The dilemma concerning the question "Can godparents who baptized one baby get married?" worries a lot of people. This list includes both the godparents themselves and the child's blood parents. If, when choosing godparents, we are guided by the principle that people in a relationship cannot become godparents, then, in this case, a warm and tender relationship can quite possibly develop between godparents who are free from relationships.

A young couple who fell in love with each other begins to build their relationship and are already planning their wedding, when they suddenly learn about the terrible fact that they are forbidden to marry. How to deal with the problem that has arisen? Can godfathers get married or is it still not worth playing with fate? It is not for nothing that such unions have been considered forbidden for a long time.

Why can't godfathers marry? Should I call my godfather to marry

• It is important to understand that this kind of situation should be considered, first of all, based on the laws of the church, and not being guided in making such a fateful decision based on all kinds of superstitions. It is worth noting that the church is extremely ambiguous about relationships of an intimate nature, as well as directly to the marriage between the godparents of one child. It is known for certain that in ancient times, such marriages were prohibited since the reign of Justinian. He argued that at the time of the sacrament of baptism, the godparents enter into a spiritual relationship with each other in exactly the same way as with their godson.
• The current situation was radically changed by the decree of the Synod of the Russian Orthodox Church. This order was put into effect in January 1810. It only said that marriage was prohibited between godparents and their godchildren. Also, marriages between a man and a woman with the same person in the person of the godfather also fell under the ban. The lifting of the ban on marriage between godfathers was explained by the fact that they are not consanguineous, which means that this kind of relationship is not prohibited by the church.

Is it possible to marry a godfather

During the baptismal ceremony, the newly made godparents take an oath before God that under no circumstances will they enter into an intimate relationship with each other. This rite takes place to this day, despite the decree adopted by the Synod in 1810, which was mentioned earlier.

Despite the fact that more than two centuries have passed since the adoption of the decree, the church still cannot make a single decision regarding the fact whether the godparents (who baptized one child) can enter into a marriage union. In this regard, before making a final decision on the conclusion of this kind of marriage, you need to contact the church and obtain permission for this union. Although, if you think about it, this "ritual" is performed rather to calm one's own conscience than to comply with any laws. After all, if the marriage between godfathers is really a sin, then it is at least strange to ask permission for this.

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Summing up all of the above, I would like to say the following: if it happened in life that some feelings nevertheless appeared between the godparents, then there is only one way out: either to follow the laws of God or the dictates of reason and the voice of the heart. Remember that no matter what choice you make, this will not in any way affect the further fate of your godson. However, if you trust the rumors, such marriages can only be fraught with the married godparents. These marriages are said to be distinguished by their short duration.

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Is it possible to take a Muslim as godfather?

Maria

It is forbidden. Only an Orthodox Christian, and not just a baptized one, but one who fulfills Christian vows, who knows the doctrine, who is church-going.

Priest Alexander Beloslyudov

Hello. I gave birth to a baby 4 months ago. And it so happened that I urgently needed to find my godfather. Until the very last moment I did not want to take this guy for a godfather, because I considered him as a potential future young man. My mother is a believer, and she hurried this event very much so that it was possible to receive communion, submit notes and the like. And there was very little time left before the baptism. So I asked my friend to become a godfather. Several months passed, I realized that I have feelings for him, and he loves me too. And I'm a little confused, because the godparents renounced each other, and relations between them are prohibited. And the godfather and mother of their godson? What to do about it? Can a godfather marry his godson's mother?

Veronica

Hello Veronica. Godparents are called "recipients" because perceive the baby from the font, and perceive the measure of responsibility for him. The receiver must be of the same sex as the child. The boy has a man, the girl has a woman. There are no two receivers. But, if, according to folk tradition, there were two - "father" and "mother" godparents, then they do not enter into any relationship with each other. The first degree of spiritual kinship is established only between the recipient and the infant. The second degree of spiritual kinship is established between the recipient and the parents of the infant. The boy's receiver cannot marry his mother. The second degree of kinship is the same as between siblings. No priest would bless such a marriage. Go to the Bishop's Reception.

Priest Alexander Beloslyudov

Hello. Only the godfather was present at the baptism of her son, the godmother for serious reasons could not attend the baptism. Is it possible to give the child a godmother now, or is it not possible? Thanks for the answer.

Irina

Hello Irina. For the baptism of an infant, the charter requires only one recipient, of the same sex as the child. The boy has a man, the girl has a woman. Everything else - the godparents of "dads" and "mothers" - is a folk invention.

Priest Alexander Beloslyudov

Hello, is it possible to baptize a child on September 27, and should both godparents be present? Thanks.

Raisa

Hello Raisa. Baptism can be performed on any day, and on the twentieth feast too. But it is necessary to agree in advance with the priest in the church. The godparents must be present at the baptism, if only one came, the second is not recorded as a godfather, "in absentia." God bless you.

Priest Sergiy Osipov

My husband slept with our son's godmother, the boy began to get sick very often, tell me, can it be connected, and how can this event affect fate?

Natalia

Relatives, godparents should pray for the godson. And what kind of prayer books are they, if they have not even repented of sin? Your boy is not responsible for the sins of adults. Pray yourself, take care of it.

Archpriest Maxim Khizhiy

Hello, father. Please, tell me how to proceed. My cousin decided to baptize her son. She chose my daughter as a godmother, and she wants to choose my husband, since she has no one to choose from her relatives, and she does not want to take a godfather from a stranger. That is, the daughter and father are godparents, as I understand it, godfathers to each other. Or choose my brother's godfather, but he is my daughter's godfather. Those. the godfather and goddaughter will baptize the child. Can this be allowed?

Marina

There is no need to confuse the situation - the boy is baptized, and for him only the godfather is enough.

Archpriest Maxim Khizhiy

Hello, father. Please tell me how to proceed. My cousin decided to baptize her son. She chose my daughter as a godmother, and she wants to choose my husband, because she has no one to choose from her relatives, and she does not want to take a godfather from a stranger. That is, the daughter and father are godparents, as I understand it, godfathers to each other. Or choose my brother's godfather, but he is my daughter's godfather. The godfather and goddaughter will baptize the child. Can this be allowed?

Marina

Hello Marina. The godparents do not enter into any relationship with each other. According to the charter, and the very essence of the doctrine of the institution of receivers, the infant should have, and in fact it does, only one receiver - the same sex as the child. The boy has a man, the girl has a woman. The recipient enters into a spiritual relationship with the parents of the child and with the child himself. In your case, your husband will be the recipient, and only he.

Priest Alexander Beloslyudov

Good afternoon, father! I am a believer, I was baptized myself, i.e. As an adult, she consciously wanted this, but somehow she was delayed at the level of the novice (5 years ago there was a baptism). I attend church services, but not often enough; I rarely participate in sacraments. The last time she received Communion before the birth of her child was 8 months ago. But despite this, my relatives, who do not even go to church, consider me to be a very church person and many want their children to have a godmother. But I understand that this is not just that, and what a great responsibility it is, and that they will not take their children to communion, but live in another city, and I can hardly take part in their spiritual education. How can I deal with these situations? Refuse? But how to do it gently so as not to offend? I think that the above motives will not be understood by everyone, and they will decide that I simply do not want to. Or agree? I read that the recipients almost take upon themselves the sins of their godchildren. Save me, God!

Tatiana

Dear Tatyana, gradually becoming churched, when you go to church with your child, you will be able to accept the invitation to become a godmother. The godparents, of course, do not accept sins on themselves, but, although in another city, they pray for their godchildren. It is not such a small part in their growth in faith. God bless you!

Priest Sergiy Osipov

Is it possible to take my godfather as godparent, with whom I baptized the child?

Vova

Yes, Vladimir, you can.

Priest Vladimir Shlykov

Hello! My son will be 1 year old, can the date of the celebration be rescheduled? And which of the godparents should conduct the tonsure ceremony, and is it obligatory?

tanya

The Church does not provide for any "rite of tonsure", it is just a folk tradition. The godparents are engaged in the spiritual education of the child: they pray for him, bring him to church to receive communion, talk about God and faith (according to age). Celebrating a birthday is also just a tradition that has nothing to do with the church. You can postpone the celebration to a more convenient day.

Priest Vladimir Shlykov

Good day! I am baptized, but I am married to a Muslim, we have no children yet, but it was decided that they would be brought up in the religion of my husband. My question is, can I become a godmother under these circumstances? And if not, what arguments should I give the child's parents in order to explain to them and not offend them with my refusal?

Yuliya

I would not take you as a godparent. Not because you are married to a Muslim, not because your husband insists that your children are Muslim. But because because of this your soul does not hurt and your heart does not cry ... What kind of Christian are you?

Archpriest Maxim Khizhiy

Hello, I have two children, a boy and a girl, both unbaptized. I myself am Georgian, and I live in Krasnodar, baptized in Georgia. The godchildren will be an Armenian family, a husband and wife. They are baptized in the Armenian Orthodox Church. Can there be any misunderstandings if we baptize in the Russian Orthodox Church?

Vladimir

Hello Vladimir. Will definitely arise. First, both the Georgian and Russian Churches are in canonical communion and are Orthodox, while the Armenian is not. The recipients must be Orthodox. Secondly, in case your friends decide to convert to Orthodoxy, spouses cannot be godparents of one child at the same time. They will have to be "divided": the woman will be the girl's recipient, and the man will be the boy's recipient.

Priest Alexander Beloslyudov

Is it possible to take a godmother if she is only twelve years old?

Natalia

Natalia, godparents are needed, first of all, in order to instruct your godson in the faith, take him to church, teach him to pray, etc. Children under the age of 14 cannot become godparents, since they are not yet able to fully fulfill the duties of a recipient.

Priest Vladimir Shlykov

Hello! We applied for marriage registration on September 27, 2014, without a wedding. Is it possible to have a wedding on this day after registration?

Irina S

Irina, September 27 - the day of the Exaltation of the Holy Cross. This is a fast day, on which we remember the sufferings of our Savior on the Cross, His sacrifice for the sins of all people. For an Orthodox person, having fun and walking on such a day is unacceptable. I would advise you to sign, and move the wedding celebrations to the wedding day.

Priest Vladimir Shlykov

Good afternoon, father, tell me how to react to my husband's relatives? We live well with my husband, having married him, I changed my faith, adopted Christianity, I feel very good in this faith. My godfather is my husband's uncle, I loved them all very much, but it turned out that my godfather, along with other relatives, began to spread rumors about me: either I was a thief, then something else, I was very painfully worried about everything, especially from my godfather ... My husband rushed between me and my relatives, but I never interfered with their communication. After a while, the godparents realized how they offended me, and asked for forgiveness, I told them that I did not hold evil in any way, and it became pleasant to me that we began to communicate as before, together! But then again something happened, I don’t know, the godfather called my father-in-law (my parents and I live in the same area) and told me that I was doing magic on my father-in-law in order to get them out of the light faster, now the father-in-law is afraid of me, shuns my does not eat food and says that he really feels that I am doing something. Father, I am pregnant, and I am very much afraid of all sorts of witchcraft. I don’t know how to behave. How can I prove that I am very afraid of God's punishment and did nothing black? How is not a godfather ashamed to slander about a pregnant goddaughter ?! Tell me how to behave, I shouldn't be nervous, but such conversations go beyond all limits!

felothea

Hello Felothea. Do not prove anything to anyone. Take care of your health. Walk more, eat fruit. Cut off all such conversations at once with the words: "I will not listen to such words, pregnant women can only talk about good things," and smile! God bless.

Priest Sergiy Osipov

Can you be a godfather twice?

Alexander

Alexander. Being a godfather is a great responsibility before God for your godchildren. The godparents are obliged to pray for them, to take part in their Orthodox upbringing. You can be a godfather with many people, but you need to pray for all of them later.

Hieromonk Victorin (Aseev)

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Consecration of the dwelling

- For a long time I wanted to know how often it is necessary to consecrate the apartment where you live? And who should do this - a clergyman or can you do it yourself?

There is a rite of consecration of a house, a dwelling, and this must be done by a priest who has the necessary knowledge and skills. Moreover, it is enough for a family to do this once in a lifetime. However, if some serious tragedy occurs, for example, someone commits suicide, then the rite of blessing the house can be repeated.
There is also a tradition on the day of the Epiphany (January 19), when water is consecrated, to bring holy water home and to consecrate your home with it. You can do this yourself. There is also an ancient tradition when parishioners invite a priest on the days of Christmas and Bright Week, for festive congratulations (Glorification) and a short rite of consecration of dwellings.

Donation

- I would like to know how the Orthodox Church treats organ donation after a person's death?

The Church has its own opinion on this problem. The Russian Orthodox Church has long since formulated its attitude to intravital and posthumous organ harvesting for transplantation. In 2000, the Council of Bishops adopted the Fundamentals of the Social Concept of the Russian Orthodox Church. In principle, we do not deny the possibility of using organs if it is necessary to save another person - posthumous donation of organs and tissues can become a manifestation of love, extending beyond death. This kind of donation or bequest cannot be considered a human obligation. Therefore, the donor's voluntary lifetime consent is a condition for the legitimacy and moral acceptability of explantation.

Cremation of the dead

- Due to my age, I think about a funeral. And I would like to know how the Orthodox Church relates to cremation?

In general, the church has a negative attitude towards cremation. However, there are circumstances when cremation is indispensable. For example, in large cities where there is no possibility of burial in a cemetery. That is, in extreme cases, when there is no other way out, cremation is also possible, but after the funeral service. But then nothing but ash remains of a person. According to Christian tradition, the deceased should be buried in the cemetery. The Church's teaching on life after death says that the resurrection will come when all the dead will be resurrected and will rise in the body. Therefore, the Orthodox have a special attitude towards the body of the deceased: it is ennobled and decorated before the funeral.

Can you choose a Catholic as godfather?

- I will soon have a baby and then I will baptize him in the church (I am baptized in the Orthodox Church), and in this regard, my question is:I have only a friend, like a sister, whom I want to see my child's godmother, but she's a Catholic. Can I choose her as a godmother?

There is no Eucharistic communion between our Churches, that is, there is no communion, although we consider baptism to be valid.

There is a way out - for your friend to join the Orthodox Church, turning to a priest to perform the Sacrament of Penance, provided that she has already accepted confirmation (chrismation) in her church. If not, then perform the Rite of Confirmation in advance.

What if there is no way to choose two receivers (godparents)?

- Hello, please tell me, is it possible to baptize a daughter if there is only a godfather?

You can baptize a child. However, the following should be taken into account:

If you are raising your daughter alone, then in the future you cannot create your own family with your godfather.

When the girl grows up, questions will arise that the children are embarrassed to discuss with their parents, so the godmother is preferable for the girl, and the dad for the boy. In order to be there at that moment and, if possible, explain everything correctly.

When choosing a godfather for our child, we need to know the main conditions:

Future godparents must be baptized in the Orthodox Church;

It is very good if they regularly confess and receive communion - orat least they are ready to change their lives according to the commandments of God (this is already in the competence of the priest, after interviewing them).

Godfather (recipient) - in the Sacrament of Baptism, a witness, a surety for the faith of the baptized person, obliged to instruct him in the rules of Christian life. The custom of having recipients at Baptism goes back to the most ancient Apostolic Tradition.By agreeing to become the Godfather, we must realize that we are taking on certain obligations to the godchild, parents, and God.

The godparents have (conditionally) 3 main duties in relation to the godchildren:

Prayer - the godfather is obliged to pray for his godson, and also to teach him to pray so that the godson himself can communicate with God and ask Him for help in all his life circumstances.

Doctrine - to teach the godson the basics of the Christian faith, i.e. the law of God.

Moral - by his example, the godfather should teach human virtues - love, kindness, mercy, honesty, so that his godson grows up as a true Christian.

Before parents, in the event of a tragedy in the child's family, be ready to adopt or adopt, that is, be a close friend of the family.

Before God - not to be tempted "Woe to him through whom they come (Luke 17: 1)."

Through the Sacrament of Baptism, we enter into a close spiritual relationship with the godchildren and their parents - we are close relatives.

Commemoration of the deceased drug addicts

Please answer, when and how can a deceased addict be remembered, they say that they are considered suicides?

Addiction is a disease. If death occurs as a result of a deliberate overdose, it is suicide. All who care about him need to pray; you cannot submit a note to the altar. Own pious life and charity, then how can you help this person. If the body cannot withstand, because a person cannot cope with passion on his own, then upon confirmation by medical certificates, with the blessing of the ruling bishop, it is possible to perform a funeral service.

Should I take a blessing for fasting?

- I recently started observing fasts. I read everywhere that Great Lent is very difficult and for all positions one should ask the priest's blessings. Do I have to do this?

You don't need to take a personal blessing. But the priest can help you to spend the time of fasting correctly, without harming the health of body and soul. Especially those who are just getting down to spiritual exploits.

How to behave in a work collective?

- I work in a contented large organization. I have a good team in the majority, but there are also bad, envious, evil and gloating people. Advise me what prayer to read and how to behave?

After all, we are not born envious and angry, and not all people can overcome their passions and vices at once, sometimes they simply do not notice them and do not understand that they have to be different. Others are aware, but it is impossible to improve right away - after all, this is painstaking work. The team itself gathers for a reason. Someone, someone is sent by the Lord for admonition. We must learn to be in a different society, without losing our Christian dignity, maintaining patience, respect, goodwill, while maintaining subordination and not allowing familiarity.

There is no need to look for a special prayer, it is enough to follow the rule that the priest who confesses you has established for you.The science is so that we do not fall into these spiritual traps, do not be led to anger, gloating, envy.

Could suicide be "by fate"?

- Hello! Please tell me, can suicide be written in the fate of a person? And if not, how can you ask God to die? If I feel that I can’t fix anything in this life .. I made too many mistakes, made too many enemies ...

No, he can not. A person is inclined to this thought due to the glamor of Satan, in whose net a person fell for his wrong actions. But there is nothing that cannot be corrected with God's help. The Sacrament of Confession gives a believer a chance to start all over again, but now with God. And no matter what mistakes were in the past. Take your time to make quick conclusions and conclusions, give God the opportunity to return you to a fulfilling life.

Can a godfather marry his godson's mother?

- My friend has an interesting situation, he does not know how to deal with it.The question is as follows - he is the godfather for the child. The mother of the child is divorced. Have there been such cases in your practice when the mother of the child married the godfather? The godfather's explanation is that taking on the role of the second father, he would like to give more to the child than just the godfather.How does the Church view this?

Through the Sacrament of Baptism, we enter into a close spiritual relationship with the godchildren and their parents - we are close relatives. This kinship was recognized by a circular decree of the Holy Synod of January 19, 1810 (on the basis of Canon 53 of the VI Ecumenical Council) as an obstacle to marriage between the godfather and his goddaughter and her mother. TOAs a priest, I cannot bless such a relationship, much less marry!In your case, your friends think more about themselves than about the child.

How to relieve yourself of the duty of godfather?

- Good afternoon, I am the godfather. In the family where he livesboy, lies and wickedness reign, I no longer want to be his godfather. Howtake it off yourself? I will never see this child again and I will never be able to see him.influence in life. Please answer, for me this is a very important question.

The status of a godfather is a special position. You are responsible for the one entrusted to you child. Accordingly, these are obligations to God, to parents and by the child himself. Godfathers have 3 main responsibilities in relation to godchildren:

Prayer - the godfather is obliged to pray for his godson, and also to teach pray that the godson himself could communicate with God and ask Him forhelp in all your life circumstances.

Doctrine - to teach the godson the basics of the Christian faith.

Moral - by his example, the godfather should teach humanvirtues - love, kindness, mercy, honesty, so that his godsongrew up as a true Christian.

The godfather must be ready to adopt a child in the event of a family tragedy, it means trying not to move away no matter what life situations develop.In many families, there is a crisis of relations at different times. I do not know whathappened with you, but you can't judge it right away. From your side it is necessarytry to ensure that the lie does not touch the child, and adults must themselvesfigure it out, better with the help of God. To do this, you need to convince themprepare for confession, after which it will immediately become clear where to start.

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Hello, I have a question regarding baptism. My boyfriend will be baptized very soon, and he really wants me to become his godmother. And I want this too, because I know that the godmother will protect her godson all her life. We are both 17 years old. And yet, I myself have been baptized since childhood. Is it possible or not? Thank you in advance for your response.

Marina

Hello Marina. Godparents are needed only for babies who are mentally disabled and do not know the Russian language (rather, a translator). And you also need to know that spiritual kinship is higher than nature. Godparents cannot marry or marry their godchildren.

Priest Alexander Beloslyudov

Please tell me if I can marry the son of my younger brother's godmother?

Irina

Hello Irina! Yes, you can. The Church restricts marriages to only two degrees of spiritual kinship, that is, marriages are prohibited only between recipients, perceived and their parents.

Priest Vladimir Shlykov

Hello, father! A year ago, my own uncle died, he was my godfather, a year has already been highlighted for him this year. Can you please tell me if it is already possible to get married and get married? Or wait another year? Thanks!

Natalia

Natalia, what is it - "shone"? And why wait a year, let alone two, to get married? If you have a fiancé, then, of course, you can get married and get married. Before the wedding, you need to prepare, confess and receive communion for you and your groom.

Hieromonk Victorin (Aseev)

Can you please tell me if it is possible to marry a man if 10 years ago I had an intimate relationship with his best friend, and besides, the mother of this same best friend is my young man's godmother? He is at a loss because of this, does not know what to do, asks me to help him with this, but I don’t know how. What would you recommend?

Hope

I would advise you, Nadezhda, to repent and confess your prodigal cohabitation, with a sincere intention never to sin again. There are no barriers to marriage.

Priest Alexander Beloslyudov

Is it possible to marry a fourth cousin if my father is his godfather?

Anna

Hello Anna! According to the decree of the Holy Synod of January 19, 1810, marriages concluded between persons of the 4th degree of lateral consanguinity (for example, between a second cousin and a sister of the sixth degree of relationship) are unconditionally prohibited and subject to dissolution. By the same decree, the Most Holy Synod of the Russian Orthodox Church limited marriages of spiritual kinship to only two degrees, that is, forbade marriages between recipients and their parents. Thus, you can marry your fourth cousin.

Priest Vladimir Shlykov

Hello. Forgive me for not being personally, there is no such possibility. The thing is that my daughter's godfather made me an offer to marry him. But as far as I know, this is not possible. It is said that between godparents there can be no relationship other than spiritual. But we are not godparents - he is the godfather, and I am my own mother. And it is also said that if something happens to the parents, then the godparents take on the upbringing. My daughter has no father (he ran away before her birth), I don't know what to do. Explain to me, please, is a relationship possible between the godfather and the child's mother? And I also remembered that my daughter's godfather was baptized on the same day as the baby, an hour earlier. Is it correct? Thanks.

Darya

Dear Daria, on this issue it is necessary to contact the local bishop so that, after considering your situation, he blesses what is useful for all of you. As for the day of the baptism, it doesn't matter.

Archpriest Andrei Efanov