I’ll make a reservation right away - I don’t pretend to be the truth. The above conclusions were made solely as a result of working with clients in whose life there was a fact of their own betrayal. I'm guessing it's completely different. But for now, this is the only experience I have.

The first question that arises at the word "treason" is why? Why did the woman change? For some reason, our society is dominated by the attitude that only immoral or unsatisfied women change, and being unsatisfied is also almost immoral. It may sound paradoxical, but in fact all the women who talked about their betrayal called the reason ... love or revenge.

Love

It has long been a known fact that women are dominated by the emotional, sensual sphere. When a woman evaluates her condition as "love", she often begins to radically rebuild her whole life. Her actions become incomprehensible and ridiculous from the point of view of others. There were so many stories when a man became a hostage of an office romance just because for him it was just another hobby, and his mistress began to pack her bags and introduce children to him.

However, often in order for a woman to feel in love, much is not needed. Enough elementary attention, tenderness and care. Something, but this on the part of a man in the candy-bouquet period is more than enough. A woman who experiences a deficit of emotional experiences in everyday life easily goes towards the opportunity to experience these emotions. However, often the emotional state characteristic of falling in love begins to dominate all other mental processes. If a feeling of guilt towards a real partner is added to this state, consciousness narrows down to the problem of choosing a partner. And since emotions prevail, a woman is not always able to reason rationally.

That is why women perceive an increased emotional tone as “love” and remove those very “moral” restrictions for themselves. After all, for love - you can! Moreover, the plans are far-reaching, although the lover sometimes does not even know about it

Revenge

The second reason that I met in my practice is female revenge. At the heart of such betrayal are also emotions. Emotions are strong, destructive, often held back for a long time.

Unfortunately, betrayal out of revenge is destructive primarily for the woman herself. Oddly enough, but still there is a feeling of guilt, which is often mixed with a sense of self-loathing. Although the plan for revenge is usually long hatched, the sexual relationship based on the desire for revenge is usually quite spontaneous. As women say, “the circumstances arose” - a party, a corporate party, a chance meeting with an old acquaintance ... The problem is that, by and large, attraction to a partner also appears spontaneously and fades away just as quickly, due to accumulated aggression, it is actually impossible to get relaxation and pleasure in sex, which is often noted by the partner. As a result, self-esteem suffers even more.

Consequences of betrayal

Surely, there are a lot of stories with a happy ending, and I do not know about their mass character only because happy women do not need psychotherapy. For sure.

I can only talk about the consequences that I saw.

If the article is read by men, then they will kindle with righteous anger. But, nevertheless, I will say that a woman, after her own betrayal, sometimes suffers no less than a deceived husband. And sometimes even more, if the husband did not have time to find out about what happened.

If a woman packed her bags, planning a new happiness with a new partner, then at least three psychological traumas await her: disappointment in her lover, whose plans did not include a change of wife at all, a feeling of guilt towards her husband and the need to restore vanished feelings for her husband, and a blow to self-esteem . Sometimes such a situation leads to the breakup of a family, a war for children, in whose eyes a woman is presented as a traitor, a struggle for a lover, and other military actions. Often, if the husband finds out about the betrayal and the family is preserved, the spouse begins to take revenge. And men's revenge is no less sophisticated than women's. The husband turns into a persecuting tyrant, and the wife into a dumb victim. Pleasant again, not enough.

If the betrayal occurred in order to take revenge on the faithful, then, as I wrote above, this destroys, first of all, the woman herself. And in fact, a woman feels that she has betrayed herself. After all, in fact, she herself is against infidelity and suffered from the same behavior of her husband. She feels devastated, sometimes humiliated, and her anger only intensifies. And getting rid of the desire for revenge never comes.

And as an epilogue, I would like to quote one wonderful quote: “Those who are faithful in love comprehend its banal essence. And only those people who cheat will know the tragedy of love.”

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Registering their relationship, the happy bride and groom swear to each other in eternal love and fidelity. Probably, in an ideal world, all spouses would live a long and happy life without cheating and betrayal, but in reality, many have to put up with the fact that a husband or wife goes “to the left”.

Male infidelity is no longer considered something unusual, society often justifies them, although, of course, few will be able to live with such a husband. Women's betrayal, we have long been perceived as something out of the ordinary.

However, times are changing, and the number of women who have cheated on their husbands is increasing. According to the statistics of family psychologists, about half of all women cheat on their husbands, while according to official statistics, only about 25% of the representatives of the beautiful half of humanity admit to being unfaithful to their spouses. Why do wives cheat?

Psychology and nature of female infidelity

Despite the fact that both husbands and wives cheat, the reasons that push them to this reckless act are completely different. Let's analyze and figure out how male infidelity differs from female infidelity.

Psychology of infidelity on the part of a woman

Why do men cheat? Psychologists, especially those who support the teachings of Z. Freud, believe that the strong half of humanity cannot exist without adultery, as they obey the call of nature and try to impregnate as many individuals of the opposite sex as possible.

Women don't have that need. For her, the main thing is to choose the best father for her child in order to give birth to healthy offspring. Therefore, a girl rarely seeks to increase the number of men, but it is important for her that her chosen one be the best.

This is the crux of the problem. A girl can fall in love, and her chosen one seems to her the embodiment of masculinity. She invents a hero for herself, in which all the best qualities of a man are embodied: strength, activity, reliability, passion, and so on. But then she realizes she was wrong.

There are no ideal people. However, she strives to find one, and it does not matter that others consider her husband the best. It is not easy to please a woman. If the family does not have enough money, she dreams of a wealthy person. The one who bathes in luxury complains that her husband pays little attention to her.

And so it always is: the one who is close seems boring and not what he should be, and the one who is not with her is the best. After some time, she finds herself in the same bed with him. Most likely, a new disappointment awaits her, but for some time she believes that she has met the love of her life.

But there may be other reasons for change. We'll talk about this later.

The main differences between male and female infidelity

We figured out how male infidelity differs from female infidelity, but in order to summarize, we will write down the main differences point by point:

1. Love. To cheat on a wife, a husband does not have to fall in love with a new partner. Women only cheat on men if they have feelings for their lover. There must be at least sympathy.
2. Partner choice. A man is ready to seduce any girl if she seems attractive to him. The girls will look closely at the partner. First, they must make sure that it really suits them.
3. Development of a relationship. If a husband finds a mistress, he does not think about divorce. In the case of a wife's infidelity, everything is much more serious. He believes that someday he will be together with his lover, and can easily leave his family.

The most common causes of female infidelity

We figured out what is the nature of female infidelity, its psychology. However, many girls do not live, obeying only instincts. Nevertheless, a person knows how to control his behavior, especially if he received the right upbringing.

Why does a woman go for treason? Why is she ready to forget her moral principles and then suffer from remorse?

Psychologists identify many reasons that can push for treason:

1. Revenge. The husband cheated, and the wife decided to take revenge on him in a similar way. Or she is already tired of arguing with her husband, she does not like how he behaves with her, so she decided on such revenge.
2. Disappointment. The girl is used to the fact that her chosen one paid her a lot of attention. He tried to win her over, so he was caring, gentle, and after he achieved what he wanted, he stopped noticing her.
3. Incompatibility in bed. Spouses may have different temperaments. If the wife is passionate, loving, and her husband does not need frequent sex, she may think about going “to the left”.
4. Want to be desired. Every girl would like to remain the most beloved and desired. If she is not appreciated in marriage, she will find someone who will admire her.
5. Craving for new sensations. Often, living together destroys feelings. The wife managed to study her husband, she knows all his habits. And she wants something new in life, something that will make her days unforgettable. She needs new emotions, and in marriage she cannot get them.

1. Hasty marriage. The girl got married early. And now she needs to cook for her husband, take care of the household, children, and her friends at this time run on dates. And she also wants the same carefree life.
2. The desire to get the "forbidden fruit". The girl could have her own moral principles, but a person changes, reconsiders his views on life. And she can already afford cheating, as this is the taboo that she would like to break.
3. She wants to be modern. If all her friends, acquaintances run "to the left", she reads articles, watches programs that do not condemn such behavior, the wife is cheating on her husband, because she does not want to be a "black sheep" among her entourage.

We have listed some of the reasons for female infidelity, but this, of course, is not all. There are a lot of them. And each family has its own story, each girl has her own motives, it would be difficult to sort it all out, since it is impossible to subordinate feelings to some kind of strict logic.

How to prevent adultery on the part of a woman?

If a woman finds herself another man, it will be difficult to correct the situation. She will not want to stay with her husband if her relationship has become serious on her side. And not every man is able to accept a wife who has been in the arms of another.

Therefore, you should not go to extremes, it is better to work on relationships in marriage, to prevent adultery, since an attempt to return to your old life may be unsuccessful. These tips are simple, they may seem banal to some, but it’s not in vain that they say that everything ingenious is simple.

1. Don't forget to make time for your wife. Yes, after work I want to spend time at the computer or TV. You can have a thousand things to do and hobbies, but put aside some of them and spend time with your spouse.
2. Become the closest person to her. If a spouse can talk with you about everything that worries her, share her experiences, feelings, she will not have a desire to look for someone on the side. Here, respect for a woman, for her interests, is also important, otherwise she will find someone else who will understand her or pretend that she understands.
3. Let off steam. This advice may seem strange, since for many it is a family without quarrels and scandals that seems ideal. But psychologists warn that then there is a high probability that the spouses are indifferent to each other. Therefore, there must be conflicts, pronounce grievances. Then they won't destroy your relationship.

1. Discuss your intimate life. If you live together, then you no longer have secrets from each other, so you can easily talk about your intimate life. Ask your wife if everything suits her.
2. Don't forget about mutual respect. Try to respect her feelings, don't do what she doesn't like. But ask her to make concessions to you and listen to your opinion.
3. Fight routine. If you have been living together for a long time, there is a desire to let everything take its course, and live the way you have to. But still, it is sometimes worth arranging pleasant surprises, organizing events for the family to make your life more interesting.
4. Don't be jealous. If a woman constantly hears her husband accusing her of cheating, although there is no reason for this, then sooner or later she will cheat on him. She will decide that it is pointless to prove something to you and it is easier to behave the way you expect from her.

Remember that for a woman, cheating on her spouse is not just a fun adventure, but most often a serious stressful situation. A woman does not change immediately, usually she decides to take this step not under the influence of suddenly surging feelings or desires, but after long experiences and unrest.

Therefore, if you understand the relationship in time, make her remember the feelings that she had for you, you can prevent betrayal and all its negative consequences.

What to do if the wife cheated?

What to do if there was still a betrayal, to forgive or not your spouse? It is difficult to answer this question, it all depends on the specific situation, on the relationship in marriage. Perhaps this betrayal, although painful for both spouses, will be a turning point in their lives.

If you no longer have a relationship, feelings have disappeared, then parting may be the best way out. But, even if you have made such a decision, it is still worth it to forgive a woman in order to free yourself from resentment and hatred, let go of this relationship and move on.

According to statistics, about 40% of men are ready to forgive infidelity (for women, this percentage is higher - 70%). But for those who decide to keep the relationship, it is important to understand that they will not be the same as before. You will have to build them again so that the situation does not happen again.

And, if you have already decided to be in a place again, forget about what happened to you, never reproach your spouse, do not blame her, otherwise all your attempts to build new trusting relationships will be unsuccessful.

Video: causes and signs of female infidelity and can it be forgiven?

If a lot has been written about male infidelity, then female infidelity is associated with a certain secret and it is not particularly customary to talk about it ...

The obsession of female infidelity

I considered myself a good wife. She took care of her husband as expected - breakfast, lunch for work, neatly packed in a plastic container, dinner in the oven in the evening; always clean shirts and ironed trousers ... Other men did not interest me, even in a nightmare I could not imagine that someone else could interest me. I believed that cheating occurs only when feelings go away, and emptiness remains between people. My relationship with my husband was bright and complete. He and I ... we truly loved each other, and most importantly, we trusted each other very much. I never even thought that someone could be better than him.

But… one fine day a man of 40-45 years old came to work with us. He just recently divorced his wife. He was very nice and charming. We began to communicate, and imperceptibly our contacts grew into gatherings over a cup of coffee in a cafe. Everything that happened between us scared me very much and at the same time attracted me. I understood that I should not communicate with him, that this would lead to something that I did not need. I felt terrible shame in front of my husband, and it seemed to me that he already suspected something. But I could not stop and forbid myself this relationship.

I was drawn to a new friend. And one day, instead of the usual coffee, a glass appeared guilt…

... And I cheated on my husband. Ask why? I don't have an answer to this question. My husband loves me, we have a very good relationship, and I'm not going to divorce him. But…

After the betrayal, my life turned into a nightmare. I can't look my husband in the eyes. I think he feels everything. I became nervous, irritable. I cut off contact with a new acquaintance, but I cannot erase from my memory that one meeting we had, when I allowed another man to enter me.

I don’t know how I can continue to live with my husband - the feeling that our relationship will never be the same as before. Something is gone forever, and the most unbearable thing is to realize that it was I who destroyed the atmosphere that we had in the family with my own hands.

If a lot has been written about male infidelity, and we are all kind of used to this fact, then female infidelity is associated with a certain secret and it is not particularly customary to talk about it. If a woman is faced with her husband's betrayal, then, overwhelmed by emotions, she tells everyone about it ... Both her mother and her friend, complaining about what a bastard her husband turned out to be. To which mom can say: “I always told you about this ...”

A man, having learned about female infidelity, as a rule, keeps everything in himself. Cheating wife is perceived in society as something shameful. And the strong half of humanity prefers to remain silent about its shame.

Reasons for female infidelity

Why does a woman change? This happens for various reasons.

In one case, the tender "I" of a woman constantly needs attention and love. And no husband can satisfy the constant emotional hunger of his wife. And so she is looking for evidence of her beauty and usefulness in other connections. It is vital for her. At the same time, some find excuses for themselves and the pangs of conscience are unknown to them. And someone cheats, feeling guilty, realizing that this is wrong, but he cannot refuse the attention of other gentlemen. And it is not at all necessary that the husband does something wrong. Just a woman wants a holiday and love, passions. But this is not the case in family life - this period has already passed, it is being replaced by other stages. And no less interesting.

Such betrayals occur due to the fact that in the family the feelings of a woman are protected, and in a quiet, monotonous environment, they fall into "hibernation". From what there is a feeling of melancholy and boredom. Of course, this speaks of certain women's fears of going into the depths of their experiences and relationships. True love begins when the stage of boredom and emptiness is overcome. And it has to be done once. It won’t be easy for you to find what you dreamed of, but as you live through this feeling of longing hidden in the depths over and over again, you will discover the ability to love in yourself. And then the need for numerous novels on the side will disappear.

Other women cheat out of suffering. Desperate to receive love and understanding from her husband, they commit adultery out of anger and hatred, or maybe out of revenge. Husband can be hurt in this way, but how will it help you? This "adventure" will not change you or your life. And if you really want to find your happiness, then the pain that your husband causes you must be experienced. Cheating in this case is like a pain pill. It relieves pain for a while, but does not eliminate the cause.

There is another category of women - these are ladies, like the one that wrote the letter. She loves her husband, and betrayal for her is like an obsession, a romance without continuation, but this act turns her world upside down and begins to undermine from the inside, destroying relationships and former peace. Why, against the backdrop of the well-being of family life, is treason taking place?

It is difficult to answer this question. We are all people, and, of course, on the way of each of us there are temptations that are difficult to refuse. That's why it's a temptation ... But the most unpleasant thing is when conscience and guilt begin to torment. There is a fear that the husband will find out everything and leave you. Many women cannot stand such tension and tell their spouse everything. But think for yourself, does he need such truth? What will he do with her? This truth can destroy the relationship irrevocably.

Everything depends on the situation. If you cheated, and your husband has always behaved well with you, then think about whether this will be a blow to him?

Fragile male "I"

The male "I" is much more vulnerable than the female. And a man is more worried about the breakup and betrayal of a woman. He is faced with a choice: to leave you or to forgive and live with you on? Will he be able to forget everything and forgive you? And will he still treat you?

Your husband is not a psychotherapist or a priest, I think it makes no sense for him to tell the truth just to ease his soul. There are other "pillows" that you can tell about what happened.

And in order to forget everything and continue to live together, you must, of course, accept yourself and forgive. Don't judge or judge yourself. As soon as you lower the level of self-perception, then your requirements for people, your expectations will also decrease.

It also happens that a man, having learned that his wife is cheating, reconsiders his behavior and begins to treat his wife differently. And maybe leave without even trying to forgive. And someone, guessing everything in his soul, behaves as before and says nothing because of fear of changing his life - so be it, let it be treason, but comfortably, predictably. How many men, so many reactions.

The worst situation is when a woman cheats with a friend of her husband. This is really a low blow. Double betrayal.

If a , and it doesn’t matter who cheated, man or woman, this event has come into your life to wake you up from a mental sleep. For you to turn to your depth. Think about your relationship.

Before cheating on your husband, ask yourself the question: how will you feel later? Are relationships dear to you? Maybe it’s worth solving some difficult problem in the family, and not running away from it into the arms of another man?

It all depends on what you want in this life. A comfortable marriage and love snatches on the side? Or close, deep and trusting relationships in the family?

With love,

Irina Gavrilova Dempsey

Judging by the comments left on the following article about the signs of female infidelity, men tend to believe its author. According to the latter, already the fact that a friend sharply changed hair color and began to look better - a sufficient reason to suspect her of infidelity. We invite our readers to appreciate the ingenuity and ingenuity of lovely men. And our opinion is: it is better how to behave so that the wife does not change at all. This one is more reliable than trying to convict a life partner of what she might not have done and was not going to.

Signs of infidelity: Wife is cheating on her husband - how to find out?

Any guy can understand that a girl has been cheating on. After checking your favorite for some signs of infidelity, which I will give below. If you find some in the behavior of your beloved - know that the betrayal of the girl by the guy has already happened, or is close, almost not today, so tomorrow it will happen.

Disarming, right? Yes I know. Until the last moment, you want to believe that such tales as a wife cheating on her husband, a girl cheating on a guy, are not with you, with someone else, that cheating only seems. But forewarned is forearmed. Read these 15 signs of infidelity, and at the end of the article you will understand how you can get out of this situation without loss.

These signs in their entirety, or just some of them, may indicate that your girlfriend, with whom you have a long-term relationship, or wife has a permanent lover. If you know any other sign of betrayal, do not keep this knowledge in yourself. Unsubscribe in the comments. After all, we are fighting for the same cause!

So, signs of treason!

If the girl’s betrayal was one-time, drunk, for example, then you will never know this, unless she accidentally spills the beans. There are practically no special signs of treason by which one can calculate one-time treason. For example, a wife is cheating on her husband, how to calculate it in advance? Read the signs of infidelity below. Carefully study these signs of cheating girls. Perhaps some of the signs of infidelity listed below will seem familiar to you.

1. The first sign of betrayal that catches your eye is a sudden restriction of access to your personal space to you. Those. earlier you could easily climb on her computer or mobile phone, but now, when the girl’s betrayal is close, she will not let you go there under any pretext. And he will still squeal if he notices that he climbed himself.

2. You suddenly notice that a girl who is ready to change begins to take care of herself much more carefully, tries to give herself a few points. Well, remember how it was when you met? Why are you not a sign of treason? She's perfectly made up, you're clean-shaven... Trying to impress each other. And now she is trying. Just not for you. In general, I noticed that she wears stockings instead of pantyhose, paints like a parade, and when she goes somewhere without you - you can drain the water, horned one - the girl cheated on you. If you didn’t notice, this was the second sign of betrayal, which rings an alarm bell in your ear ...

3. You notice that your wife or girlfriend suddenly has a new friend, or a group of friends that she does not invite you to, or she suddenly starts spending all her free time with her old friends. She walks with them, goes to some events, returns late. And all this without you! Do you get the point? After such walks, the girl is usually in a great mood, which, however, instantly deteriorates in your presence. This is another sign that indirectly indicates that a girl has cheated on you.

4. The next sign of betrayal: after she asks you to go somewhere for a walk with an overnight stay, she is unusually affectionate with you, incessantly talks about how cool you are and how she loves you, although she was silent about this before. Or it may happen that a girl or wife will in every possible way avoid contact with you on a bodily level, even to the point of not wanting to kiss.

5. Probably the most nasty and unpleasant sign of infidelity is cooling in sex. He directly says that the wife cheated on her husband. You became uninteresting to her in bed. She now tries to go to bed before you and immediately fall asleep, or, conversely, later, when you fall asleep, in order to avoid sex with you. Maybe in the process of foreplay, in response to some caress on your part, irritably push your hand or you away, although she used to be pleased ... A very unpleasant sign of betrayal.

6. If you notice that your wife or girlfriend begins to react sharply to your shortcomings that she did not notice before, tries to make fun of you and generally ceases to respect you as a man - know that she has lost interest and respect for you because she found it's all in something else. It's not even a sign of infidelity, it's your wife has already cheated on you!

7. Is seven a lucky number? No matter how! I'm already describing the seventh sign of infidelity! - She misses your calls, although you did not notice this before. Or she pretends to “forget” her phone at home, or suddenly her battery began to live no more than a day, and therefore the phone began to turn off often. And she is cheating on you somewhere at this time.

8. She often starts talking about some new classmate, colleague from work, business negotiation partner, about whom you didn’t know anything at all before. And each time she emphasizes that their relationship is purely friendly, but at the same time she constantly talks about his cool character traits that she likes and that you don’t have - this is a sign of betrayal, perhaps still far away.

9. Overtime suddenly covered her head. Either he stays at the consultation all the time, or he sits up in the library, comes home late - this is a sign of betrayal, maybe there has already been sex, and maybe now it happens every such “lateness”. A very respectful sign of treason, isn't it?

10. The tenth sign of a wife's infidelity. As a consequence of the previous paragraph, it prohibits meeting her from such events, work, study. Naturally! It will already be carried out or brought up for you. A wife cheats on her husband most often in this way, "lingering" after work.

11. She becomes indifferent to your lateness, your late arrivals from work. She doesn't care if your girlfriend or wife's head is stuffed with another guy. By the way, feeling that you are not getting enough sex from her? may offer you to go have some fun on your own. Maybe you will shoot someone, and her conscience will not gnaw so much, or, even more true, having fucked on the side, you will not begin to demand sex from her. The break is close. The girl has changed, this is a fact, not a sign of treason.

12. If before your disputes were like tank battles, now she doesn’t give a fuck ... She agrees with everything, just not to talk or communicate with you. This is the twelfth sign of treason.

13. The thirteenth sign of treason. You notice that she is constantly looking at you, perhaps now she is overestimating you and comparing you in all positions with another. And he thinks, maybe play off you in the game "Rival"? I will write about it soon...

14. The warmth and smile from her face disappear. Postures are usually closed, he tries not to look into the eyes, and in case of accidental eye contact, he immediately looks away. Communicates without interest, as with an outsider, which you probably already are. It was the penultimate sign of treason.

15. The thoughtfulness on her face is explained by heavy thoughts about how and when to break off relations with you, whether the other will accept her, how to leave, leaving the possibility of returning ... The last sign of betrayal, suggestive of disturbing thoughts, has been voiced.

Male infidelity is hardly surprising, and in some cultures, polygamy is even considered acceptable. Fewer and fewer representatives of the weaker half of humanity believe in the devotion of their spouses. Society treats female adultery in a completely different way, and yet today this phenomenon is gaining momentum. Why do wives cheat on their husbands? We will analyze the reasons for this in this article.

Sex and love

So why do wives cheat on their husbands, what makes them commit such immoral acts? There are two main reasons for this: new love and the desire to take revenge on her husband. Moreover, in most cases, female infidelity occurs precisely in dysfunctional families, while men tend to “go to the left” even when they consider their marriage to be quite successful. For a man, love and sex are not the same thing, but for the fair sex, these concepts are inseparable.

By and large, women cannot imagine sex without love and commitment. Married ladies, all the more, will not behave inappropriately, unless they have a good enough reason. Sex for a woman is not just a process of intercourse, but something very significant, one might even say spiritual.

What is cheating for a woman

Female infidelities rarely occur spontaneously. Most often, ladies decide on this only after they carefully consider and weigh everything. At the same time, we can say that cheating on her husband for the fairer sex is, in a sense, a desperate step. Usually, only when family well-being is not visible and there is no faith in a happy marriage, a woman is able to decide on treason. That is why wives cheat, because sometimes such a scenario seems to a woman the only way out of this situation.

And if a man who has acted in a similar way can, as if nothing had happened, return home to his family, then for a woman there is, as a rule, no return back. From the moment of betrayal, new feelings capture her, and there may no longer be room in her heart for her once beloved husband. The world familiar to her is collapsing, everything becomes different, different - for real.

Lack of attention from husband

The answer to the question of why wives begin to cheat on their husbands can be found in the depths of female psychology. One of the reasons for unsuccessful marriages can be cooling in the relationship of the spouses. This often happens when, over time, they get bored with each other and begin to move away. In the case when the husband does not pay due attention to his wife, she feels abandoned, unhappy and unloved.

Loss of mutual interest, unwillingness to concede, find a compromise - these are far from all possible options for worsening relations in a couple. Over time, in such a family, the situation can heat up, the spouses will quarrel and conflict over various trifles. In the end, the husband becomes so distant from his wife that he simply stops noticing her. He does not pay attention to her, spends more and more time with friends, prefers to engage in a car or play computer games. Unfortunately, a man simply ceases to be interested in his wife as a woman. It is understandable why wives cheat when they are in such an environment.

Is the woman to blame?

Many women, having married, forget about their belonging to the beautiful half of humanity. Previously, they tried to be beautiful and charming, but now, when the marriage has already taken place, they turn into nondescript housewives, and aprons and dressing gowns become their outfits. However, there is nothing wrong with this, especially since family life requires its victims, but nevertheless, a man can be little attracted to curlers on the head of his chosen one. As a result, a woman becomes less desirable for her man, which results in many disagreements that occur in married couples.

In fact, all of the above, rather, can be the cause of male betrayal or even leaving the family. But if you are looking for an answer to the question of why wives cheat on their husbands, these factors should also be considered. The prerequisites for such female behavior lie precisely in the insufficient attention of husbands to their halves.

Permanent absence of husband

Sometimes it happens that a woman seems to take care of herself and look attractive enough, and her man loves her and idolizes her. But even in such families, things don't always go smoothly. So why do wives cheat on their husbands, what is the reason for this behavior? In this case, a woman may lack the attention of her beloved husband due to the fact that he is constantly absent from home. He tries to provide for his family, earns a living and often has to go on business trips, attend business negotiations or just stay late at work. A woman understands that this is how it should be, and appreciates her caring husband, but she still feels lonely.

At such moments, another man may appear in a woman's life, one who can be there, will be able to give what she lacks: warmth, care and love. Cheating happens because this other man is there and with him the woman feels needed by someone.

Revenge for cheating husband

In the modern world, it is quite common for women to betray their husbands in retaliation for their betrayal. They act on the principle of "an eye for an eye, a tooth for a tooth", thinking that this is the best way to punish a traitor. It often happens that an offended lady can cheat on her husband with the first man she comes across.

Revenge is a dish best served chilled. But why do wives cheat on their husbands in response to their betrayal, if by doing so they only aggravate the situation and, in addition to their spouses, also harm themselves? Of course, not everyone will take such a step, because a man is able to forgive his soulmate anything, but not treason. Even if he says that everything is fine, or does not know about the betrayal at all, the woman will no longer be able to remain the same. She will always remember her betrayal, in which she will blame her husband, and also despise both him and herself for this.

Looking for new sensations

Unfortunately, the relationships of many married couples eventually come to a standstill, become somehow gray and monotonous. Both men and women may lack drive, this feeling that captured them at the very beginning, when they first met and realized that they fell in love with each other. But each new day becomes more and more like the previous one, and the fire of their feelings gradually fades away. Such a family is held together by children, the spouses are already accustomed to each other and are even sure that their love is mutual. But here's something missing.

A woman who knows her husband like her own five fingers, when her husband becomes predictable, is looking for new sensations. This is the answer to the question of why wives cheat. The opinions of scientists on this subject are reduced to elementary physiology. As the senses subside, the body's production of certain hormones, the presence of which makes a person happy and contented, also decreases. Sometimes, in search of thrills, a woman can cheat on her husband.

Sexual dissatisfaction

Often the reason for female infidelity lies in the inability of the husband to satisfy her sexually. However, this may be due to other factors. For example, certain living conditions do not allow spouses to be alone when they want to. Also, a similar problem may arise in a large family. In the end, a woman may decide to cheat in order to diversify her sexual life and fulfill unrealized sexual fantasies. It's trite, but it happens.

What is the point of looking for the culprit in such cases? It is more correct to think not about why wives cheat, but about how to prevent it. If sexually, a married couple has some difficulties, then you need to look for ways to solve them, because betrayal of these problems will not solve, but will only aggravate and add new ones.

A woman who thinks she deserves better

This reason for betrayal is perhaps the most inexplicable. However, here, rather, all of the above factors take place - a little of everything. These are cases in which a woman, for various reasons, is not satisfied with marriage, but she is also not ready to divorce. A woman may have a psychological attitude that she deserves better, consider herself free in some sense, so she provides herself with almost unlimited opportunities for maneuvers. For her, marriage is just a social status. Trying to understand why wives cheat on their husbands on vacation or on a business trip, this factor should not be overlooked.

Having changed, such a woman does not feel guilty about herself and even considers her behavior quite natural. Such an emotional attitude is initially dangerous, because a man, feeling that he is not appreciated, can also begin to behave accordingly.

Why do wives cheat on their husbands. Opinions of scientists

Finally, it is worth giving here a few excerpts from the results of various studies on the topic of change. So, it is quite obvious that women who are unhappy in marriage are more likely to cheat - compared to prosperous families, in such couples, intrigues on the side occur 2.6 times more often. The probability that a husband will be betrayed by a sexually unsatisfied wife increases by 2.9 times. These statistics show why wives cheat on their husbands, the reasons are always the same. And here are the statistics about those men with whom unfaithful wives have affairs:

• 12% - a guy who rolled up in a public place;
• 20% - a longtime friend;
• 13% - former;
• 10% - colleague;
• 1% - one of her man's friends;
• 44% is someone else.

British scientists were completely surprised by saying that women cheat more often than men. However, the representatives of the weaker sex value the reputation of a “good wife”, and also prefer not to brag about their adventures. They are much more careful and sophisticated both in the betrayals themselves and in hiding traces.

Conclusion

Unfortunately, all kinds of difficulties happen in the family life of people. Husbands and their soul mates cheat. But if everything is more or less clear with men, then why do wives cheat? The psychology of human relations, which has been formed over the centuries, has established a woman as a faithful keeper of the family hearth. The betrayal itself contradicts her essence, because by betraying her husband, she betrays her family, her children and even herself.

After the betrayal for a woman, there will be no turning back. She will always remember her act and is unlikely to be able, as before, to look her husband in the eye. Obviously, both men and women need to work on marriage and relationships. Married couples should solve all the problems and difficulties that have arisen together, together, and then, perhaps, no one will have a reason to cheat.