many shortcomings as with introspection, and this, with a reasonable approach, adds strength to him. True, humorists say that never a person has revealed so many weaknesses in himself as since the time when he discovered so many strengths.

It seems that the reader understands: this chapter will focus on the importance of a person to know what part of the recommendations, what rules, how many skills he should get for self-improvement. To do this, first of all, you need to know yourself well, for this you should subject yourself to careful introspection, detailed study. From here, in fact, self-education, self-development, self-improvement begins.

But then the question naturally arises, why is such an important chapter, with which everything should begin, not at the beginning of the book, but somewhere in the middle?

I answer: you cannot start introspection, so to speak, out of the blue, without knowing the range of problems for which introspection is being conducted. Figuratively speaking, so far we have been climbing the mountain all the time, so that we can look around from its top, and then we ourselves were able to go down to the foot and start a new climb without help. But the rise is already independent - now with the knowledge of where and what obstacles await us, and perhaps even insurmountable obstacles.

One of the greatest reserves of personality is hidden in introspection. It cannot be obtained by any other means. Unfortunately, until recently, the search was entirely in the realm of intuition. Only in the most recent times the problem began to be investigated by the methods of modern experimental science.

Psychologists consider the emotional assessment of one's "I" one of the most important traits of a human character.

Introspection is needed not at all in order to please yourself, but in order to more fully devote yourself to your favorite work, realizing its meaning and significance for home country, for our people, for the future that we are building. This future is the most perfect order on Earth. That is why introspection should be optimistic and imbued with human interests. That is why, for a Soviet person, a conversation alone with oneself must be infinitely far from petty self-examination: one must be, as they say, not only alone, but also in the world.

Thorough introspection to correct mistakes and learn from experience is not easy. All the more so in our ever more complex age. From the point of view of "game theory" our life is by no means a blitz tournament. We must be able to intelligently, objectively think over each new life situation in order to make the best - from the point of view of the benefit of society and our interests - "moves". Here you need the utmost sincerity with yourself, self-control of every movement of the soul, an analysis of various motives and reasons that made you make this or that decision. It is extraordinarily difficult and extraordinary important work... It requires desire, will and continuous training. But it also leads to outstanding results.

It would seem, at first glance, that personality is something “in me”, “for me”. But no, the personality is really - "in me", but for others. That is why all personality traits are so important not only for one - oneself - but also for others: kindness, responsiveness, adherence to principles, rudeness, suspicion and all the other 1500 (yes, one thousand five hundred!) Personality traits recorded in Russian. language.

Since we are talking about personality - "in me" - for others, then, naturally, analyzing ourselves, we must constantly compare our "I" with what you see in others.

Man does not live in a vacuum. It takes into account the assessments of those people with whom it contacts, from whom it draws interests, on which it focuses.

Human communication always presupposes feedback, a subtle consideration of the diverse impulses emanating from others. These "others" are a kind of group, in social psychology called a reference group. Each of us has a group that we reckon with. She - this group - to some, and sometimes to a large extent, shapes our positions in relation to life situations, and more generally, our ideal.

The work of Soviet psychologists under the guidance of an academician of the Academy pedagogical sciences USSR A. Petrovsky found that a person in the process of communication constantly verifies himself with a certain standard and, depending on the results of verification, turns out to be satisfied with himself or dissatisfied.

A long list of ethical concepts is taken, from which the most common and important of the 1500 that have been mentioned are selected and ranked in order. For example, pride, modesty, caring, accuracy, perseverance, etc. From these concepts you construct your standard - the ideal: a list in a certain order of certain qualities. Of course, the most valuable qualities come first.

Then a "construction" is also created from ethical and other (for example, volitional or professional) qualities that we find in ourselves. This is a subjective "construction". They are compared according to a special formula and the corresponding coefficient is obtained.

If, as a result of self-examination, the “standard”, ideal assessments and “subjective”, real ones coincide, then the person is completely satisfied with himself, his moral character, his will, his ability to work, etc. In other words, in such a situation, the ideal and the real are one and the same, subjective assessment is the ideal. A rare phenomenon, but acceptable: self-esteem is +1.

It can also be the other way around: self-esteem is equal to - 1. Then the "standard" and "subjective" list of personality traits are in a mutually inverse relationship. This is the lowest mark - this, by the way, does not happen. Average data are between these estimates.

Psychologists say that a person has a kind of "inner pressure gauge", with the help of which everyone estimates themselves quite accurately. (Note in parentheses that not everyone has the courage to express their self-esteem results.)

Excessively high self-esteem leads to an overestimation of oneself, and, consequently, to a skeptical attitude towards this person of the reference group - "he thinks too high of himself!"

Excessively low self-esteem indicates the development of an "inferiority complex", self-doubt.

For the assessment of personality, the so-called "expected assessment" is also important - what the reference group thinks of you, how it evaluates you; simply: "what kind of eyes do they say about you?" The expected estimate is found out in the same way.

And the last factor: how do you yourself assess the reference group, how do you value it high or low?

Conclusions of psychologists.

Three indicators: self-esteem, expected assessment, assessment by the personality of the group - they are necessarily included in the structure of the personality, and whether a person wants it or not, he is objectively forced to reckon with these subjective indicators of his well-being in the group, the success or failure of his behavior, position in relation to to yourself and others.

Having determined the correct attitude towards oneself and the correct attitude towards others, a person thereby achieves the so-called psychological comfort, will most definitely choose his place in society.

Remember, didn’t it happen to us, entangled in a complex analysis of our feelings and the surrounding situation, mentally give up everything and rely on a simple and ancient principle: “The heart will tell, intuition will take out”. And then regret the thoughtlessness of their actions. The art of true introspection is not an easy affair. But, having mastered it, we will acquire a powerful weapon. And first of all - to penetrate into the treasury of their internal resources, their capabilities.

It is now quite natural to answer the question: how to control character formation?

First, it is pertinent to remember that character consists in the ability to act according to principles.

Secondly, it is necessary, as Nikolai Ostrovsky said, “to summon oneself to our own harsh, impartial court. It should be clear and precise, not sparing my pride ... to find out my shortcomings, vices and ... decide once and for all whether I will put up with them or not. "

Only a courageous person can do this. Hence, one must have the courage to ask strictly from oneself. And not only to ask, but also to answer truthfully.

Therefore, you need to be fair in everything: in thoughts, actions, deeds.

It is necessary to abandon egoism - selfishness. You need to be guided in your actions by the rule: what can you give to people, how to do so that you do not cause people not only harm, but also trouble.

We must learn to break bad habits, break with the help simple reception: since this is bad, we must act according to the principle - "I will do the opposite!" And then, having entered the road of "self-awareness", every day should be for you a day of victory over yourself.

In working on ourselves, in the difficult matter of self-improvement, see if we always manage to maintain harmony between our beliefs, views, judgments, on the one hand, and actions, everyday actions, on the other. By the way, even Pascal said that the moral qualities of a person should be judged not by his individual efforts, but by his Everyday life.

The process of observing harmony in life is nothing more than self-correction. We spend it all our lives. She goes in parallel with self-education and self-improvement. Each person needs to know what is in his power to strengthen in himself, what to suppress. As a result, we master the so-called psychological defense - the ability to rebuild, so that with least cost nervous energy get the most effective forms adaptation to specific life situations.

This position is fundamentally different from the passive contemplation of a fast-flowing life, your role in it.

Interesting experience outstanding people... Many of them kept a very detailed diary for many years. (It is a diary that can become one of the most important forms of introspection.) By fixing and analyzing every stroke of your life, your inner state, your attitude to life situations, you can acquire tremendous power over yourself.

Nowadays it is fashionable to apply cybernetic methods everywhere, in particular modeling. Try to learn to “model” your behavior for the coming day in detail. In the morning, imagine the events that may happen to you; even if something unpleasant is ahead of you, do not evade, do not play hide and seek with yourself, but try to find the most worthy solutions, choose a noble line of behavior.

Of course, reality does not always coincide with the plan. But if you prepare yourself for the upcoming life situation in this way, you will not be caught unawares, but you will be able to decide rather complex problems rationally, not being guided only by the released emotions, which often give not the best advice.

Responding to a letter from Olga Knipper-Chekhova, AP Chekhov wrote: “You write that you envy my character. I must tell you that by nature I have a harsh character, I am quick-tempered and so on. and so on, but I am used to holding myself, for it is not proper for a decent person to dissolve myself. "

How to cultivate self-restraint - one of the elements of the ability to dominate oneself?

It should be noted that the ability not to show character, not to obey him is also a sign of character, a sign of the ability to control oneself, although they say that you cannot hide character in your pocket.

Here are some tips.

If you are hot-tempered, try to play the role of a balanced person at any time every day. At the same time, it is necessary to force yourself to calmly react to the unpleasant, not only externally, but also internally.

Some people will find this advice unpleasant. It turns out that you have to play like an actor on stage? But Plato also said: "Oh, how pleasant a person can be when he knows how to be himself."

It is true that playing the good man is associated with hypocrisy. But we must remember about the amazing laws of our psyche. With such a “game”, “feedback” is triggered, and the person involuntarily transforms into the one whose role he “played”. With prolonged training, the make-up of the soul is fixed, and the character changes.

Ultimately, the effect of self-hypnosis is triggered, a kind of self-regulation of well-being occurs. But, of course, it is necessary to apply the method with complete sincerity and conviction of its effectiveness.

Original and, I must say, useful practical use the method of "playing" in a good person was recently found by foreign psychologists working in the field of trade.

Having established that salesperson friendliness significantly affects the efficiency of the sale of goods, they advised the owners of large stores to charge sellers with the obligation to work with a smile. Special announcements were posted in all departments: "Smile!" - "Smile!"

It would seem that the reception, at best, will lead to the fact that sellers will have learned, artificial smiles on their faces. However, something unexpected happened at first glance. The survey showed that the sellers unanimously asserted that, even in spite of the bad mood in the morning, within an hour after the start of work and after they “put on” a smile on duty, they had a good, welcoming mood.

Mystic? No, the effect worked feedback... A bad mood usually causes a frown. And a smile, on the contrary, improves your mood. In the section "Bad mood - no!" it has already been said that a smile is a balm for the soul and that laughter is called "jogging on the spot." Indeed, 3 minutes of healthy laughter replaces 15 minutes of morning exercises.

Yes, self-regulation of well-being is possible. Don't believe me? Try it yourself. And you will see that even the finest mechanisms of our psyche lend themselves to self-control. By the way, the experience of the theater also speaks of this: on days that are completely unhappy for them, actors can go on stage in comic roles.

So, every person who is going to put their own creative possibilities for the good of society, is obliged to carefully study himself, to know his weak and strengths in order to correct and “improve” your “I” with maximum efficiency. And this "I" is great and diverse.

“Each person is a whole world that is born with him and dies with him. Under each tombstone lies a world history, ”wrote Goethe.

Modern science provides a person for introspection with a whole arsenal of methods and means. But the man himself must use them, for no one - neither a doctor, nor a psychologist, nor any other "engineer of human souls" is able to penetrate into the most secret corners of our "I", for many years, day after day, observe and study this " I am".

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Steps

How to analyze your self-esteem

    Remember your childhood. It is not always easy to understand your essence and your motives. Many motives of behavior and characteristics of self-perception are the result of subconscious motives and principles. To understand exactly how you perceive yourself, it is worth digging deeper. Ask yourself the following questions:

    • Did they listen to me as a child or criticize me all the time?
    • Was I treated respectfully or was I ignored, criticized, teased?
    • Have I received the attention and love I need, or have I been neglected?
    • Have I experienced physical, verbal or sexual abuse?
    • Did the people around me recognize my accomplishments?
    • Did the people around me calmly perceive my mistakes or did they scold me for them?
    • Did the people around me expect me to be perfect?
  1. Watch your mood. Keep a journal throughout the day. When you feel that your mood has changed, write about your feelings. This is the first step to understanding what your inner voice is trying to tell you.

    Write down what you think about. The thought that arises before the change in mood is a reflection of the inner voice. Such thoughts are called automatic. They describe how you perceive yourself, others, and the world... Write these thoughts down throughout the day and pay attention to any patterns.

    • Automatic thoughts are formed in the subconscious, so it is often very difficult to formulate them. Think about what made you feel the way you feel. Then ask yourself more difficult questions: "What does this say about me?", "Why did I have this feeling?"
    • The first few answers will be superficial. Keep asking yourself "what else?" until you can see deeper automatic thoughts.
    • For example, if a colleague said something that made you angry, you can document the situation like this: "Masha said that I did it wrong. It made me angry. She tried to make me incompetent." If after that several times ask yourself the question "what else?", You will probably come to a thought that did not occur to you before: "Perhaps I can handle this task worse than others."
  2. Analyze patterns in your thoughts. When you capture a few automatic thoughts, you’ll probably find a pattern in them. Consider the underlying cause of these thoughts. Are these thoughts helpful, or are they negative and destructive to you? Often, negative thoughts lead to the following patterns:

    • All or nothing. A person believes that one mistake means complete defeat. For example, if you make one mistake at work, you may decide that you are not capable of doing your job.
    • Refusal to see the positive. The person refuses to see or forgets about the good and focuses only on the bad. For example, a person can get stuck on one mistake in the test, although he gave the correct answer to all the other questions.
    • Quickly conclusions. A person draws conclusions without knowing all the facts. For example, you notice that your friend in the parking lot turned around and ran the other way. You may decide that he does not want to meet with you, although in fact he was late for the meeting and did not see you.
    • Hanging labels. A person summarizes information without trying to understand the situation. For example, a person thinks to himself "I bad person"instead of telling himself that he could have acted differently in this situation.
  3. Consider if your self-esteem is healthy. A person with healthy self-esteem believes they have weight in society and dignity. A person with low self-esteem is insecure and constantly seeks approval and recognition from others. If you have negative thoughts all the time, you may have low self-esteem. Low self-esteem negatively affects the perception of oneself, therefore it is extremely important to carry out conscious work on the attitude towards oneself. If you are not sure if your self-esteem can be considered low, consider whether you are familiar with the three “faces” of low self-esteem:

    • Victim. The person feels helpless and expects someone to help him. He hides the fear of failure under pity or indifference to himself. A person is not confident in himself, does not show all his talents, and his self-esteem is highly dependent on the opinions of others.
    • Impostor. A person behaves as if he is happy and all is well with him, when in fact he is afraid of failure. Such a person always needs to be successful in order to feel happy, which often leads to perfectionism, the desire to excel and burnout.
    • Rebel. The person tries to belittle others, especially those who are authority. He gets angry that he is not good enough and tries to do his best not to be hurt by criticism of others. This can lead to shifting responsibility for their problems onto others or a desire to confront people who have any kind of power.

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Today I came across one of the available options for introspection. Not accidentally stumbled upon. Accidents do not happen, especially since not long ago Mikhail Anatolyevich Tsvetkov advised to engage in introspection at his seminar on business. At first glance, this method is quite simple and straightforward. Of course, taking introspection as a universal key to knowing yourself is not worth it. This method has its limitations and disadvantages. But the method is quite capable of helping those who want to dig deeper and see themselves and their hidden subconscious insides in a different light.

In the next posts I plan to answer the questions presented here in parts, but be honest with myself first of all.

In this version, it is proposed to stock up on a thick notebook, a pair of pens that write well, some time daily or weekly, which you can devote to your own introspection. And, of course, a fair amount of interest and enthusiasm that you are willing to put into this fun process. By an unspoken agreement, a thick notebook and other pile of junk will be replaced by my LJ. So let's go!

Where to begin?

Each of you will have your own, unique and unrepeatable experience that you will gain as a result of this lesson. This business is not just fascinating - it is addictive. This does not mean that you only need to self-analyze and engage in, and with every free time that appears, go into it with your head, but you need to approach this seriously, responsibly and be ready to spend your free time... This can be very interesting, but it doesn't have to be. Therefore, your introspection may take you much less or more time.

To say that you will analyze yourself and understand everything is to say nothing. Much, much later, when your notes and notebooks are left aside, you will make discoveries and learn something new for yourself. Therefore, now, I cannot tell you, I cannot promise that you will analyze yourself once, you will understand everything and you will feel good. Nothing like that will happen. But something else, more important, might happen.

And this is important because you can look at hundreds of things and phenomena in a completely different way. Many of your actions can appear in a completely different light. Why and how does this happen? Why can our opinion of us change so much? The reason is actually very simple: when we do things, when our life changes, we evaluate it, we define it, we somehow relate to it. But we very rarely give such an assessment to the entire cycle of events, to all our steps taken. And when someone is late for a meeting, it does not seem like something special, with whom it does not happen, but when, analyzing yourself, you understand that you have a chronic reason for being late, and the same chronic system of making excuses, then you ask yourself a question: and why, actually?

After all, introspection is not, or not so much, to interpret an event in our life, but rather to look at the most significant cycles of events, the chain of our steps and orderly rows of rakes made over the years. An individual situation may not characterize you in any way, but a separate regularity inherent in a particular cycle, a regularity of any property is already some kind of diagnosis. Without a medical connotation, of course.

Since your life strategies are unique and inimitable, I can hardly say what you will get as a result, and what useful discoveries you can make if you analyze them. But you can take advantage of the advice in which directions it is best to focus all your attention. It's easy.

Notebook for introspection and writing in it

Any notebook will do, preferably one with more pages. The order of the entries is completely arbitrary. If it is more convenient for someone to arrange it, somehow decorate it with different pastes and emphasize important words and phrases, then there is no problem. As you like best. But here's a request: do not try to be clever, perpetuate your words, polish phrases or reflect on the beauty of statements for a long time. In our business, the main thing is spontaneity, ease and arbitrariness. Do not be lazy to write notes on scraps of paper if the notebook is not at hand, but you remember something important. Then you can either rewrite or put these notes in a notebook. I just put it in, and, as a result, the notebook did not resemble a diary in any way, but more like a piggy bank of all sorts of pieces of paper and notes. However, sometimes I went through all these little notes, grouped and rewrote some of them together, if they were united by some common meaning. In general, there are no categoricalities and rigors. To your taste and color.

Friends and pals.

Throughout our lives, we make friends. Some of them stay with you for the rest of your life, with some we part for various reasons. It seems that we all remember them well, there is no point in arguing. However, it is extremely valuable and useful to rewrite them all on paper. Try to give short portrait for each of them. Try to highlight something special that is common to all of your friends. This way you will be able to find some traits and qualities that predetermine your liking. As you remember and study your friends, there are several very important parameters that should be remembered and recorded. Attention here! As a rule, people who write diaries try to present reality in such a light that all villains, and they are good. This happens mostly unconsciously, and it happens because any diary always contains the secret feeling of its author that someone else will one day read this diary. But since you are engaged in introspection, and not writing a diary for future generations, try to be frank and explain events in the way they deserve, and not in a way where you will look decent and noble. It makes sense to remember and describe (or mark, or draw, but on paper it should appear in one form or another) the following things.

First. If those people whom you used to call friends, and now you can do this only in the past tense, have ceased to be such, then why did this happen? Who acted as the explicit or implicit initiator of the breakup? In what cases have you lost interest in this friendship, and in what cases has interest been lost in you? Separately, it is worth highlighting the cases when friendship, for some reason, turned into hostility, into irreconcilable hatred. What happened? Do these situations have something in common that is characteristic of all of them.

Second. Try to identify and write down the fundamental difference between a friend and a friend, between a friend and a good acquaintance. Find the shades of gradation in your relationship that exist for you and try to define each of them, as well as highlight the most characteristic differences between these concepts. When will you never call a buddy a friend? When will you never call a friend a buddy? What is the most important thing for you to be able to call a person a friend and your relationship - friendship, friendly?

Third. The lifespan of the relationship. How durable are they? How long are you able to maintain and develop friendships? Does your friendship have a critical deadline?

Fourth. Have you found yourself in a situation where two of your close friends begin to fiercely quarrel with each other? What are your actions in a similar situation? What are the results? Can you say that you are satisfied with your strategy? If not, how can you improve it, already knowing from your own experience that it is ineffective? Have you yourself found yourself in a situation where you had to be at enmity, and at the same time there was someone else who remained neutral and maintained relations - both with you and with the hostile side? What will you do, already having experience in a similar situation, if it happens again with other people close to you now? What lesson have you learned from these situations?

Who would you call the antithesis of a friend? What qualities doom a person to the hopelessness of trying to become your friend? What do you never accept and under any sauce? It is very useful here not so much to give abstract examples as to remember real people and real cases from your life.

What traits and qualities in you most often spoil relationships with other people? Which one is the most common? What do your friends most often reproach you for? When did you compromise, and when did you not lift a finger to change the situation? And how is the first different from the other?

Love and marriage Each of you has a very different background of experience at this testing ground, and therefore it is very difficult to offer universal templates for analysis. Nevertheless, I will try to do this, and you can use only those that clearly suit you, or add some of your own, which are not listed here. In general, the list of possible aspects is easily and easily scalable, expanded and refined, and you can supplement and modify it.

First. Remember and write down all the people throughout your life for whom you have experienced love feelings to whom you were drawn, whom you dreamed of as a potential partner, with whom you had a real connection, regardless of its duration. Try to remember everyone who was interesting to you, who attracted you, with whom you were in love, for whom you had strong emotional and sexual feelings.

Second. Remember and write down all the people who had an increased interest in you, and you knew about it. Perhaps someone was seeking your love and appreciation? Did you insist on spending time? Here, identify all those whose claims did not arouse your response and interest. Briefly describe each of these cases. Remember how you make it clear to a person that his interest will not be justified? What is the reason for your refusal in each specific case? Do all these cases have something in common? Here you can also record such cases when the opposite side began to behave atypically: threats, persecution, change of mercy to hostility, revenge, and so on. Clarify all these cases and try to determine where your mistake is and how you can get out of similar situations with least losses- both for you and for other people.

Third. Sex appeal. Highlight the most important features your partner's sex appeal, regardless of specific examples. There is nothing to be ashamed of, anyway, except for you, no one will read or see it. Write down the most important qualities and arrange them in order of importance. And only then try this list on your partners, how much it matches in each specific case. Is there some regularity that the duration of a relationship, for example, may be directly dependent on the completeness of this list?

Fourth. Write down the reasons for the breakup and destruction of your love relationship. What are these reasons, do they have something in common? In what cases did you not begin to break off relations completely, but transferred them to another channel, for example, into friendship or into the category of good acquaintances? When have you come to hate and avoid your partner? When did he do the same? Who most often turned out to be the initiator of divorce and separation? Who often proposes to transfer relations to friendships? Who is on the warpath more often? Which useful experience what lessons did you learn, what will you do next time if the situation repeats itself?

Fifth. Attitude towards children. How many children will you have? Why exactly this number? Is the name of the child important? What associations do you have with this name, if any? Is the gender of the child important? What role do you want to play in parenting? How do you feel about corporal punishment and why? Is there a parallel between your answer and the way your parents treated you as a child?

Sixth. Mark somewhere three of your strongest feelings when you, so to speak, lost your head from wanting to be around these people. What do these people have in common? Be extremely careful. Body constitution, eye color, voice, height, mannerisms, personality traits, gestures, hair color, and so on. What can you add to this list to each of these people that would make them even more beautiful? What will destroy their image and all their attractiveness, if you remove an element from the list. You can try to carefully remove this or that trait, quality from your imagination, and at the same time listen carefully to your own feelings. Write down any ideas.

Profession and work

Think about what professions you dreamed of as you grew up. How long is the list of these professions? Why did you dream about it in each specific case, what led you to this thought, to this dream? What is the reason for the fact that over time it has lost its relevance.

The influence of parents, relatives on your professional choice... Did they have specific theories about who you should be and what to strive for? Are you making choices under someone else's influence, or your own? Has any pressure been put on you? Have you been threatened and blackmailed by someone else? Were your interests and attempts to realize yourself the way you want it to be suppressed?

Place of work. Write down all the jobs you have worked on. Write privately, in any order, without excluding anything. If the list ends up being large, then you can re-sort it in a convenient order. What brought you to this job? Comment on each one. What did you like most about this job? What are some of the most useful things you learned in this job? What was the reason you left this job. In each case, highlight the most important, central one. Isn't there any regularity, something in common, any property in the list of your reasons? Are you being chronically cut? Or do you get disappointed with this job after a while? Perhaps there are some outside reasons that have nothing to do with work as an obstacle all the time? Re-sort the list of abandoned jobs for reasons, combine the most frequent ones. What conclusion can you draw? What adjustments can you make in your future career, given the information you received?

Relations with colleagues and superiors. Make a list of all the most conflicting cases in your entire professional career. Quarrels, betrayal, intrigue, pressure from someone, demotion, demotion wages, deception, and so on. Highlight the most common situations that are repeated. What conclusion can you draw in this situation, having received such a "track record"? Are there any opportunities to improve this situation, to prevent the repetition of such situations?

Especially highlight the relationship with the boss. Make up brief description on all of them, what is the reason for the conflict or strained relations with them in each specific case? Remember and describe the cases of "good" bosses, if any. What steps have you taken to, if possible, smooth out or nullify conflicts and mutual grievances?

Are you a magical person? If you worked in small teams, how did the life of this team develop and the position of the firm (organization) itself during the entire period of your stay in it? If possible, highlight all cases when during your work the company either strengthened its position, or, on the contrary, its position deteriorated. Write it all down, compare the results. Can any conclusions be drawn from this?

Personal qualities and characteristics

Remember all your brightest successes, the most best achievements... Write them down and define the reason that, in your opinion, was the reason for this success. What is your merit in each of these cases? What qualities played the first violin in these events. You can write out without reference, without reference to a particular area. Brilliant speech, excellent dissertation defense, sporting achievement, any result in one area or another that you admire, are happy with, and which you are proud of, or which you were admired in the distant or recent past (even if emotions have now dulled, cooled down). Write out whatever comes to mind.

Describe your best qualities of any property. Include all your skills and abilities in it. Fantasize about how you can enhance this, how can you make these qualities even more effective and useful? Summarize your ideas.

List your biggest weaknesses. It is best if it has two columns. The first list is based on the theory of the people around you. The second is only according to your own theory. The lists can be the same, or very different: for me, for example, the list of shortcomings I highlighted included those that were not noticed by others (at one time there was a theory that one should be taller - who needs, why, it is not clear), and On the list of third-party shortcomings, there were some that I even considered to be advantages (for example, a dislike to talk about my problems). Think about whether you can shorten these lists? If the deficiency cannot be corrected, then how and how can it be compensated? If you are unable to give up something that other people think is a disadvantage, what compromise solutions could you offer them so that these disadvantages affect them to a lesser extent?

Remember and write down all of your interests throughout your life. What interested you at one time or another? Was it not such that you lost interest in this or that matter, and after a while again returned to it? Try to clarify the time interval for each area of ​​your interests, your hobbies: it can be a hobby, sports, immersion in a particular scientific or applied topic, flower breeding, and so on. This can also include plans that you did not realize, but nurtured for some time.

Parents and upbringing

Remember and write down all the cases when the help and support of parents (relatives) was very valuable to you at that point in time. Make a list of thanks you can give your parents as an excuse. What useful and valuable they have done for you, in what their role is unconditional and unambiguous. Leave all grievances and misunderstandings for other pages of introspection. Only objectivity, only a statement of facts and recognition of the positive aspects.

Remember and write down the most insatiable grievances, the most violent claims to your parents. Try, in addition to writing, to express them in the form of a picture for each such situation. Detail what really hurts, what does not wash off over time and does not subside. Divide this list into one where your grievance was expressed and not expressed. Which cases are more? What do you think would have happened if this list had been reversed? Would it be better or worse? What will you do in the future: leave everything as it is, or will you try to somehow break this situation? Also write down the conclusions you drew from your unpleasant childhood experience which you will extend to your children?

How confident are you not to repeat these mistakes of your parents? Will you use the positive experiences that you recalled in the first part of your introspection? Come up with some global, universal advice that you have learned from your relationship with your parents, and that will go for the future of all other parents.

Were you punished as a child? Remember all the most severe punishments, if any? How will you be hard on your own children? Do you have your own opinion on this matter? Can this opinion be called a continuation of the line of upbringing that your parents adhered to in relation to you? Or is it, on the contrary, the antithesis of their approach?

Consider and write down the image of the ideal father and ideal mother. What should they be? Determine the true qualities of your parents, and compare the list of the ideal and the list of what actually happened. Compare perfect image of the opposite sex with a list of your hobbies, your most important qualities in the person you can love or love. What qualities are the same? Do you find in your love attachments something that is similar to your idea of ​​the ideal parent?

Matching elements

Often we unconsciously make a choice towards something that has some overvalued feature, some special property. These can be numerical matches, or color matches, or choosing a name, focusing on some external information that you choose as a guide to action, and so on.

Names. You can try to write down all the names of the people closest and most significant to you in your entire life. Isn't one name the most common name?

Numbers and critical dates. In the process of introspection, you can find numbers that have a tendency to repeat. For example, two years of marriage is the ceiling for you. Or you don’t have the habit of staying longer at any job for more than a block. Do not be lazy to remember the numbers of apartments and floors of your loved ones, your friends. Refine some numbers if they are especially stuck in memory. There may also be critical months (for example, in December everything is improving, or vice versa), typical recurrences of diseases, and so on.

Attitude towards animals. What animals did you (have), whom do you love and why, who do you dislike, and why? What role have animals played in your life? What valuable did your communication with them give

Color preferences. What colors do you like the most? What are your strongest memories? What color do you like the most? Hair color? Eye color? If you can remember, then list all your favorite and cute color choice... Are there any overlaps? Mentally paint them in a different color and listen to your own feelings. If something has changed, try to articulate it somehow.

Summarize

Here is a very rough list of the most important cycles in your life. It can be refined and supplemented, as necessary and due to the specifics of the content of your biography. The most important result that you can get is that your relationship with the world will become much more transparent, clearer, you will look at them in a completely different way, and many problems have disappeared forever. The attitude towards oneself can change dramatically: it may seem strange, but you will learn to understand and accept yourself not just by an order of magnitude, but many times better and more harmoniously. You will reconsider a lot of your past and you will simply laugh at some things: my God, and this happened to me, and how disturbing it was!

Ultimately, you are the person with whom you will have to live from birth to death. Therefore, it is foolish to resist the desire to learn everything about yourself. It's like buying a car without first checking its condition. And then, for the entire service life, never go through a technical inspection, hoping for a miracle or the opinion of others, who seem to know better how to drive this car and what its potential is.

To understand oneself is a natural desire for a person. Understanding yourself, the reasons for your thoughts and actions helps a person to better perceive others and to be in harmony with the outside world.

Professor

Introspection is what most people perceive as depressing self-reflection. Although in fact this is a process that allows you to comprehend who a person really is. Does it matter? Very much, because we know practically nothing about ourselves.

Once a professor was giving lectures to students and, entering the classroom, immediately asked the question: "Who am I?" The students didn't know what to say. The most daring of those present began to put forward assumptions: "professor", "scientist", "man", "man", etc. Some of the most ingenious ones insolently declared that the professor was nobody. When the options ran out, the professor explained that these are nothing more than the roles that he plays in society.

Each person has many roles: to be a parent, director, man (woman), etc. But this is not the person himself. If you begin to weed out these roles that you have to play on a daily basis, then it is likely that under them a person will turn out to be nobody. In order not to end up empty space with a specific role-playing set, you need to learn to ask yourself questions and find answers. The simple question "Who am I?", Which rarely ponders, is the essence of introspection. This is a process that helps a person understand who he really is.

Definition

Self-analysis is the analysis of one's own experiences, actions, thoughts and needs. A person from within knows the depths of his own psyche and his inner world. Introspection today is an integral part of psychotherapeutic and psychological work. Thanks to this process, it is possible to consider different kinds neuroses and psychological trauma.

Very often, human memory refuses to accept and reproduce the traumatic factors of the past. Here are just apathy, melancholy and general dissatisfaction with life begin to put pressure on a person from all sides. This is how the psyche reacts to an event with which the individual is unable to cope. As a result, the psyche is divided into two parts, one of which goes into a "frozen" state, and the other tries to survive. And all would be fine, but over time, psychosomatic disorders will begin to manifest themselves, and depression that suddenly appears out of nowhere will drive you into a dead end.

To return to a normal lifestyle, you need to work through old injuries and even completely harmless situations, after which unpleasant sensations could remain. This is where introspection comes first.

Applying introspection

Introspection is a procedure to help you understand cause and effect. life situations, evaluate your actions rationally and establish the normal functioning of the psyche. To get rid of the problems of the past, a person must learn self-knowledge, be able to objectively assess himself and his actions.

For a successful self-examination, you must adhere to some rules. First, do not force yourself, otherwise the process will turn into destructive self-digging and self-flagellation. Secondly, a person is obliged to express his true emotions, and not what he should feel based on traditions and social standards.

Tasks

Each person who decides to attend introspection classes has a number of specific tasks:

  1. Express yourself as fully and sincerely as possible.
  2. Try to understand the unconscious driving forces and how they affect life.
  3. Learn to change attitudes that violate relationships with yourself and the world around you.

Very often a person is faced with situations that force him to do what he does not want at a particular moment. For example, you can often come across an episode when a person succumbed to the persuasions of friends and goes to the movies with them, although in fact he wants to read a book at that particular moment. It is one thing if he promised to go to the cinema - his promises must be kept, even psychiatry gurus talk about this. And it is completely different when a person goes on about the desires of other people. In this case, he refuses himself, his feelings and desires, which can ultimately turn into another psychosomatic disorder.

Goals

During introspection, a feeling of resistance may arise that requires working through. At such times, it is important to understand that temporary deterioration is part of the process of self-discovery. During the disclosure of suppressed, traumatic situations, a person always feels anxiety.

The main goal of introspection is to reveal emotions, needs and feelings that were previously hidden from consciousness. Only when faced with the truth, a person can free himself and begin to act.

In everyday life, introspection is needed primarily for self-realization. He helps to make responsible decisions and defend their positions.

Activity

It is worth noting that this concept is inherent not only in the cognition of a person; very often you can find such a procedure as introspection of activity. That is, when a person evaluates not the inner world, but analyzes the results of his work.

Basically, teachers and educators have to analyze their work. Although it is much easier for many teachers to hold several open events than to write an introspection of a lesson on the federal state educational standard. But on the other hand, how can a teacher teach the basics of self-analysis to students, if he himself does not own this technology.

Introspection lesson. Views

In pedagogy, it is customary to distinguish several types of introspection of the lesson. Samples for writing them have a similar basic structure, the only difference is in the description of the main component of the entire lesson.

So, what are they - the main types of introspection:

  • Brief. The teacher gives the lesson a generalized assessment, describing the goals, objectives and results of the implementation.
  • Phased. Here you need to analyze each element of the lesson and their relationship with other stages of the lesson.
  • Structural and temporal. The teacher analyzes the amount of time spent on a specific stage of the lesson and rationalizes the use of the allotted time. He is trying to figure out if the check has not been prolonged. homework or not a little attention was paid to the practical application of the knowledge gained.
  • Combined. The teacher should assess the didactic goals of the lesson and its structural elements.
  • Didactic. This lesson introspection approach examines the methods and techniques used to achieve a didactic goal.
  • Aspect. Held detailed analysis every aspect of the lesson. That is, the use of training materials, testing of ZUN (knowledge, skills, abilities), etc.
  • Complete introspection. The teacher needs to conduct a didactic, aspect analysis, check the students' ZUN and evaluate the effectiveness of the lesson.
  • Psychological. An assessment is made of how much attention is paid to students and how individual work is progressing.
  • Complex. Consists of all the listed types introspection lesson.

Algorithms

It is not always necessary to analyze all aspects of a lesson. Much depends on the purpose for which the lesson was held: whether it was a festival, a lesson held within a week in a subject, or a lesson per category. Self-analysis can be drawn up based on simple algorithms of actions. For example, you can be guided by the following positions:

  • What is the pedagogical credo and how do lessons help you reflect it?
  • Explain the choice of lesson content and lesson technology.
  • What methods and techniques are used in the lesson, evaluate their effectiveness.
  • What happened and did not happen.
  • What could be changed during the lesson. Are these changes necessary and why?

Self-analysis of the lesson on the Federal State Educational Standard. Sample

Novice teachers often have difficulty when it comes to charting the introspection of a lesson and writing it. Therefore, it will not be superfluous to give a sample of introspection, or rather, a plan according to which it can be written:

  1. Outline the topic of the lesson.
  2. Give a brief description of the class. That is, indicate the total number of children, the number of strong and weak students, what psychological characteristics students were taken into account in the course of the lesson.
  3. Indicate the type of lesson according to the Federal State Educational Standard.
  4. Indicate the universal learning activities (ULE), planned for the lesson, and ways to form them.
  5. List the methods and forms chosen for each training step. Describe why the choice was made and what results were expected of it.
  6. To formulate main stage the lesson and how other parts of the lesson work for it.
  7. Analyze the rationality of the allocation of the allocated time.
  8. What visual, didactic materials were used during the lesson.
  9. Control the level of mastering ZUN (at what stage of the lesson was carried out and in what form).
  10. Assess the result of the lesson. Have the set goals been achieved? What is the reason for possible difficulties.

Benefit

Self-analysis of the lesson helps the teacher to look at the work from the outside, to evaluate the pros and cons of their teaching activities. This is a kind of reflection that helps to highlight unaccounted reserves, develop your own pedagogical style and form a professional credo.

Here everything happens in the same way as in psychology. Only now the teacher needs to ask not "Who am I?", But "What is the purpose of my actions?" Having defined with it, you can find effective ways to achieve it. Every person needs introspection in order to become better. Only after realizing his abilities, he will stop remaking others to fit his ideas and become truly free, successful and happy, which, in fact, will be reflected in his professional activities.

>>>> Introspection - what is it for?

Introspection - what is it for?

The ability of a person, in contrast to an animal, to turn his attention to himself, and not only to his environment, opened up wide opportunities for introspection.

Introspection or self-concept- this is the ability from the outside to monitor their actions, experiences, to concentrate attention on oneself in order to understand oneself, analyze one's actions, and give an account of one's intentions. Sometimes introspection replaces a good psychologist, because it is to yourself that you can open many secret places of your soul, and no one will give better advice you than yourself.

Most often, people engage in self-esteem unconsciously, due to the peculiarities of their thinking and sometimes stop noticing that surrounding reality changes while they deal with their inner problems. A person who is completely focused on himself can gradually fall out of society imperceptibly for himself. And, waking up from being absorbed in himself, a person can realize that a vacuum has formed around him - there is no family, friends, relatives and close people. Then what is introspection for?

The essence of introspection in not hurting yourself and stopping in time, drawing conclusions from your own behavior. Self-esteem is necessary when you intuitively understand that you could act differently: treat others differently, treat yourself differently, could stop the chaotic movement through life - to put it in order, could better understand others, because they communicate with you and they see in you what you may not even notice. Introspection helps to find points of contact not so much with yourself as with other people, because in the process of introspection, a true understanding of who you belong to your environment is born, and who the members of this environment belong to you.

In the process of introspection, you can:

  • reveal your own selfishness and begin to destroy it,
  • realize that you are no worse than others - and love yourself,
  • sort out your feelings for others and turn these feelings on the person who will appreciate your inner content,
  • choose a further path of movement through life and direct the energy of the soul and body in the right direction.

Introspection did not bother anyone yet. But deep introspection, digging into oneself for any reason, reproaches to oneself that here he could have acted differently, but here he should not have intervened at all, can constantly injure self-esteem and degenerate into a painful state, for example, depression.

In order not to get tired of introspection, it should not be delayed too much. But it’s not worth giving up on it either - it’s the tool that will help you get out of difficult experiences in difficult times and find a fulcrum in life.