Problems and setbacks in life are inevitable. There are a few things to keep in mind at your most difficult moment - they will help you cope with adversity. When it seems that everything is going to dust, repeat to yourself about it so as not to give up and not sink into depression.
This too shall pass
Sometimes life's troubles last so long as if they will last forever. It doesn't matter what exactly you have a problem with - work, family, or just accumulated stress, in fact, none of these situations can affect you throughout your life. So just remind yourself that even the worst moment won't last forever.
Something turns out the way it should be
When things fall apart, it's hard to find positives and details that add up normally. It is easy to forget about any joy and focus only on the most negative. Remind yourself that some of your things are in order. Consciously look for the positive in life, even if you can only find it in small things.
You've got control
The most important thing that you should remember is that in any situation you personally control at least part of what is happening. If you cannot fully control the situation, manage at least your attitude towards it and reactions to it. Concentrate on what is up to you personally.
You can always ask for help
Sometimes, asking for help can be tricky. However, this is the best way to deal with difficulties. If you find someone who can help you, the situation can instantly change. Don't be afraid to turn to friends and family for emotional support, financial help, or practical advice. 
All of this will mean nothing in a couple of years.
Many of the issues we are concerned about at the moment will fizzle out in five years. Remind yourself that failure is only a small part of your life. Even if you have major troubles, for example, a loved one is seriously ill, you should still remember that a lot of good things will happen to you in the near future.
You can handle
Lack of self-confidence increases stress. The best solution is to consciously remind yourself that you can handle problems. You may find it difficult, angry, or sad. But that won't kill you. You can handle everything! Try to always remember this and not give up.
Everything will end well
No matter how difficult the current situation is, it is quite possible to get at least something good out of it. At least you will learn a life lesson. Perhaps you will learn not to repeat past mistakes in the future, you will be able to move on, learn to maintain a positive attitude. In any situation, look for something good, because it really is always there.
Accept what is beyond your control
There are many things that are beyond your control. You will not change the past, you will not correct the behavior of another person, you will not restore health to your loved one. Don't waste time with empty regrets and don't try to fix what you can't. Let the energy go only to what really depends on you. Don't focus on external events. 
Think back to past failures
If you think you’ve been in trouble before, you may feel better. Do not forget about the troubles that you have experienced. They will help you gain confidence in yourself - you could then, which means you can do it this time too. This means that there is simply no reason for despair.
Take care of yourself
When things go wrong, think about yourself. Get some rest, exercise, eat right, and spend time doing your favorite hobbies. Thinking more about yourself will give you more energy to deal with problems.
Unlike men (excuse me men), most women take on too many responsibilities, leaving them completely wrung out, lost and defeated. We believe that we are strong enough to handle these long to-do lists and get in a bad mood when we don't. Does this apply to you too? Do you feel like everything you do is not worth it?
No matter what is happening in your life right now, you are not defeated. I’m not suggesting that I was very optimistic during difficult times, but at my worst times I knew how to encourage myself and inspire myself to move forward despite exhaustion, inexplicable emotions and a desire to refuse. Here are some of my most effective tips:
1. Get rid of all doubts.
Doubting yourself and your actions is natural, but it can negatively affect your self-esteem and your overall life. If you did something yesterday, and today you doubt its positive result, then it makes no sense. You have already done that. Instead of doubting and regretting, think about getting out of the situation.
If you are in doubt about your life purpose, your relationship, or your career choice, then this is a sign that you need to change something in your lifestyle. I doubted my talents, instincts, dreams and goals, relationships. I have developed a doubting habit in my life. This, in turn, made me feel completely defeated. Doubt breeds fears that prevent us from living happy lives. I know this now.
Instead of focusing on your doubts, think about the positive outcome of what you are about to do. Having trouble completing a complex project? Think about how you will feel when you can successfully complete it. It all starts with your mind, so program it for the better, not the worse.
2. Don't force yourself to leave your comfortable zone.
Nowadays, everyone continues to talk about the importance of leaving your comfort zone. Yes, this is very important, but the question arises: "Do you have a comfort zone?" Do you live in harmony with yourself? Do you feel comfortable living your current lifestyle? You can't get out of your comfort zone when you don't have one. And when you don't have it, you can easily be defeated.
3. Start doing what you wanted
Okay, you don't feel like doing anything, but think of one thing that can bring you a smile. Be that as it may, start doing it now. Don't feel guilty for not doing something more important right now. If that's what makes you feel better, do it. Although I have terrible drawing skills, when I feel overwhelmed and defeated, I start drawing whatever comes to my mind.
4. Visualize your best day
Fight your worst feeling by visualizing your best feelings. Forget about where you are now and what problems you are facing. Close your eyes and visualize your best day when you are positive, productive, and motivated. How does it feel? Great, right?
Now that you know how to deal with the worst feeling, try incorporating those feelings into your present moment. Today can be a good day, no matter how bad it gets. It's up to you to have your best or worst day.
5. Move focus
When I feel empty and defeated, I try not to put myself at the center of the universe. Before me is my problem. When I don't feel like the best version of myself, I start to overestimate all my shortcomings, mistakes and failures. This self-centered mindset leads to extreme mood swings, and my depression begins to whisper to me that my life is useless.
This is where the focus change method works. Focus on others, not yourself. Perhaps someone needs your help, or the local shelter is looking for volunteers. Locking up at home and feeling sorry for your miserable life is just a waste of time and life. Helping others will help you feel better and improve someone else's life along the way.
Sometimes, taking a few small actions can make all the difference in how you feel about yourself. I hope my tips have helped you feel a little stronger and more motivated. Remember, nothing and no one can break you until you let it happen.
There is an opinion that only time can heal even the most chronic and deep wounds.
But few people agree to wait all their lives to forget about the problems and difficulties forever. That is why we present to you 23 ways to get on your feet and return to life, observing which you will get rid of melancholy and blues.
Method number 1. Change your environment.
It is imperative to change your surroundings and surroundings for at least a couple of days. This will allow you to unwind and relax. It is good if you have the opportunity to go on vacation, but if this opportunity is not available, then you can simply leave for a couple of days in the village or nature. Any change in the familiar environment will allow you to refresh your thoughts and simply redirect them in a new beneficial direction.
Method number 2. Increase physical activity.
Still no one has been hindered by a strong trained body, while playing sports you leave yourself no chance to despair and despair. Be sure to set a goal for yourself, and you will achieve it, you just want to. Your self-esteem will increase significantly if in the mirror you will see a toned body, and not a limp of fat.
Method number 3. Analysis of the passed life.
In a calm atmosphere, analyze your life, think about what contributed to your current state. What factors contributed to your anxiety and bad mood. Try to make a list of goals for the near future, as well as long-term plans for the future. Under each goal, write what will help you achieve it. Think about what areas of activity you can realize yourself, what you should additionally learn. Think of something to do for the future.
Method number 4. Get new useful connections.
Remember that every person in your life is not accidental. Whatever experience it brings, positive or negative, is an experience. If you feel that everything is not going the way you would like, then the time has come to change something in your life. Having changed the environment, start changing your immediate environment, unnecessary friends and abandon unnecessary connections. Because sometimes you just need to reconsider your attitude towards people and then you will fully feel the surge of strength from communicating with new interesting and useful personalities who will definitely help you to become only better.
Method number 5. Treat yourself and your body with care.
If you get sick, you immediately start taking medications, and so does your emotional and mental health. Feed your day with new emotions and sensations, then you can control your mood.
Method number 6. Change your external style.
By changing your appearance, you automatically change inside. Changes in hair color and length will certainly entail a change in the style of clothing, as well as the entire internal state. Do not expect changes, change yourself and change the space around you.
Method number 7. Cut off all unnecessary things and people from yourself.
When everything changes in our life, and you think that everything is going wrong, the time comes when you can get rid of unnecessary things and worries. Let go of all your adversity and just start life from scratch. It is possible that it is this push that will give you the opportunity to change your already familiar place of work, or simply to dissolve the old unnecessary connection and move to this new level of relationship. If earlier you were afraid to take this crucial step, now you can easily let go of this situation and enter a new life.
Method number 8. Forget past grievances.
Do not keep unnecessary evil in yourself, as this does not lead to anything good. Remember that you do not need to look for any secret meaning in all the actions and actions of others. Just let go of old memories, live a new life with new people and new emotions.
Method number 9. Study the experience of people who have gone through this.
No wonder that there is a saying that it is necessary to learn from the mistakes of others. If you see that the people around you do not understand you at all, then the time has come to look for like-minded people who can not only understand you, but also support you at the right moment. It is best to look for such people on specialized forums, where you can just read their stories, as well as find out how they got out of them.
Method # 10. Get busy cleaning your home or garage.
If you are tired of everything and it seems that everything is going awry, but you are terrified of making colossal changes in your life. Then you can start small, just do a good general cleaning at home or in the utility room. At the same time, do not feel sorry for old things, carefully weigh their significance, do not be afraid to throw out unnecessary trash, especially if you think that it will not be useful to you! Pay special attention to those rooms that you didn’t reach before, and you will notice that your thoughts will line up in a more correct logical chain.
Method number 11. Remember those when all the time was by your side and loved you.
Always remember about those who did not turn away from you in your difficult life situation. And even if you already thought that everything was going wrong and no one needed you anymore, having calmed down, you should realize that there is always at least one person devoted to you with you. Remember him, appreciate him. After all, this friend was with you in the most difficult moments of your life.
Method number 12. Observe the correct diet.
In a difficult period for you, when all the troubles fall on you from above and it seems that they have no end or edge. The body ceases to experience joy and tries to seize all its experiences and resentments. At such moments, you can completely stop controlling your appetite and can gain a lot of body weight, and this will make you even more upset and despondent. Therefore, stick to the right diet.
Include in your diet more fruits and vegetables, as well as sweet and starchy foods, replace with nuts and dried fruits.
Method number 13. Master a new profession or complete courses.
Now it is not a problem to get a new additional specialty, it is especially easy for girls - after all, there is such a large selection of additional directions: you can choose hairdressing, manicure, make-up and braiding courses. Do not think that all new knowledge will not be useful to you at all, you can start training with relatives and friends. But it is possible that it will become your life's work. For men, there is also a wide choice of additional specializations: you can master driving, a radio-technical circle, or complete foreign courses.
Perhaps it is the extra area that will help you unleash your hidden talent!
Method number 14. Learn to control the expense of your finances.
If you feel that you are tired of everything and you are losing control over your life, then how can you keep track of its financial component? Learn to draw up a spending plan, for this you need to understand exactly what needs you will need to direct your finances to. Set the highest bar you are willing to spend. Learn to leave a small amount of money for a rainy day. Such a financial cushion will protect you from unexpected and unplanned waste.
Method number 15. Think about today and not think about the future.
When contemplating a business, we often try to find a benefit or calculate a possible result. And when the planned bright future does not happen to us, we get upset and fall into a stupor, but we just need to live on and not get upset, since life does not stand still.
Never regret the time spent on your self-improvement and remember that everything that you put into yourself will return to you with interest.
Method number 16. Learn or finish learning an interesting foreign language for you.
By studying a foreign language, you can prove to yourself and the people around you that you can live and work in any conditions, even if it is another continent or country.
And besides, on any trip abroad you will feel more relaxed and freer. This means you can make new, interesting acquaintances with foreigners.
Method number 17. Learn to say no.
The most important ability that you definitely need to learn to have is the ability to say no. Just silently leave your offender or not dance to someone's tune, but having understood the betrayal, abandoning everything, leave.
This skill will require a lot of endurance and fortitude from you, and you may not even be able to do it the first time. Just practice doing it in front of the mirror and you will definitely succeed.
Method number 18. Allow yourself to find happiness.
Many people are sure that all the misfortunes in their lives occur according to some predetermined program. But in fact, the whole thing is in our head, it is in it that the idea arises that we ourselves are worthy of all troubles and misfortunes. Allow yourself to find your happiness. As soon as another program starts working in your head, you will immediately notice significant positive changes in your life.
Be more confident in yourself and you will definitely succeed!
Method number 19. Do not communicate with those people who annoy and do not understand you.
It's no secret that there are people - vampires who will suppress you with their mood. Therefore, learn to isolate yourself from unwanted people. Better to be surrounded by cheerful and carefree people. Do not be afraid that these people will not understand or take offense from you. People who really love you will always understand you. And if you are tired of everything, such people will always support you.
Method number 20. Get rid of the bad habit for 2-3 months.
It usually takes 21 days for a habit to enter your life. But it is not possible to get rid of a bad habit in such a short time, it will take more time. At least 3 months. No one promises that you will be easy and comfortable. The main thing is to overcome the first time, then it will become much easier.
In addition to the huge benefits for your health, you will find free money that you can use for your hobbies or just entertainment. Just think about what you have denied yourself before.
Method number 21. Get rid of fears.
The best solution to getting rid of ailments and ailments is getting rid of the most inveterate fears and complexes. Just think how much confidence and strength such an act will add to you. And with what pride you will tell everyone that you were able to overcome your fear and your complexes.
Remember that even a small victory inspires big actions and achievements!
Method number 22. Learn to respect your past.
Only by comparing yourself with yesterday's self can you assess the progress of your accomplishments or actions. Only through the past have you become who you are now. Even if you have only negative experience behind you, it is he who made you achieve achievements, and therefore it is precisely the deprivations in the past that you owe to your present. After all, now you are a purposeful, educated, self-sufficient person who can proudly say that he made himself.
Method number 23. Learn to forgive yourself and everyone around you.
Perhaps this is one of the most difficult skills that is very difficult to accept. Usually, this ability comes only with age, but when it comes, it remains with a person for life. You should be aware that ideal people do not exist and you, including the simplest person who can make mistakes!
We live by setting goals and expecting that when we reach them, we will get what we want. We live thinking that we have friends, expecting them to come to our aid in a difficult situation. We think that we will always be welcome at home.
But, as everyone knows, not everything in our world and always happens as we expect.
If you're a car dealership owner, you can set a goal to sell 25 cars a month, but actually sell only 8.
Because you have set yourself a too ambitious goal, which you cannot yet achieve due to a lack of resources, connections and other things.
We can expect our friends to listen to us when we are depressed. But sometimes they do not give up everything at all and do not rush to our aid. And in such a situation we feel that they ignore us, our friends did not give a damn about us.
Because we expect too much from our friends, while they have their own lives and their own problems.
Every morning we calculate the way to work: if I leave this moment, I will arrive there in an hour. If our car stalled on the road, we panic - after all, we are late, and besides, we have another extra problem.
Because we expect the world to play by our rules.
All expectations often lead to one outcome - disappointment. We cannot achieve absolutely all the goals that we set for ourselves. Our friends cannot always be with us. We can't even always be in time where we are going.
The best way to deal with frustration is not to expect anything.
No expectations - no disappointments.
This is one of the hardest lessons: you must work on yourself, and not expect something from the world.
An easy way to deal with frustration
1. Manage your emotions
This is the very first and most important step towards resolving any difficulties. Don't let your emotions get the best of you, don't make important decisions until you calm down, even if it takes you hours or days.
2. Never take anything to heart
Many of us are ready to blame everything bad that happens to us on our personal shortcomings. We say that we have not yet deserved to receive this or to become such and such, we believe that we are "just not good enough."
Stop harassing yourself. This is perhaps the most important thing.
Don't be afraid to ask for help
- Don't be afraid to ask for help: family, friends, and acquaintances. And never seek revenge on those who made you suffer - nothing good will ever come of it.
- Watch your health: do not forget to get enough sleep and eat right.
- Stay alone with your thoughts, put aside magazines and newspapers, turn off the TV and do not sit on the Internet.
Understand that things don't always go the way we plan.
At any moment, things can go wrong, as you planned, and you must always be prepared for the consequences. This is the best way to deal with the disappointments that have been, are and will be.
Just accept everything that happened
Just accept everything that has happened. Or live with regrets for the next few years. Why worry about something that we can no longer change?
Life doesn't always give us what we want. It is difficult to accept, but in the end, realizing it will make us stronger.
It sounds absurd, but sometimes when we don't get what we want, this is the best outcome.
Disappointment is valuable
Frustration is a great experience not to be avoided. Think about it from a child's point of view. If he got everything he wanted from the very beginning of his life without knowing refusal, he would never learn to be grateful.
Disappointments are valuable - they make us human.
Channel your emotions in the right direction
Frustrations drain us. But go from the opposite: instead of wasting energy on anger and worrying about what can no longer be changed, channel your emotions in the right direction. Learn something new, help someone, or create something. This will help you distract yourself. Moreover, it will help you to take advantage of even the situation that, at first glance, seemed hopeless to you.
What do you think about this?
In the morning the sky is overcast, and it seems that the weekend is "wasted"? But in everything you need to look for the good and the positive. For example, rain is a great excuse to skip the gym or cancel a boring appointment.
And you can also be sad, because the raindrops slowly flowing down the window are so dramatic and romantic ... Or, on the contrary, call your friends and arrange home gatherings with a little wine. Or a wild party with fiery shots and spicy contests? collected for you TOP ideas of what to do in order not to fall into an autumn depression in the summer. Or fall. Decide for yourself :)
Love the rain and hide your tears in it
So, the first thing to do on a rainy day is to be sad. To do this, you will need a blanket, a cup of cocoa and a windowsill. You know what to do next. Sit down and feel sorry for yourself, because there is never enough time for this either. So here it came, take a moment cry over your unhappy lot, and will definitely feel better. A great opportunity to listen to romantic songs about unrequited love and read quotes from the classics about loneliness. ( “Forgotten all the names, crossed out this sadness. Today I will be alone. Alone on Earth, and let it be. Let the torrential rains fall, Let the wind blow away the pain. Today you just don’t wait, don’t wait, I’m not with you now ”). But do not overdo it, because " after rain always comes a rainbow, after tears - happiness ".
Sleep and eat. And then sleep again. And there is
Finally get some sleep. Waking up only to take food from the refrigerator and lie down again. Keep your pajamas on all day, turn off your phone, or turn on your laptop. Do not even try to cheer up and overcome drowsiness, do not go against the body! Girls who are trying to lose extra pounds - accept it. "Fire" in the rain does not count. Today you are lazy. You are a Dream. Become an imposing cat for a while- enjoy and enjoy your vacation, because the weekend will end soon :(
Fall into love and hit the dance
Hey, you're an adult! Nobody will forbid you to get wet anymore splash and expose your face to warm drops of water! Nobody scolds for wet socks and boots. The rules are as follows: you go outside, loudly sing your favorite MONATIK song and start wild dances. You can even straighten up or take off your shirt (be careful with undressing, the police may not like it). Catch raindrops with your mouth, launch boats in puddles and count earthworms. Believe me, this therapy will wash away all sorrows and free you from negativity.
Work B ** ch. Or pretend
In the sense of a day off? You mean it's raining outside? Take an umbrella and go to the office. Or to your favorite edition... While all your friends are lying under the covers with hot tea and your favorite TV series, you are working. Or you can just sit in the office, tidy up the desk, rearrange it. And the boss, having seen a photo with the tags # I love my work or # Saturday work on your Instagram, will definitely appreciate it. And he doesn’t even know that in fact you didn’t draw up a report, but chopped into "Tanchiki" or slept. Of course, if you don't have cameras in your office.
Surprise yourself
A rainy day is a great opportunity do what you haven't done before... Surprise your loved ones and yourself. For instance:
- Learn to knit. Seriously, you'll have a great scarf by winter. Or not. Just try it!
- Find a dance lesson on YouTube and start learning bachata or little duckling dance. Do not forget to film this action.
- Make fish zarzuela or van'troianca. Or just fry the potatoes. And if it’s difficult, “Mivina” is waiting for you, there is also a recipe for cooking.
- You are Dolce! Well, or Gabbana. In short, you are a designer. Start simple - make stylish shorts from old jeans.
- Learn 10 English words. This summer promises to be rainy, so by autumn you will be speaking a very perfect foreign language.
