Very often we hear statements from friends: I am the most unhappy, why am I unlucky, and so on. Many merge so much with the image of people offended by life that it becomes almost impossible to convince them. Very often, such thoughts become the cause of real resentment or even anger towards others. The person begins to think that everyone is against him. As a result, he risks losing friends and being alone.

It is impossible to give an unambiguous answer to the question of why this or that person is unlucky in his personal life, at work or in relationships with friends. However, you can only get out of this situation on your own.

First, you need to clearly articulate all your negative thoughts. It is advisable to write them down on a piece of paper and read them carefully. Then reformulate them in such a way that they become positive.

Learning to tune in for the best is very important. No wonder our grandmothers also said that everything that is being done is for the best. This simple proverb perfectly helps to survive even very difficult situations, which, unfortunately, often happen in life.

Answer just three questions for yourself:

1. What does not suit you in life?
2. How do you want it to be?
3. What prevents you from achieving what you want?

Having received specific answers to your questions, you will be able to remove from life everything that is unnecessary, that which does not allow you to be truly happy. Try to live as if luck has already come to you. And it won't keep you waiting long.

Stop asking the question: why am I unlucky? Everyone in life has moments when nothing works out and gives up. Most often, troubles happen only in one area of ​​life. It can be work, personal or family life... Never fight with loved ones just because you are not doing well at work. This will not solve the problem, but will only make it worse.

Global bad luck is very rare. More often than not, unrealistic plans or unattainable goals are the reason for "I am unlucky". It leads to decline vitality, low self-esteem and unwillingness to do anything. If the situation cannot be changed, then the only correct solution would be to change the attitude towards it. Change is always for the better, even if it happened because of events that are unpleasant to you. Belief in this is the key to success.

Having engaged in the analysis of the situation or the question "why am I unlucky", you can find the answers. But this is not enough. You must be willing to rectify the situation and, of course, know how to do it.

Try to lower your demands on yourself a little. You should not come up with goals that will be impossible to achieve. More often than not, only bad memories remain. Try to change that. Pay attention to all the nice little things that happen in life. And do it every day.

As a result, you will get used to the idea that wonderful things constantly happen in life, you are even more lucky than some of your friends.

The most important thing is to believe in yourself, in your dream, and you will see how the world around you will change for the better, and the wheel of fortune will begin to rotate in the direction you need. When you stop asking the question “why am I not lucky”, you will finally start a fulfilling life.

Do not forget that no matter how bright the world, troubles do happen. It is very important not to get discouraged or depressed. White always follows and, most likely, today's troubles promise only good things in the future. Tune in to the positive. Create an activity that will distract you from unpleasant thoughts. Go for a walk, to the cinema, to the club. Call old friends you may not have seen for a long time. Communication with nice people, a friendly atmosphere will make you remember all the good things that happened in your life. So you get a charge positive emotions to help find correct solution or a way out of the current situation.

Who has not heard of such a mysterious and mysterious phenomenon as luck, or real luck? Although, probably, we often hear from friends: “I was not lucky”, “not with my luck”, etc.

What is "unlucky" and how to deal with it?

The main reason for most failure is a lack of the habit of getting what you want. Only if you are ready to make every effort, and not give up at the first difficulty, can you count on good luck. However, many find it much easier not to make any attempts, dumping their own laziness on the will of providence.

Often, those who are accustomed to overprotectiveness also become losers, and in childhood they got everything easily and simply. They simply haven’t learned that serious efforts are required to achieve a goal. If such people are not presented with what they want on a platter, they blame not themselves, but their own "bad luck."

The main thing that all "losers" will have in common is that they overly rely on external factors, underestimating their own capabilities, while people who, in the opinion of the majority, are accompanied by success, see the guarantee of achieving goals in themselves and their own actions.

How to get rid of bad luck:

We often hear complaints about the unlucky things in life. At the same time, many forget that behind what seems to be good luck from the outside, there is hard work aimed at achieving the desired. It is not for nothing that the people say that those who are lucky are lucky.

That is why, in order to get rid of your own bad luck, you must first of all want to become lucky and start active activities aimed at this.

First of all, you need to believe in yourself. Of course, it is much easier for a handsome and athletic, full of strength and energy to believe in the possibility of their own success than for the frail and weak, so take care of yourself:

* quit smoking;

* go in for sports;

* update your wardrobe;

* develop intelligence.

These steps will help you gain self-confidence, because if you like yourself, others will like you.

On next step getting rid of bad luck, you need to analyze as deeply as possible the reasons for your own failures and understand where the punishing hand of providence really overtook you, and where you failed because of your own negligence. Only by accepting the fact that you yourself are responsible for everything that happens in your life, is it possible to overcome your own bad luck and tune yourself to subsequent victories.

Psychological reasons for bad luck and tips for eliminating them:

Cause	Advice
Fear and insecurity	Think, calculate options, weigh everything and take a step forward. Self-confidence also does not attract luck, but an adequate assessment of your strength will help you.
Lack of experience	The monotony of life does not teach anything, so any trouble becomes a global catastrophe, and after all, someone has already overcome it before you. It's never too late to learn and the skill to notice "the same rake" from afar will save you from a new bump.
Not the ability to communicate with people	The psychology of human communication implies mutual interests and respect. Learn to listen and hear those around you, expand the circle of your interests, develop as a person.
Laziness	If you want to win the lottery - buy a ticket, if you want something from life, then act.
Lack of goals	Dream, set the bar higher. Let all your actions be stepping stones on the way to the main goal.
Not the ability to rejoice	Rejoice in your any success, even if the result is lower than you expected. Love yourself and be able to accept praise as an assessment of your work.
Not knowing how to lose	Don't overestimate failures. Think of failure as a reason for improvement, as a starting point for a new path.
Pessimistic attitude	Tune in only to positive thinking and remember that thoughts materialize.

Believe that after failure a successful streak of life will definitely come. But do not strive for luck, because it is fickle and unpredictable. Strive for control, endurance and self-control in any situations, and stubbornness on the way to your cherished goal will bring you both life experience and the necessary skills for a successful life.

Learn to be grateful to fate for what you have: health, family, peace.

There are millions of people in the world who consider you lucky and dream of being in your place. Just because you have food today; because you can move around on your own; because someone loves you: mom, loved one or your dog; because you have children; because your house didn't burn down, etc.

Real luck is learning to appreciate what you have. Only then is it possible to catch "your" luck.

IF CHRONICLY NOT LUCKY IN PERSONAL LIFE.

If a woman is chronically unlucky in her personal life, magicians claim that she has been entrusted with the "crown of celibacy." Is it possible to get rid of this corruption and how to find your happiness?

From time immemorial, there has been a concept of "celibacy crown", a mystical coincidence of circumstances, when, like on a carousel, from generation to generation, women repeat the same situations. The grandmother was unhappy, the mother was unlucky, and it seems that simple female happiness does not shine for you either. But not always "the crown of celibacy" is someone's negative interference in our life. Often a woman herself condemns herself to loneliness. After all, it's easier to be sick, to feel sorry, it's easier to refer to evil spirits, just not to do anything myself. It is also true that women often hope that if you go to your grandmother, everything will be resolved by itself. But no. One visit to the witch will not change your life, it will help eliminate the sore, but that's all " preventive work"will fall on you. It's like with a dentist: the doctor will put a filling, but you will have to brush your teeth every day!

1. Advice one: it's time to act.

Let's all the same understand what the "crown of celibacy" is. This is a state when a woman does not glow from the inside. She is invisible to others, including men. It is as if she is not in heaven or on earth, and does not sleep and is not awake, and the night is restless and the day is half-asleep. Nothing pleases her, everything is the same, she does not believe in herself, and, moreover, she is bored with herself, she has no strength and energy. After all, any evil eye, damage and curse is an attempt to destroy your biofield.

And lovers do not see each other with their eyes, they feel each other precisely at the energetic level, and if no signal comes from you, it does not come inner light then no one will see you. And it does not matter at all when and how you got into such a situation, it does not matter who put this curse on you: whether it is witchcraft or the work of your own hands, the main thing is to urgently do something. Find an activity that makes you happy. Begin to engage in your spiritual development.

Need help, go to the one you believe. Believe in God, go to church, believe in witchcraft, go to grandma, believe in psychoanalysis, go to a psychoanalyst. They are all in order to help you understand yourself, look into yourself, and perhaps you will find a way out together. And then - your work on yourself. It is very difficult to seek and save yourself, but my motto is: "Cry and act!" You can suffer, it can be insanely difficult for you, but pull yourself, like Munchausen, out of the swamp by your hair! Until you begin to act, until you kindle an inner fire within yourself, until you yourself believe in yourself, nothing will change.

Another question, what do you love yourself? If you fall in love with yourself diluted, boring, gray, then you are not interesting either to yourself or to people. Make yourself what you imagine yourself in dreams, strive for this model. A person should know what he is talented in, who he is and why he came to this world, and follow his own path. After all, we come into this world alone and leave alone, and marriage is not a primary task. If you are self-sufficient, doing what you love, you are comfortable. then others will be comfortable with you, and no damage will break you. You will patch any hole in your energy field with your strong spirit and love for the world.

2. Advice two: do not be lazy.

They often think: “I’ll go to my grandmother, she will take off the celibacy crown from me, and everything will be fine”. Yes, she will take off, you may get married, and by being married your own story will begin. And if you are irritated because you have not realized as a person, you are "lazy and incurious," as Pushkin said, then your husband will run away from you first. And what, again go to the grandmother to do a love spell?

In the old days, in the Pokrov, women recited the incantation prayer "Mother Mother of God, cover the earth with snow, and me with a bridegroom." Always and everywhere women asked, begged for women's happiness, passed on knowledge from mouth to mouth, and now all this has disappeared somewhere.

3. Advice three: find your talisman.

By the way, there is a custom in the Cossacks to share female happiness... It happens that a kind, hard-working woman is doing well, no one wishes her evil, but there is no love. Then she takes something from the food and goes to the one who is happy: she has a husband, and her children are healthy, and she herself is laughing. Comes to a happy one, which until love shunned. and says: "Share, Katyusha, women's happiness." And Katyusha puts a small knitted slipper around her neck, saying: "Be happy," and kisses three times. And somehow everything in her personal life is getting better.

Amulets, talismans, charms help if you believe in their power. For some, these are folk, still pagan amulets, for others - crosses consecrated in the temple. They can be any items that we ourselves have coded for good luck, for good luck.

For example, you have a lucky blouse: when you put it on, everything will certainly turn out well. Well, what is not a talisman? The most important thing is to always be positive and believe in good things. Even if a hopeless patient says with conviction: "I will still live!" - he really lives. How this works is not clear. But it works !!!

Magic has always been considered effective remedy to achieve a wide variety of goals. And in order to get success and wealth, to catch happiness and achieve results in work, you should turn to rituals for good luck. It is recommended to read them on the new moon, so that all the power of the month will contribute and could participate in the fulfillment of your desire.

Rite of bad luck:

Make honey millet porridge.

On a new moon, just before dawn, go to the east window at home, light a candle, circle the window frame with it.

Put a candle on the windowsill and start eating porridge, saying:

"Good luck and luck, come eat porridge, look at me, admire, stay with me."

Leave a little porridge on a plate and do not remove from the windowsill until the candle burns out.

Then collect everything, take it outside and leave it on the ground.

After this ceremony, your life will improve.The main thing is to believe !!!

Wednesday ritual:

This good luck conspiracy in everything will help stabilize your life and attract wealth and success. The ceremony should be performed every Wednesday for one month. As a rule, after the first week, changes in better side, so be very responsible when casting the spell.

“Sreditsa-Wednesday, use the word for water. I am baptized in the name of Christ. The Guardian Angel protects me. Angel have mercy, would you take away all sorrows from me, You would send all happiness and success to me. Sit on the right shoulder, guard and guard me alone. From evil people, from wild beasts, from filthy tongues! From the court, from reprisals, from gossip and witches' poisons! Lord God, add to my century, make my life easy! Amen!"

Pin Ritual:

A powerful rite of passage for attracting wealth and success in work or business must be done with faith in the result. To complete it, you will need to speak with a pin or scarf, which will always be with you.

You need to perform the ritual on the new moon.

“I speak to you (looking at the subject of the conspiracy), To help, magic helped me In all my endeavors, it brought good luck. Pin-pin, would you help me, attract happiness and success! Amen!"

Rite of bad luck:

If strong conspiracies good luck helps to attract success and wealth, then this ritual can be used as the first step in happy life in the case when you are haunted by failures and bad luck, and the black streak dragged on for a long time.

The ceremony is performed on the new moon.

V daytime to perform the spell, you should go to the cemetery, where you need to put a piece of cake, a glass of milk and a few coins on an unmarked grave. After that, you must bow three times and say the words of the prayer:

“If you would have remembered the deceased, you would have taken from me all the bad, the dashing forever and forever! It will be so from now on and forever and ever! Amen!"

The words of the prayer should be read three times, after which you need to leave the cemetery without looking back. The magic begins to work immediately after the ceremony, and the first results will become noticeable after a few weeks. The ritual should be performed precisely during the growing month so that the rite is strong and effective.

As a rule, changes for the better will be noticeable already within the first month.

PRAYERS-SPELLS FOR GOOD LUCK FOR 12 ZODIAC SIGNS.

Aries:

“Three names in one: Father, Son and Holy Spirit! I call on everyone, I welcome everyone, I direct everyone on my path! Be you Angels, Archangels and all Saints to be my support, and fast luck. I will name three names in one, I will fasten my body with good luck! Three names in one: Father and Son and Holy Spirit! Amen."

Taurus:

“The month is bright, the sun is red, the sky is clear. My good luck. Gilding my hand with the Angel Archangel, bring me good luck. Glory to the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit. Amen."

Twins:

“In the name of the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit. The church is supported by faith; the earth is supported by heaven. The teeth are held by the gums, winters converge with springs. And good luck with me is a close flame. Amen."

Cancer:

“I will become a servant of God blessed, I will cross myself for good luck. I will wrap myself in a cloud, I will gird myself with the dawn, I will be showered with heavenly stars. No one can clothe a cloud, no one can girdle the dawn, no one can count the heavenly stars. No one can take my luck and luck. The legs of the enemies will be taken away, the paralysis will break the hands, the eyes will pop out. Amen."

A lion:

“God's saints attach your prayers and cares to me as God's servant. So that luck knows me and always takes care of me. In the name of the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit. Amen."

Virgo:

“Lord, my God, I am before you. The plowman plows, the blacksmith forges luck in everyone's hands. The priest priest prays for all of us, for me and my sinful soul. May luck be with me. Amen."

Scales:

“Through Christ and with the holy Christ and in Christ. Glory to you, the almighty Father and the Holy Spirit. Turn luck from north to south, may my happy Spirit be with me. In the name of the Father and the son and the Holy Spirit. Amen."

Scorpion:

“There are three written sheets in Paradise. First Leaf Mother Holy Mother of God... The second leaf is John the Baptist himself. The third sheet is Jesus Christ our Savior. God has a father for the people of the petitioner. Ask for me, Lord, unprecedented luck, sealed with a seal, my signature confirmed. In the name of the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit. Amen."

Sagittarius:

“In the name of the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit. Amen. I will save, I will pray with the cross. Give me the wind, the air of luck to sip and not to know suffering. Amen."

Capricorn:

Aquarius:

“Saint Father Nicholas, help me with your intercession before the Lord Jesus Christ. Let luck be friends with me, as our land bears fruit. Amen."

Fishes:

“There are thirteen eggs, twelve saints. As the saints destroyed evil, so my sorrows would not know the place near me! Attach the Lord in front and behind - call me universal good luck! In the name of the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit. Amen."

Once I wrote an article on a similar topic -. The main idea is simple: you don't have to wait for luck, you have to plan and do without thinking about luck at all. I got some positive and some disappointing reviews on it. The second category makes it clear that there is more to be said on the topic.

For example, here is what comment was received yesterday from my most active commentator. (yes, from Anonymous;)... I liked the comment. Sharp like that, with a snide. I myself sometimes write such. Such a sin cannot be answered in a separate article. Here it is:

In my opinion, Bulgakovsky Woland very lucidly and explained with examples that in life depends on us. Never mind! What are the 5050s !? I am already quite a few years old, and I have seen many examples of how one, practically doing nothing, gets everything, and the other, working like a damn (does not drink, does not walk), remains at the end of life with nothing. Explain to me this unfairness of fate. Only without loud words and obscure psychological terms. Thanks.

Let's figure it out. Consistently and without obscure terms. Why are people unlucky in life, work, business, with the opposite sex? Is fate fair? Etc.

Why is life not fair?

There are a lot of answers and all are correct (more precisely, they bring their share of truth in the answer):

1. Because the world around us is chaotic, in many respects random, and most importantly - independent of a person. This person depends on environment and obeys the laws of nature, and not vice versa.
Justice is a human concept. Nature knows no justice. Maybe it's unfair that the sea turned into the Sahara desert? Maybe the sea didn't want to? Is it true that the dinosaurs disappeared?

2. Because people want justice mainly when it comes to them personally. And this is also absolutely natural. Who wants it, justice in general, for all for nothing?

3. Justice is not only a human concept, but also a subjective concept. Where is the ruler to measure what is right and what is wrong? Morality is a relative thing... Remembering the same Bulgakov: remember, Frida is given a handkerchief with which she strangled the baby? Margarita thinks this is unfair. And the cat “I’m from the legal point of view” - must be punished! Who is right?

Or. One person is good, sweet, kind, intelligent. And the second is a big bastard and a bloodsucker. But the second, plowing 14 hours a day, created himself profitable business, but the first could not. Is it fair or not?
And there are a million such examples.

Bottom line: life really isn't fair. This is her inherent property. It doesn't happen otherwise. We (all people) by by and large we live in a hostile, cold, alien environment. Who is there among the philosophers compared a man with a brittle reed? For those who believe in (say, the Universe is just waiting to fulfill our desires), I would advise you to leave in shorts and a T-shirt for a month in the deep taiga and try to visualize from there. How will warm clothes, a comfortable home and a gourmet warehouse be attracted?

What in life depends on a person?

The conclusion just made seems to hint to us that there is not much. I see no point in calculating what percentage of life is determined by ourselves, and what percentage is determined by luck / bad luck. What is the difference in the end?

Are you going to write a dissertation on this subject?

After all, we do not need academic knowledge, but a guide to action. Let it be at least one percent! What does it change?

In any case, it is better to actively influence your life than to sit back and swear bad luck. Do the best you can, get one percent closer to your goals and your success, and it will take you a little less luck to get there.

You need to think about how to expand your influence on your affairs, of course, always remembering that you cannot achieve absolute control - fate and luck will always matter.

Bottom line: it is completely indifferent how much we (theoretically, practically ...) have power over our lives, and what role is played by luck or bad luck. Rely on yourself and don't expect a freebie - then if it comes, it will pleasant surprise... Do it yourself! Yes, not original. Can you recommend something better?

Bad luck, justice and human nature

All of the above is quite obvious. Nevertheless, in human life there is an ineradicable striving for justice. And luck, of course. All this gives rise to many stereotypes that interfere with a sober assessment of reality.

Take a closer look at the commentary:

one, practically doing nothing, gets everything, and the other, working like a damn (does not drink, does not walk), remains at the end of life with nothing

We all, of course, want life to be a joke simple and straightforward. Moreover, we want her to gratefully accept OUR vision. So that she was the way we see her.

Why do they say "fools are lucky"? Because the saying reflects our attitude to luck. They say that the fools are offended by fate, as it were, as a compensation for them - all the more so that the fool will not dispose of the fallen happiness anyway.

injecting like a damn (does not drink, does not walk)

And who said that this is exactly what is needed and that it is enough to achieve goals and success in general? Maybe other qualities are also needed? Or something else? Victory in life does not fit into the instruction “do one, do two, do three”, no matter how much we want it.