Before we dive headfirst into building true self-confidence, let's take a step back and try to understand what confidence is.

Confidence is knowing that what you have will later become what you want and make you happier. This necessary condition so that an idea becomes an action.

Confidence is the ability to believe in yourself when a big deal is coming up, to raise your hand when a big deal appears interesting project, or speak at a conference (and without any anxiety!). Confidence is not a 100% guarantee that everything will always work out, but it helps you get out of your comfort zone, expand your boundaries and set a course for success.

Statistics confirm that success has more to do with confidence than competence. So here are five steps to self-confidence.

1. Act confident

As strange as it may sound, to learn to be truly confident, you can first fake confidence. IN wildlife some animals pretend to be brave in the face of danger. Pretend too.

Self-hypnosis doesn't work. Our brain analyzes and compares our expectations with our experience and reality. life situation. If these two aspects do not correspond to each other, the brain goes out of control and you begin to experience stress. Anxiety and negative thoughts appear, due to which all self-confidence disappears. So what should we do?

Better prepare for an exciting situation, rehearse in front of a mirror (pay attention to both the tone of your voice and facial expressions) and look at others positively, enjoy communicating with them. This will give the brain “sufficient reason” to believe that our positive attitude corresponds to a favorable external situation, and confidence will appear on its own.

2. Remember that you expect more from yourself than others expect from you.

The good news is that the whole world will believe what you show. Thank God, no one can read your thoughts or know about your fears and anxiety.

The bad news: you can misinterpret any sideways glance, any random word, any reaction of people to your actions, and then worry about this (thought up by you) issue.

In this case, psychologists recommend listening to your inner voice (don’t get scared ahead of time, no one is going to persuade you to engage in self-hypnosis). Try a little experiment: for one week, write down what thoughts are spinning in your head (exact wording) when you feel a lack of self-confidence.

By simply recording and analyzing your self-talk, you'll be one step closer to reducing and hopefully eliminating these thoughts.

In addition, it is useful to write down and keep on hand a list of your achievements, experiences, events that made you feel important, confident, and understand that your actions are beneficial.

Every time your inner voice gets out of hand, take a three-minute break, pick up a list, and remind yourself how good you can be. Provide your brain with tangible evidence when you need extra reassurance.

3. Monitor your physical condition

I know it's a cliché to say that you need to take care of your health, but this cliché didn't come from empty space. Have you ever wondered why all successful leaders, without exception, regularly play sports? If you overwork, eat fast food, don't sleep enough, and lead a mostly sedentary lifestyle, it becomes harder to show off to the world. better version myself.

You don't need to train until you drop for several hours a day: a 30-minute walk from work to home or climbing the stairs to the 10th floor can be enough to release endorphins. Start with small changes in your usual lifestyle and gradually get used to them.

Difficulties and, accordingly, stress need to be added to your life in very small portions. It is necessary to trick yourself so that both physical and mental health are in balance.

4. Increase your output, change your internal dialogue

Do you know why most people's communication skills leave much to be desired? Because they are in their own thoughts. Instead of focusing on their interlocutor and demonstrating their affection, they think about how not to blurt out something stupid and what smart thing to say next. main reason such behavior: they were poorly prepared.

It's almost impossible to be truly confident if you haven't prepared enough to put your best foot forward. Think about the people you are talking to. What do they really want? What's stopping them? How can you help them?

If you focus on helping your interlocutor, you will get rid of anxiety and receive the same genuine interest in response.

This method is worth using to promote your services or if you want to make an impression at any event.

Take the time to research materials on the topic and your audience. Every hour spent doing this activity will bring a disproportionately large result. And what happens when you get positive feedback? You guessed it - you will gain lasting, genuine self-confidence.

5. Fail fast, fail often.

A terrifying word that paralyzes even outstanding people and prevents them from achieving success - failure. It especially haunts those who are perfectionists by nature and are chronically afraid of doing something wrong.

But failures happen in our lives, it’s simply inevitable. In fact, if you don't make mistakes, it means you're not learning anything new. Remember Ramit Sethi’s saying more often: “It’s not a failure, it’s a test.”

You're just checking that it won't work. And when you know this, you can move on and find ways that will lead to the desired result.

And most importantly: once you come to your senses after another “failure,” you realize that you don’t feel empty. After all, it is these experiences that help you face your fears and achieve your goals in the future.

Of course, we know that water does not flow under a lying stone, in order to get or change something, you need to do something. In this article I just want to invite you to do something that will help you overcome low self-esteem and begin to develop a sense of self-confidence and positive self-perception.

You need to understand that these steps are not a one-time pill, but a process of working on yourself, which will take time and organize your efforts to significantly improve your life. This new way of thinking will change your better side communication with loved ones, colleagues, will make it easier to perceive events, will allow you to stop being mentally “stuck” in difficult situations and evaluate yourself more favorably.

Fifteen steps to self-confidence

1. Break the habit of talking badly about yourself and scolding yourself.

Don't take credit for yourself negative traits: “fool”, “stupid”, “bad”, “unlucky”, “incapable”, “disgusting”, etc. To do this, you can make a list of all the curse words that you say to yourself in order to know the “enemy in person” :-). And every time such a word or thought wants to come true, you will remember that you no longer scold yourself.

2. Feelings of guilt and shame are bad companions in life.

They significantly worsen the quality of our lives, slow down our progress, and steal our time and energy. Tell them “stop”, put it off until later. If this is still difficult to do, try to allocate a specific time of day for “suffering,” for example, 30-60 minutes from 18.00 to 18.30. Or as much as you don’t mind spending time on.

3. Honestly identify your strengths and weaknesses.

In this step it will be good to analyze all your achievements starting from childhood and identify those qualities that made these achievements possible. Make a list of these qualities and think about how they can currently help you solve pressing problems.

4. Now you can formulate real goals for your life.

Those. real, and not fictitious or imposed on you by someone, what exactly you want. Despite the fact that it may not seem too grandiose from the perspective of significant others. Formulate a minimum and maximum program. To do this, think and write what is valuable to you in life, what you believe in, how you would like to live.

Our values ​​are the main motivators of our achievements and goals. They “indicate” what is truly important to us, what we are ready to invest in, in what direction to move. Assess where your goals are and determine how you can understand that progress is being made.

5. Stop blaming yourself for everything.

Don't look for the reasons for events in your shortcomings. Believe me, you are not so omnipotent and neither are your shortcomings! :-) Please note that there are physical, social, economic, political and natural aspects situations that affect you and your life. Remember this every time you feel the urge to take responsibility, for example, for someone’s behavior or... for the tsunami in Thailand :-).

6. Reflect on the fact that any event can be assessed with different point sight!

Objective reality is not at all what each of us individually sees and interprets. What we are used to calling reality is just the result of an agreement between people. An agreement to call things by certain names. A view from this position will allow you to treat people more tolerantly and philosophically, and be more generous towards yourself. Do not label: “this is unfair”, “humiliating”, “this is not how men/women behave”, etc. because of which we like to worry, get angry and torment ourselves.

7. Don't let others criticize you in a personal way.

You have the right to give feedback to the person, explaining that you do not want to carry on the conversation in this format. You will not discuss your personal qualities in a negative context. While your actions may be subject to evaluation. Especially when it is constructive criticism, as it can be used for your own benefit.

8. Analyze your past, figure out what led you to your current state of affairs.

Often, as adults, we blame our parents, teachers or someone else for our failures. We hold on to our past and don’t let it go, even though the past no longer exists.

Of course, when we were small and defenseless, many people could and did offend us. Of course, parents and others significant people, often have too strong an impact on the child, suppressing his naturalness and forming a negative attitude towards himself. The consequences of these impacts may not be so easy to cope with.

In these cases, there is a reason to consult a psychologist. But I am writing a self-help technique, so I propose to look at the negative aspects of our past from a different angle. Now that we are adults, we can not look back at our parents and take responsibility for our lives into our own hands.

Now that you are adults, you can make choices about how to live and what to do. Decide what your adult life will be like. Because now you are strong and big. You can fight back against the offender, physically or psychologically. You haven't been the same for a long time Small child who is so dependent on almighty parents.

You have many available resources: informational (Internet, books, press, trainings, seminars, etc.), physical (autonomy and independence in movement and self-care), human (the opportunity to get help from any specialists, other people), financial (an adult can earn money), temporary (the ability to independently plan your time). And I want you to think about this carefully. And you made your choice as an adult, today you have this opportunity.

9. Notice that some failures are luck.

Thanks to other defeats, you can draw conclusions about false goals, reconsider the concept, and determine whether you are spending your energy in the right direction. And therefore avoid larger disappointments and troubles.

10. You should not put up with circumstances, activities and people that make you feel inferior.

If, despite your efforts to change yourself or them enough to feel confident, you fail, it is better to look for other places and roads. Life is too short to waste it being sad!

11. Start practicing communication.

Communication is the opportunity to exchange energy, emotions and information with completely different people who are different from each other. Imagine that these and other people, just like you, may experience fear and uncertainty, try to help them. Decide what you can give to people and what you want to receive from them. Let others know that you are open to this exchange: smile, compliment, praise, talk.

12. Allow yourself to relax.

Learn to listen to yourself, your desires, feelings, sensations. Regularly allocate time for yourself to be alone with yourself in order to collect your thoughts, hear yourself, and understand yourself better. Take the rule of “Taking care of yourself in small steps”: every morning ask yourself what you want exactly today. It could be the smallest thing, for example, taking a walk, making yourself a nice, delicious sandwich, doing gymnastics, or buying some small thing.

13. Try not to constantly use strategies to avoid failure by protecting your “I”.

Try to challenge and accept the challenge of growing up and moving forward. Staying inactive and isolated is not the best choice.

Learn to give feedback to people, say what you like and what you don’t, but do it calmly, specifically and on time. Use “I-statements” without blaming or making claims to others. Do not accumulate resentment, because often their reasons lie in our expectations about the behavior of other people, which are not met.

Think about how realistic your expectations are? Stop fantasizing that others should guess everything themselves, understand and feel everything. The shortest way to get what you want to ask for. But what about the fear that they will refuse? :-) Remember, how many times have you been refused? We just carefully “collect” refusals in a special basket and don’t remember all the other times when we received what we needed. Many people simply don’t ask so as not to be refused. When you have failure statistics, then argue with me!

14. Think about your goals and choose for yourself several serious distant goals, on the way to which you need to achieve smaller and intermediate goals.

Outline what tools and resources you need in order to take these steps and achieve these results. Figure out where you can get these resources, receive them, ask for them, etc., and what needs to be done for this. Cast your net wider, search different variants. Praise yourself for every step you take, because it leads you to your goal. You've done the work and you can be proud of yourself, even if it's just the beginning.

15. Imagine yourself as a person who, having matured, already has a lot of experience.

You have gone through and were able to overcome a huge number of difficulties. You grew up and learned to walk, although it was very difficult. You resisted and persevered in difficult situations, defended yourself, fought, achieved. We graduated from school, having overcome an endless whirlpool of difficult events, conflicting demands, psychological pressure and stress.

You accepted and challenged, drawing on your strengths and capabilities, all the while moving forward. Think about the fact that you are not at all a helpless and weak creature, but an active person who managed to survive and win. And these are not pompous words, because you, starting from the very beginning of your life, are supported powerful forces natures developed and were born, despite the numerous dangers lurking, which means they won!

When starting to do something new, it is difficult to cover everything at once, so I suggest moving forward progressively but surely, mastering each point slowly, step by step. While giving yourself enough time, calmly and patiently. You can select the points from which you want to start, there is no need to move further chronological order. Taking one or more steps will bring positive change, even sooner than you think. Act by praising yourself for the smallest successes.

How to become successful, confident and confident in just five minutes happy man? Want to try?

You can become more confident and significantly increase your self-esteem quite quickly. 3 main principles of self-confidence will help you with this. These are the tips of the famous psychologist and relationship expert Irina Udilova.

1. The “Translator” principle

The first of them is the “Translator” principle. The principle of the “Translator” is to use, broadcast in your life, distribute around yourself only those things, those values, that knowledge that you yourself are very pleased with. For example, of course, it is very important for you to receive respect; it is very important for you to live among people who value, love, respect you and, even if they criticize you, do it with love. The most important thing, the most basic thing: be sure to distribute exactly what you like. Don’t talk about those things that make you sad, depressed, disappointed, throw you into some state when you don’t want to do anything at all - you give up. Don't allow these things to happen in your life. Be sure to broadcast, broadcast what you really like. What we broadcast, we ourselves multiply in our lives. This one Magic wand, which greatly affects your confidence, your success, how you feel.

2. The principle of “Clay Pots”

The second principle that will definitely allow you to become self-confident is the “Clay Pots” principle. It certainly sounds tempting: what kind of pots? And it turns out that back in the nineties, American scientists conducted most interesting experiment. They assembled two groups. One group was given the task: “Make pots, as many pots as possible.” And the second group was told: “Do nice pots, quality so that every pot is perfection.” And what do you think was the result? Which group made more quality pots? It turned out that there were more of them in the first group. Those people who didn’t bother, those people who acted, everything turned out much easier for them. And, of course, you also noticed that when you are in some creative process, when you act, you have more energy, more joy. And when you doubt, measure, prepare, then tension and fear grow. The future result is always on my mind. And all the doubts, fear, tension - this is what exactly prevents us from doing what we want in life, and doing it well. good level. Remember that all the doubts, all the improvements, all the improvements that we usually really want to make in any of our business are just marking time. We do not allow ourselves to act at this moment. And microsteps are your precise progress towards what you want, towards the goal that inspires you. Allow yourself to make mistakes, allow yourself to “walk”, act and enjoy it.

3. The principle of “Sufficiency”

And the third principle, which will definitely allow you to become self-confident, is the principle of “Sufficiency”. It is based on the principle of insufficiency, that there will not be enough of everything. This is our childhood. When we were little, we always wanted someone to give us at least something else: candy, sweets, attention. And in this position we always remain children. An adult knows for sure that right now he has in his hands everything he needs to improve his life, in order to help someone else. When a person gives, he has a feeling inside that this is a lot, this is enough. And the more often you are in this position, the more effective you will be in your life, the more effective you will be in what you do for other people. Thanks to the feeling of sufficiency, the feeling that you have enough, you have the strength to share it with others. And this is what allows us to change our world radically, allows us to contact each other, be useful to each other, and unites the whole world.

And these were exactly the 3 principles that right now, within five minutes, will allow you to feel more confident, happier, because you have everything you need:

• You can broadcast those things that are important to you and valuable to you.
• You have your sufficiency.
• And the third thing is to sculpt pots, act and do it with pleasure, with joy.

This is what will affect your world and the world in general.

Be confident in yourself and everything in your life will be top-notch!

Arthur Golovin


Interesting

Mark Twain

There is no person who would not like to be confident, because confidence plays a very important role in our lives; it determines what our life will be like - successful or unsuccessful. You know this very well, and I know it, therefore, despite the articles already available on this site devoted to this issue, I return to it again and plan to return in the future, until all my materials help you, dear readers, gain confidence in to yourself. Together we will achieve success in this matter! You will definitely become a very confident person, and then many doors will open for you, you will begin to live life to the fullest, you will be able to realize many of your dreams and desires, you will fully realize yourself and become a happy person.

There are many ways to become a confident person, which I wrote about earlier and not only me. All of them, to one degree or another, need attention to themselves, they all need elaboration. But there are ways that, more than others, have a positive impact on a person’s self-confidence, and in this article we will talk about one of these methods. We'll talk about, perhaps, in an important way increasing self-confidence - about our victories and successes that each of us needs to strive for. A successful person, a winner, will always be confident in himself, because he will feel his strength thanks to his successes and victories. And success and victories, in turn, will depend on confidence, thanks to which a person can achieve his goals despite any difficulties. In general, friends, you and I need to understand all these relationships so that you know exactly what you need to do and why in order to gain confidence.

First of all, a person needs to learn to correctly relate to his failures, defeats, mistakes, mistakes, he needs to learn to understand them. His ability to achieve success in various matters will depend on this. After all, it is through failures, defeats and mistakes that the path to success lies. And in order to overcome this path, you need to be able to withstand the blows of fate and not give up. Then success is inevitable. But this is difficult, especially for people with weak character. If a person constantly fails in various things, his self-confidence will decline. This is natural, natural and quite normal, since any failure shows a person his weakness and inability to live, therefore he cannot rely on himself, cannot believe in himself, in himself and in his strength. But he must understand that if he does not give up and continues to fight, then his perseverance and perseverance will sooner or later be crowned with success, they will allow him to win and achieve success. Therefore, difficulties must either be overcome, if you have the strength to do so, or, if you cannot overcome them, then you need to go around them and go around them, and for this you need to be a fairly smart, flexible, calculating, cunning person. So a weakness of character can be compensated for by a host of other qualities, but first you need to develop these qualities in yourself. This whole thing is profitable, you can make a winner out of any person, I am absolutely sure of that. The main thing is to find an approach to each person. Remember that winners are not born, they are made. And self-confidence is not a gift from God, but a consequence proper development person. It is important to understand that you should never, under any circumstances, give in to difficulties, you need to fight, you need to look for opportunities, you need to endure until at least an insignificant achievement is achieved. positive result, which will instill in a person hope and faith in ultimate success. Therefore, learning the ability to overcome difficulties and achieve your goals must begin with small victories, but at the same time, it is advisable to ensure that they are regular, then the degree of confidence in a person will slowly but surely grow.

If a person achieves success in life, if he wins, his self-confidence grows, he trusts himself, he sees his strength, sees his capabilities, sees his adaptability to life, and even sees and feels his superiority over other people. This is also important for us, that’s who we are. So in order to become a self-confident person, you need to learn to win, you need to start achieving success in various matters, primarily related to a person’s satisfaction of his natural needs. This is very important point, which must be taken into account - I mean the importance of a person satisfying his natural needs. The point is that you can be successful person, winner, in some insignificant for real life affairs, but these small victories, this dubious success, will not make a person truly self-confident. Of course, he will gain some kind of self-confidence from minor successes, especially if he gives them great importance, but the further these successes are from real life, from the real needs of a person, the weaker this confidence will be.

For example, a person, let it be a man, can be a very good chess player who constantly beats everyone at chess and he can be considered a successful person, a winner, but only in the game of chess. Of course, success in this game will give this man self-confidence, but if at the same time he has serious problems with money, if he does not have a beloved woman, if other men do not communicate with him whom he could consider his friends - he will feel extremely insecure, and especially severe cases- a complete loser. The thing is that failures in matters that are more important to life and a person’s inability to satisfy his natural needs, as a rule, have a much stronger impact on his psyche than success, even very great, in matters of less importance. However, there are exceptions that only confirm this rule. Therefore, friends, you need victories like air, but in matters that relate to real, and not to virtual, imaginary life. Of course, you should start with small victories, with small successes in small but important matters in life, gradually striving for greater and greater heights. And you should always remember that life does not consist only of victories, there is also a place in it for defeats, setbacks, and mistakes, which sometimes happen very often. And if you don’t treat them with understanding, you will never come to success, in vain avoiding the defeats and failures that lead to it. This means that you will not be able to gain self-confidence.

How can you learn to win important victories in life in order to use them to increase self-confidence, and how not to be afraid of failures, mistakes, mistakes, defeats that stand in the way of success? This task is, in fact, not easy, since it requires individual approach to everyone to a specific person who needs to be taught to win in order to instill in him a taste for victories and success. To implement this, it is necessary to take into account personal characteristics a person and his life story. After all different people We are capable of different tasks, some need to start with small victories, some are capable of more complex things, and some can immediately aim for great achievements. Everyone has their own capabilities.

When I help people gain self-confidence, I study their lives and themselves very carefully, starting from childhood. This allows me to develop for each person an individual recipe for achieving success, guided by which they are guaranteed to win in matters that are truly significant for their lives, taking into account their desires and needs. If a person is poor, I help him improve his financial situation, if he is lonely, I help him find friends and a soul mate, and so on. In general, I help a person win where he needs to win. At the same time, he and I begin the path to success from the very first steps that he can take, from the smallest, but very important victories. Thanks to small victories, which later develop into big victories, people gradually increase their self-confidence, and therefore they themselves, without anyone’s help, achieve success in a variety of things, thereby increasing their confidence.

So, to put it simply, you need victories to increase self-confidence, and not in some unimportant matters in life, but in serious, important matters, directly related to your basic needs, and only then to all your desires. But achieving these victories can sometimes be difficult if there is no clear action plan that takes into account a person’s current capabilities. It is not so easy to achieve success in a business in which you need to be able to show your best strong qualities and get around other people who also want to be first, want to be the best, want to be winners. Therefore, an individual program for achieving success is needed, and in those matters in which it is easier for each specific person to achieve success at the first stage. Self-confidence should grow gradually, as a person overcomes various difficulties and the obstacles he is able to overcome. But great and quick successes, which some people are able to achieve mainly only thanks to a successful combination of circumstances, most often make them overly self-confident and people who inadequately assess themselves and their capabilities, and then only for a short time, since external circumstances are constantly changing, and along with them, the self-confidence of those who depend on these circumstances and rely on them changes. Therefore, you need to learn to go to success yourself, and not wait for it to come to you.

An important role in the issue of self-confidence is also played by a person’s attitude towards the victories and successes that already exist and previously existed in his life, which must be able to recognize and highlight against the background of everything else. People usually remember the bad better than the good, they remember their failures, they remember grievances, they remember the evil that happened in their lives. But the good things are often forgotten by them, successes, especially if there were few of them, are also forgotten, but at the same time, our self-confidence is based precisely on them - on our successes and victories. Let you make a hundred mistakes, but the hundred and first time you will achieve success - it is this hundred and first time that you should count as your asset, it is this that you need to remember throughout your life, it is this that you need to use as a moral support when solving your current and future tasks and problems, and while overcoming various difficulties. If you know that you can, that you are capable, that you have the strength to solve any problems and achieve success in any business, because you have already managed to do this before, then you will definitely solve your problems, you will definitely achieve success and your self-confidence will inevitably increase . Our past victories and achievements are our strength. We don’t need to pump up our psyche with all sorts of nonsense, because of which a person imagines himself as a kind of superman who is capable of anything, we just need to know about our strength and focus our attention on it.

Your self-confidence, friends, is your shield from any difficulties and adversities, and it is also your energy necessary to achieve success in life. Therefore, you need to build it piece by piece, or even grain of sand, depending on the characteristics of your life. Victories lead a person to self-confidence, and self-confidence leads him to even greater victories, thus increasing himself. Learn to win, learn to bypass and overcome all kinds of obstacles, depending on your capabilities, learn to see in yourself strong man, whom you can trust. And don’t even think about letting yourself down - if you promise yourself to do something, do it, and always be sure to bring all your tasks to the end. Otherwise, you won’t be able to trust yourself, which means you won’t be able to believe in yourself.

Problems with self-esteem and self-confidence seem to only affect women. But psychologists say that male insecurity is as common as among the fair sex. The only difference is that men are not so critical of themselves, so it is more difficult for them to recognize the problem of insecurity. As soon as the stronger sex accepts such a problem and is ready to work on it, it becomes the first step towards solving life's troubles. How to become a confident man and overcome your fears? Only by working on yourself.

To begin with, it is worth determining what exactly self-confidence is expressed in, and why it is so important to overcome fears and anxieties. For example, a confident person always:

• Opinion. Other people do not need to guess or solicit information from such a person;
• Always tells the truth– it doesn’t matter whether his opinion agrees with other people, he just says what he thinks;
• A confident person is less likely to mention the pronoun “I” in his words.. Such people are more focused on important matters rather than on their own self-centeredness;
• Always appropriate facial expressions and gestures. Confident people do not worry about what people think of them and are confident in their words and actions. That is why they do not worry about how to present themselves to society, their gestures and facial expressions are calm and graceful;
• A confident person knows his own worth and can listen to compliments and praise without hesitation.. After all, it’s natural when they evaluate fairly positive traits ;
• Improvisation– another quality of a confident person. Such people know that through their ingenuity they can “get out” of any situation.

When a person lacks such abilities, this indicates that he lacks. But don't be upset. By working on yourself, you can improve your qualities significantly, and also become a confident person with good self-confidence.

1. Work on self-esteem.

In order for self-confidence to grow, you need to take a closer look at your self-esteem. After all, the state of the soul is as important as the physical one for a full life. Raising self-esteem means permanent job over your perception of the world and your personality. So, how to become confident and? To begin with, there are several important steps to consider:

• Let go of negativity from the past. Self-doubt doesn’t just appear; it’s most likely the consequences of a negative experience. This is especially true in childhood or adolescence. To take the path of change, you need to let go of the past, namely, forgive all ill-wishers and try to forget your own. There are many books and techniques for this, for example, “Technique of Effective Forgiveness” or “How to Become Self-Confident” book;
• Stop comparing. Be equal to good example- This great idea. This can also be the strongest. But comparing yourself to another person will only bring a new portion of disappointment. After all, no one knows how a person started his career, perhaps he was just lucky, and having not achieved the same results, there is a possibility of falling into trouble and giving up;
• Self-acceptance. In order not to compare yourself with someone, it is better to accept and improve your qualities. How to be confident? It’s worth highlighting your positive qualities and loving them, but with negative traits character - work hard;
• Open the mind. Man is designed in such a way that he can see new possibilities only through new knowledge. Therefore, constant study of literature, new knowledge in business or just interesting things - all this develops you and increases your intelligence, and at the same time self-esteem. Therefore, the way to become more self-confident is to expand your interests.

As soon as self-esteem begins to rise, all that remains is to increase self-confidence. There are separate tips for dealing with uncertainty. How to become a confident person? Read the article further.

2. Don't be afraid of new challenges.

Confident people will never refuse new tasks or responsibilities just because of the fear of not being able to cope with them. It is better to admit your mistake and defeat than to completely abandon new prospects. For confidence to grow, you need to gather everything together and take on a new task or responsibility. How to become confident in your abilities? Overcome doubts and do what you have long wanted to do.

3. Don't be selfish.

People who are insecure often wonder about how they were looked at and what others thought. Sometimes this reaches the point of absurdity and a person simply becomes someone who only cares about how he looks in the eyes of others. Confident people are usually good conversationalists! They know how to listen, their eyes sparkle with interest, and their thoughts are only about how to help a person. Conversations with them are pleasant and useful. How to become more confident? Learn to listen. The ability to conduct a dialogue will attract new acquaintances, which also increase self-esteem.

4. Less doubt.

Having the right environment helps you to be confident. If there are constantly people around a person who put pressure on them with their negativity, who constantly question his strength and strength, sooner or later the person gives up. You shouldn’t be led by low and weak people, it is better to spend your time communicating with positive individuals who will always support and help with advice.

5. Mistakes are normal.

Becoming confident doesn't mean you can stop making mistakes. People become stronger through experience. It doesn’t matter whether the experience was negative or had a positive impact on life. Confident people, when they make a mistake, gather their thoughts and willpower and move forward again. Giving up and falling into long-term worries is a sign of insecure and weak individuals.

6. Physical form.

Confident people will never neglect their body. You don’t have to be a master of sports or break records, but a fit and healthy body always indicates that a person is confident and strong-willed. In addition, playing sports develops skills that increase self-esteem and help you be confident.

But still, the main rule of self-confident people is not to be afraid! Fear stops a person’s development: doors to a successful career close, personal life collapses due to the fear of being rejected, and fails. With such a complex, a person is not comfortable in his body, and it also spoils living conditions. Once the shackles of fear are thrown away, confidence and self-esteem will increase, and the personality will gain harmony. How to become confident? Overcome doubts.