A person with reduced social responsibility. Why girls become prostitutes

Slatshaming is not the most familiar word for the Russian language. This is not surprising, because it is a direct copy of English. Slatshaming is judging girls for looks and behavior that is considered too “free”. The framework of what is permissible and excessive, of course, is not established in any way and is determined only by those who are the subject of condemnation.

How slatshaming manifests itself

Many of you may be thinking, "It's enough not to sleep with everyone and no one will consider you a girl of easy virtue." And this is where the first problem of slut shaming lies: it is rarely based on objective facts. Who among us has not come across the incredibly valuable and necessary opinion of other people that the skirt could be longer and the neckline smaller? And the makeup might not be so bright, and red lipstick is generally the first sign of a prostitute. In addition, everything is not limited to physical criteria: just a popular girl or in general the one who refused sex can become a "whore" (yes, there is little logic in this phenomenon at all).
No one cares that, on the one hand, a stereotype of compulsory sexuality is imposed on girls, and on the other hand, they are condemned for the same sexuality. Moreover, even if someone practices sex without obligation and is happy with it, one can only rejoice for such a person, because, subject to the mutual consent of the partners, this does not harm anyone. But for some reason only men remain the winner - for them it is considered a sign of masculinity. But a girl who treats her sexuality "like a man" will sooner or later receive an offensive stigma.
It is these double standards that shape the very culture of slut shaming. In a patriarchal society, it is men who are given the opportunity to determine the framework and norms for female sexuality, and as soon as someone goes beyond these boundaries, they immediately try to drive her back, using public condemnation as an instrument of punishment. Companions in gender often join this: unconsciously submitting to the restrictions on the part of society, they demand the same from all girls, regardless of their personal desire.

How slut shaming hurts each of us and why we need to fight it

Now you may be thinking, "You just need to ignore what others are saying." In part, this is true - as long as there is such an opportunity.

Slatshaming has been around women from a very young age. Girls who are simply interested in their mother's cosmetic bag are forbidden to paint - because this way they will look like a "whore". Older girls prefer not the clothes that they really like, but those dictated by society - and continue to live day after day in an uncomfortable way for them, which affects self-esteem.
The situation does not end with psychological pressure. It is not uncommon for women to be denied jobs or simply given respect based solely on how they look. By the way, for this you don't even need revealing clothes: the opinion “she is beautiful, then dumb” is also a manifestation of slut shaming.
One of the most serious and traumatic consequences of this attitude is victim blaming or “blaming the victim”. It is most often encountered by victims of rape or harassment: in Russia, police often consider it perfectly normal to ask what the victim was wearing and what kind of life she leads. While the attacker can be the only culprit, some of the blame is shifted to the victim. Neither clothing, nor makeup, nor the number of sexual partners can be considered an excuse for rape.

How to live with it

First, stop judging other girls. It is difficult and challenging, but still possible. Two thoughts that would be worth teaching in elementary school help a lot with this.

You never know what motivates another person.
No one is required to follow the moral code that you set for yourself.
Admit it: Judgment is rarely about real concern for the other person. More often it is caused by misunderstanding or envy: "why she can, but I can not." Liberation from the idea that everyone should comply with the same norms and standards not only frees up a lot of time and nerves, but also provides an opportunity for research and understanding of one's own desires and aspirations.

Information about new technologies in the pimp business. In addition, it has been found out where sex services are cheaper than in Moscow, and in which countries is it better to limit yourself to sex for love?

In Russia, prostitution is banned, but this does not prevent the representatives of the ancient profession from earning money with their craft. Life's correspondents have studied the secret distribution channels of elite prostitutes selling "love" to Arab sheikhs, high-ranking officials and billionaires from the Forbes list.

Life compared the prices of "Telegram" prostitutes and prostitutes in different countries.

Thailand - 600 rubles for one orgasm

Thailand is a haven for sexually liberated people. The price is negotiated here in different ways: some in the beginning, in order to convince to go with you, others prefer to talk about money after sex. On average, you will have to pay 300 baht (about 600 rubles), per night the girl will ask for 500 baht (about 1,000 rubles). In some areas, sex services cost an average of 1000-3000 baht (1900 - 5800 thousand rubles).

Germany - 2.3 thousand rubles in the car

Since 2002, prostitution in Germany has been completely legal, and its annual turnover is about € 15 million. And this is not surprising: the price for sex in a hotel is about € 50 (about 3.9 thousand rubles), in a car it will cost less - € 30 ( about 2.3 thousand rubles). Moreover, for half an hour in the client's apartment, you will have to pay € 100 (about 7.7 thousand rubles).

Netherlands - 3.9 thousand rubles in 15 minutes

The heart of Amsterdam tourism is the red light district, where advertising agencies, start-up offices and local radio stations stand near windows with prostitutes. Since prostitution in Holland is officially allowed, the representatives of the oldest profession pay taxes. Therefore, the cost of their services is € 50 euros (about 3.9 thousand rubles) for 15 minutes, trance will cost only € 30 (about 2.3 thousand rubles).

Belarus - 7.7 thousand rubles per hour

Despite the general level of low prices in the country, the cost of sex services can compete with Europe. For example, an hour with a girl can cost at least $ 100 (about 7.7 thousand rubles). For the night, most butterflies ask for $ 500 (about 38.7 thousand rubles).

USA - 27 thousand rubles per hour

In New York, prostitution is illegal, but no one forbids visiting nightclubs, meeting and communicating with girls. The problem is that in the club you can run into not a representative of an ancient profession, but an experienced police officer, disguised as a confused woman. Nevertheless, the price of risk in the country is $ 400 (about 27 thousand rubles) per hour.

Great Britain - 6 thousand rubles in 30 minutes

Prostitution in the UK is legal, and moths even have their own trade unions. As a result, the telephone booths became the bulletin board of prostitutes. On average, an hour with a girl costs £ 100 (about 9.9 thousand rubles), there is also an offer for half an hour, which will cost £ 60 (about 6 thousand rubles), for the whole night - £ 750 (about 74.2 thousand rubles). rubles).

France - 11.6 thousand rubles per hour

Organized prostitution is strictly prohibited in France, but street prostitution is quite legal: cute French "moths" can get a patent for their activities. The cost of such ladies is € 150 (about 11.6 thousand rubles), but in return they should be extremely invisible to the police.

Italy - 5.5 thousand rubles per hour

In Italy, prostitutes are obliged to wear reflective uniforms, which greatly simplifies the search for easily accessible girls. In addition, the price of moths starts at € 200 (about 15.5 thousand rubles) per hour and ends at € 4.5 thousand (about 348.6 thousand rubles) in three days.

The recent press conference of Vladimir Putin was remembered with a new catch phrase. Commenting on rumors about Donald Trump's meetings with prostitutes in a Moscow hotel, the Russian president named the moths. Several female workers of the oldest profession from the Urals told Life what they thought about such a wording.

Lisa, 34 years old

The main thing is that the president did not offend us. It's good that there is support. It's good that it doesn't spread rot on us. But I do not agree with these words. We are people with increased social responsibility. Our profession is more psychological than immoral. We constantly save people from depression. I’ll even think about changing the name in the profile from “prostitute” to “girl of increased social responsibility”. But again, I am afraid of those who are against the president, I am afraid of the opposition, so I still think. I do not want to attract the attention of the authorities. If the president starts real actions in support of our profession, then I will do actions in support of him.

Milan, 24 years old

We are like the orderlies of the forest. We save society from pedophiles - they come to us, and not to rape the people. But in some ways he is right. Everyone thinks only of himself. Recently, they collected money for an orphanage, however, everyone refused us, and we helped with the art therapy for children - it was interesting. We help like everyone else. But what the fuck is our responsibility? And why does he generalize? This generalization is inappropriate. You cannot generalize this way in our profession. Some of us are with increased social responsibility. And yet I am more inclined that he is right: such people have no responsibilities, they do not need anything. And other people help too. Anyway, the wording in life does not change anything.

Mrs. Natalia, 25 years old

This is fundamentally the wrong wording. We are girls with high social responsibility! Because all of us here are responsible for someone - for relatives, for children. There are certain responsibilities. We provide psychological assistance. We do not corrupt men: a man must understand that he must come and pay, and only then get something. We educate and they have responsibility. In addition, a woman in this profession more closely monitors her health, in contrast to a neighbor of the same age. We also give part of the money to the children. This year we sent part of the money to the Chelyabinsk orphanage. Not every manager goes to do this, but we do it. We do not decompose, we have our own clear task, people come to us to relax, come with their problems, we help, we explain, we listen, we speak. I will even consider renaming myself a "socially responsible girl" on websites.

Erica, 30 years old

I disagree that our responsibility has been downgraded. We are girls with high social responsibility! This will be more correct. Now I can’t talk - I’m at the checkout, people are standing by.

Mila, 20 years old

I believe that we have heightened social responsibility, not reduced one. We help children, we look after their health, and we take care of our family, we help them.

Baby Julia, 26 years old

This is wrong, because girls are at times more responsible in comparison with bl **** and who give right and left and do not look after their health. And the president was right: they start to engage in prostitution not because of a good life, and those girls who have nothing to feed their children with sick parents come here. These are girls with increased social responsibility, definitely! They help men cope with their troubles, relieve emotional and psychological stress - there are fewer conflicts at home. People come to us with gratitude that there are fewer conflicts in the family. Also thanks to us there is less violence in the city, less crime. Fewer homicides, fewer sex offenders. We reduce the risk of crime. In general, there should be a certain number of girls in the city in order to reduce crime in the metropolis. I cannot comment on this on the video - I am a very significant person in the city, they can recognize me by my voice. I would even really change my name in the questionnaire, think about it and rename it to the topic of the day.

Otherwise it's wrong to call us that.

This expression has not yet lost its relevance, although it is less and less often heard in everyday life. More often it is replaced by the word "prostitute". But this is not entirely correct, since a fallen woman is not only a priestess of love. Today you will find out to whom this appeal applies, what it means.

There is a difference

In Europe, a fallen woman is a drug addict, an emigrant, a victim of violence. But if we turn to Russian history, then this epithet was "awarded" mainly to women who were not particularly picky in the choice of sexual partners. Moreover, it could be a woman who has had several official marriages. In Soviet times, this was condemned by both the party and the people. A real communist had to get married once and carry this cross all her life, even if the marriage was not very successful. The exceptions were artists: they could be forgiven for some frivolity in this matter, since creative people are different from the common population.

Bible

The first mention of female harlots in the Old Testament is interesting. Jacob's daughter traveled to foreign lands and attracted the attention of the son of the prince of Shehem. He dishonored Dina, but later asked the girl's hand from her father. The brothers of the unfortunate woman reacted sharply and declared that their sister was not a harlot to do this to her. Consent to the marriage was obtained, but the prince had to agree: all the men in the city were circumcised.

Jesus Christ said that harlots go ahead of everyone into the Kingdom of God. Another fallen woman is Tamar. The girl who sold her services for a kid. Rembrandt even captured this scene in a painting. It is known that the ancient Israeli society even protected harlots, but the ministers of the churches were forbidden to take them as spouses.

Walking woman

As a rule, this is a lady who is not married and regularly changes men. She is free from obligation and not burdened with moral values. Can you call her a fallen woman? It depends on which society the person is in. If she is at the bottom rung of social strata, then such an expression may be applicable. But to call that a pop star or a famous actress, no one will turn their tongues. Although there is no particular difference in behavior between them, the colossal chasm in terms of social status changes everything. A walking woman can be both a legal spouse and a mother of a large family. It all depends on the character and upbringing of the woman.

You don't have to be a prostitute to get such an insulting nickname. Girls who grew up in dysfunctional families often have a weak understanding of morality. Before their eyes, such scenes took place that by the time of maturation they did not consider it necessary to look for a permanent partner for themselves. They do not take money for their services, they simply give their bodies to everyone who shows interest.

The result of such a life is addiction to alcohol or drug addiction. Then the girl turns from a simple frivolous person into a full-fledged prostitute. For a dose or a bottle, she is ready to trade in the body, but now this is considered work, and not a means for obtaining pleasure. Among the marginalized, there are plenty of such persons: in any brothel there is such a fallen woman who provides her intimate services in exchange for the necessary drug.

Escort girls

These ladies can also be called fallen, but they are at the highest level. They also sell their bodies, but not to the huckster or the working class, but to the wealthiest men. Moreover, there are cases when such elite prostitutes became the wives of their clients. But still, in most cases, they remain only girls who can accompany to any event and provide intimate services. Their labor is paid very high, but money cannot wash away the stigma of a fallen woman, which they will wear for the rest of their lives. They are also considered girls with low social responsibility, although they can drive prime-class cars.

Prostitutes

Prostitution is the biggest niche in which every woman is considered fallen. Although it is one of the oldest professions, it is still considered the most shameful. Prostitutes are not respected, they have no rights. For their hard and thankless work, they can get a term. This profession has no age. Prostitutes can be both girls 14 years old and women over 60.

Why do girls become prostitutes?

It would seem that there are absolutely no advantages from this way of earning money, and there are more and more fallen women! Selling your body on the street drives both need and lack of demand. Often, after graduating from university, girls cannot find work. This is especially true for those who come from small towns and villages. There is no desire to return to the wilderness, and it is very difficult to get a job in a metropolis. The girl decides to earn some money with her own body until she has a chance to find a real good job. However, few succeed in breaking out of the vicious circle.

For those who are unlucky enough to fail their exams, the road to confusion becomes even shorter. They stay in a strange city hoping to try their luck in a year. Without a profession and means of subsistence, girls are forced to go to the panel.

Need and more

An ordinary average mother of several children can also become a fallen woman. An unemployed husband, lack of help from relatives, and many other factors can push you to take this desperate step. Sometimes these ladies have official jobs, and work part-time in prostitution at night. Relatives and friends may not even know about her additional income.

Some are attracted by this type of earnings. Girls think this is the easiest way to get rich. But the real picture is not nearly as colorful as the inexperienced debutantes paint it. The pimp and the police, problems with the law and health, lack of privacy - this is not the whole list of what awaits a fallen woman.

We have already explained why addicted girls become prostitutes. But very often ladies acquire addictions already in the process of work, so that it is easier to look at life and it is easier to endure moral torment. Then the life of a prostitute becomes like a carousel: looking for a dose, a client, again looking for a dose. The existence of a fallen woman cannot be envied, no matter what level she is.

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Japan is generally an amazing country. There is a professional for every case. Need to clean your apartment? Here's a robot vacuum cleaner. Need to make sushi? Here's a sushi master who has been making sushi all his life. Do you need a woman? Here it is necessary to clarify, because the Japanese women have three, so to speak, directions: for the body, for the soul and for procreation. The last one is the wife. She is a professional housewife. For the soul of a geisha. I will tell you about this in more detail later. But for the body - ordinary prostitutes. Now, of course, traditions are being violated. And geisha sell themselves, and prostitutes are trying to lure clients with intimate conversations, and wives are such that no geisha is needed.

Prostitution in Japan has been generally banned for 50 years. BUT! Tradition is stronger than law, and some cities still have red-light districts. The largest is in Osaka. This is not just a block, this is a huge area with prostitutes!

See how it looks.

01. So ... we are in a den of debauchery!

02. Prostitutes work in every house!

03. Here she is, beautiful! By the way, no kidding, Japan has the most beautiful prostitutes in the world! Usually, some kind of crooked and oblique grimza work on the street, and here every second one is right from the cover of a fashion magazine.

04. Girls are not sitting behind glass! That is, you can look into each of them, talk.

05. Very rarely do they cover their faces.

06. Take a close look at the surroundings.

07. The girl is always highlighted with several spotlights. Since they are hot, the fans are running.

08. The client leaves) Many girls use a childish image. Around the toys, they themselves sit like dolls. The Japanese love it.

09. Oh, did you notice that a grandmother is sitting next to each girl?

10. It's a pimp! She is selling a doll. Women ONLY work. All negotiations with grandmother.

11. You negotiate with your grandmother, then you go up the red staircase, where you PLAY with the girl. Nobody says what goes into the game. Of course, everyone understands that sex is included for that kind of money.

12. Sometimes several girls work in the same house. Here, judging by the shoes, there is already a client, but the new girl is sitting and waiting in the wings. Also, do you see two mirrors? The girl looks in one. In the second, the pimp looks to see if the client is coming. If a client appears on the horizon, she orders the girl to smile! So when you approach the establishment, the girl breaks into a smile and waves her hand at you.

13. What are the prices?

15 minutes - $ 110
20 minutes - $ 160
30 minutes - $ 210
60 minutes - $ 410

14. Prices are the same for everyone! Bargaining is inappropriate. But you need to understand that the girl will start to breed you, demanding additional loot for any movements.