Don't be afraid to make mistakes!

“Easy to say, but difficult to do,” an incredulous reader will say, and he will be right in some ways.

But no matter, today we will finally learn how to get rid of the fear of mistakes. The technique proposed in this article will help you, dear visitors of Healthy Lifestyle, to reconsider internal installations and thanks to this, react more consciously to mistakes.

Probably inside each of us, even if very deep in our souls, sits a brave adventurer who knows his true purpose.

A scientist or a businessman, a writer or an artist, a programmer or a designer - it’s not so important what our soul lies in. What's more important is what each of us can find.

Unfortunately, it is the fear of making a mistake that often prevents us from fully expressing ourselves. Because of this, many of our dreams are at risk of remaining dreams.

• We are afraid of doing something wrong.
• We are afraid that we can spend a lot of time and achieve nothing.
• We are afraid to leave our usual comfort zone.
• We are afraid of appearing funny to others.
• We are afraid to do less than ideal actions and make less than perfect decisions.
• We have already made mistakes before, so we are afraid of repetition.

One way or another, the fear of making a mistake always orders you to retreat.

Don't be afraid to make mistakes!

Remember that each event is neutral in itself.

It is we who give it a positive or negative connotation with our attitude.

In other words, It’s up to us how we perceive what happened to us.

Each error is:

1) Experience.
2) The ability to draw conclusions and act correctly in the future.

By making mistakes, we in any case get closer to the goal.

The inventor of the light bulb, Thomas Edison, created the light bulb after 1,000 failed attempts. He was wrong 1000 times! But he did not consider these attempts unsuccessful. Edison said that he found 1000 ways to make a light bulb.

Friends, it is worth realizing one simple thing: a failed attempt is not the end of life, it is part of the movement towards the goal.

The famous basketball player Michael Jordan made 9,000 unsuccessful shots, lost 300 matches and “messed up” the game 26 times, not living up to the expectations placed on him.

If a person is afraid of making mistakes, then this fear significantly hinders his development.

But when we give up fear about this and allow ourselves to make mistakes, incredible things happen. The number of errors is decreasing! After all, by giving ourselves the right to make mistakes, we thereby... Which, in turn, gives us a more favorable development of events.

And even if we make mistakes, we should perceive them as experience, as part of our path. This is how it really is. Error - great opportunity learn something and become better.

Of course, there are situations when you cannot make mistakes. Surgery, rocket science, nuclear power plants... There are areas of activity where the cost of error is too high. In such cases, it is necessary to rely on high-quality preparation and careful calculations. Well, you need to move from simple to complex, gaining experience.

The article is devoted to “everyday” mistakes - those mistakes that do not allow us to open up, that prevent us from taking risks and reaching the top. Getting rid of the fear of making such mistakes means giving yourself a chance to truly open up in this life.

Sometimes it happens that with our minds we understand that we can make mistakes. However, out of habit, we screw ourselves up and scold ourselves for mistakes. Such a nagging feeling arises in your soul... In this case, it’s simply wonderful if you have close and understanding people. Tell them how you feel. They will definitely support you. Thanks to these people, you will understand that everything will work out for you. And that any mistake is a great opportunity to improve.

It's normal to be afraid. The main thing is to understand the reason for your fear. Otherwise, you can spend your whole life regretting missed opportunities and unfulfilled plans. But by understanding and neutralizing the fear of making a mistake, we bring ourselves significantly closer to achieving our goals.

Friends, don't be afraid to make mistakes! After all, it is rightly said - learn from mistakes!

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Where does the fear of mistakes and failures come from? From childhood. It was in childhood that we were taught that a mistake is very bad, that it is something terrible and irreparable, and many of us were ridiculed more than once even for minor mistakes. Fear of failure is the fear of being rejected, the fear of being alone in the face of danger, the fear of death.

What else could cause the emergence and development of fear that we won’t succeed?

Usually this is a continuation of our parents’ excessive demands on us. As a result, we see everything only in black or only in white, and do not recognize any intermediate shades. Either a genius or a loser - there is no middle ground. To be a genius is to be on the crest of a wave. Failure is tantamount to death. Sink or swim. Total extremes. But it is simply impossible to live on the rise all the time, at the limit of strength. We are not action heroes, and if we set ourselves such a pace, sooner or later we will break.

Exit: accept your imperfections and allow yourself to make mistakes.

2. Underestimating your capabilities

This may be a consequence of inadequate self-esteem, formed in our childhood, when we blindly believe the opinions of our parents and other significant adults about us. Why do children develop low self-esteem? This is a consequence of both insufficient parental care and overprotection. Overprotection is perhaps even more dangerous, because as a result we develop so-called learned helplessness. Learned helplessness is when we are used to having everything done for us, either trying not to strain us, or not trusting us. As a result, we don’t learn, don’t get age-appropriate experience, and are generally afraid to do anything out of fear of doing something bad or not knowing how to approach a task. Learned helplessness can be formed in another way. For example, when negative Feedback, or, in other words, unconstructive criticism, significantly exceeds positive feedback, when our actions are approved and we are praised. In this case, we are sure in advance that even now we will not succeed, no matter how hard we try, since the previous 999 times all our efforts went to waste. And as a result, we give up and stop making any attempts to improve our own condition.

Exit only one: do, do and do. Trying, making mistakes and starting over - until it works. And constantly analyze: what turned out the way we wanted, and no modification is needed; what didn’t turn out quite well and requires adjustment (be sure to immediately think about which one); which turned out very badly. In the latter case, a thorough analysis is required: what exactly our decisions and actions led us to the wrong place, what we should change in these thoughts and actions, what we should learn and what we should do in order to get the result we are counting on. And one more very important point: all emotions need to be turned off for this period so that they do not distract or lead astray, especially since there will definitely be people who will judge us, laugh at us or devalue our work. The turn of emotions and reactions to the actions of others will come later, when the job is done. Then it will be possible to rejoice, and grieve, and everything else. Until the job is done, all you have to do is leave logical thinking: what works and why, what doesn’t work and why, what to do then to change it. The only exception: if we suddenly hear constructive criticism that can help us get closer to our goal, then we react to it and actively use it in our own interests. Our task is to focus as much as possible on what brings us closer to the desired goal, and ignore or brush aside everything that interferes with this.

3. Exaggerating the difficulty of the task

Fear, as they say, has big eyes. The cure for this is drawing up a detailed plan to achieve the goal. That goal, which at first seems so huge and unattainable to us that we immediately lose heart and give up, suddenly becomes quite visible and feasible when we break the movement towards it into small steps. Steps that we are definitely able to take, often without even trying special effort. The main thing is to think through the route properly. For example, conquering Everest seems absolutely impossible, but climbing the mountain 100 or at least 50 meters seems quite possible.

Exit: backward planning method. We set ourselves the ultimate goal that we want to achieve in the future, and then we move from the desired future to the actual present, all the time asking ourselves the question: “What do I need to do to get this?” Let's take the example of conquering Everest, because in a sense, any of our goals is Everest, which we want to conquer. What do you need to do to conquer Everest? You need to gain experience in climbing more low altitudes. What do you need to do to gain experience climbing to lower altitudes? You need to become more resilient and acquire the necessary equipment. What do you need to do to become more resilient? You need to sign up for a club that trains future climbers and do your physical training there. What do you need to do to purchase equipment? Get information about what exactly you need, find the right store and make a purchase. Now we have already come from the top of Everest to the present and can take the first real steps - sign up for a club and find out what equipment a novice climber needs.

4. Self-intimidation

We are masters at intimidating ourselves; we imagine horrors that will happen not only if we fail, but also if we make the slightest mistake.

Exit: First, let’s ask ourselves the question: “What’s the worst thing that could happen to us if this happens?” And secondly, we will use the amplification method (translated from Latin - “expansion, strengthening, enrichment”). That is, let’s give free rein to our imagination and come up with nightmarish and tragic scenarios. It is necessary to bring a frightening situation to the point of absurdity. You can create many horror stories and even have a competition for the scariest one. This is how we will live through all these fears and let them pass through ourselves. And at the same time, in the process of writing and living, we will feel that not even a billionth part of what we have imagined and what we so diligently intimidated ourselves with will not happen to us.

Three exercises to overcome your fear of failure

1. Change your attitude towards mistakes

There is an effective way to safely survive the disappointments and defeats that await us on the way to our goal. How do we perceive the mistakes we have made? Usually as a catastrophe on a universal scale, as something that no one can ever, under any circumstances, fix. But if we change the point of view on our mistakes and begin to perceive them simply as information that we have found the wrong solution, if we perceive our mistakes as a way of gaining life experience, then there will simply be nothing to be upset about. There is no catastrophe or tragedy, there is simply feedback, there is simply information that we have taken the wrong path and we need to choose another. Perhaps one of the brightest and famous examples similar thinking is Thomas Edison, who, before inventing light bulb, conducted 10 thousand unsuccessful experiments. It was he who said: “I have never failed. I just found 10 thousand ways that don’t work.”

2. Replace words

When thinking about the future, replace the word “but” with the words “even if.” For example, you usually think like this: “I want to become a brilliant speaker and have confidence in public, but I’m afraid that everyone will laugh at me at first.” Change the negative wording to a positive attitude: “I will become a brilliant speaker and will be confident in public, even if everyone laughs at me at first.” Such a seemingly trifle - replacing one word with another, but what an effect, what an effect! We immediately feel how our shoulders straighten and our back straightens, how our breathing becomes smoother and deeper, and our gait becomes firm and confident. We are growing into own eyes and begin to treat ourselves with respect. Then the people around us begin to treat us with respect. So it turns out that by changing one word for another, we actually change our own lives.

3. Stop avoiding

If we are afraid of something (for example, failure in a new business), then we often begin to avoid it - something that may be unpleasant or cause pain. Avoidance becomes our way of protecting ourselves from failure. The trouble is that the area of ​​avoidance will expand indefinitely, until we become afraid of absolutely everything. Life will turn into continuous restrictions, and can it even be called life? Therefore, it is worth thinking not in the style of “What will we lose if we don’t?”, but in the style of “What will we gain if we do?”. In other words, it is worth replacing movement from something (that is, avoiding something) with movement towards something.

Summary

The fear of making a mistake is based on the fear of death, inflated demands on oneself, underestimating one’s capabilities (due to over- or under-protection), exaggerating the complexity of a task, inability to competently plan to achieve one’s goals, and self-intimidation.

The following exercises will help you cope with the fear of failure.

1. When doing something, don’t give up at the first failure and don’t give up what you started. Redo it if it didn’t work out right away, or do it somehow differently. The main thing is to do, do and do. Trying, making mistakes and starting over. Until it works.

2. If the task before you is complex, draw up detailed plan of your actions. Well, or use the reverse planning technique.

3. If you are used to intimidating yourself when something starts to go wrong, then ask yourself the question: “What is the worst thing that could happen if this happens?” Use the method of amplification, that is, exaggeration, and bring the situation that frightens you to the point of absurdity. Then she will stop scaring you.

4. If you perceive any of your mistakes as a catastrophe on a universal scale, repeat to yourself the following every time: “There is no tragedy or catastrophe in the fact that I was mistaken. There is only feedback, information that I took the wrong path and I need to choose another.”

5. Replace the word “but” in your thoughts with the words “even if.”

6. Replace “from” thinking with “to” thinking. Or, in other words, instead of asking, “What won’t I lose if I don’t do this?” Ask yourself mentally the question “What will I gain if I do this?”

The exercises can be performed in any order - depending on the situation and your mood.

From the editor

What to do if you are afraid... of success? Have there been situations in your life when, a couple of steps before the result, something happened to you (“as if they were jinxed”) and in the end you achieved nothing? Or did you do something unnecessary instead of necessary actions? Or were you stupidly surfing the Internet instead of working? Or did you make serious mistakes, were rude to your boss, or fell ill at a crucial moment? Or they thought in advance: “I won’t succeed anyway!” - and haven’t even started to realize your dream? Or did you “quit the game”, losing interest, at the very first achievements?

How do you feel when you are about to start something grandiose and new for yourself: finally create a project that you have been thinking about for a long time, leave a job that has long been boring and find another, start your own business? What is the strongest feeling that overcomes you? Enthusiasm? Determination? Ready for action? Why, day after day, do you keep putting off this important matter for yourself and not taking any concrete steps? Admit it honestly, you are just afraid.

At the same time, you can look for “good” excuses for yourself: to start, you need some resources (time, money, like-minded people). It's time to admit to yourself that these are just excuses. The most important thing that slows you down is fear.

You are afraid that what you have planned cannot be achieved or that the result will not meet your expectations. It is the fear that “everything will go wrong and nothing will work out” that makes you postpone the implementation of plans indefinitely. long term– in other words, never begin to implement your plans.

No room for error

Fear of any new endeavor is normal. Everyone experiences it when faced with something unknown at the level of instinct: “we need to see what is there, beyond the line, whether it is dangerous and how to handle it.” But if, despite fear, we nevertheless begin to act, everything is in order.

It’s another matter when fear turns into a powerful deterrent that prevents you from starting to act. If you stop controlling it, trying to stay in your comfort zone, this zone will become more and more narrow over time. It will become painfully scary to take any new action, because it creates stress and shock, and the person is already accustomed to avoiding these troubles at all costs.

At the same time, a person may think that everything is fine, and he is in complete control of the situation, not noticing that he has become a hostage to the fear of making a mistake. You can understand that fear is already completely guiding your actions and controlling your life by several signs:

• Fear of trying something unusual, new.
• Avoidance complex tasks and projects.
• Procrastination and the habit of leaving things started unfinished. Often these signs are not a manifestation of laziness, but a consequence of the fear of “doing something wrong” and criticism from others.
• Perfectionism or the ability to do only what you are guaranteed to do perfectly.

Why does this kind of fear arise and how to overcome it?

The fear of making a mistake, like many other fears and complexes, is formed in early age. If parents

• your work was often criticized, whether it was a school assignment, a craft project, or an assignment done “wrong”;
• severely punished for misconduct;
• categorically did not encourage initiative and required you to “ask permission” before you start doing what you have in mind -

they have done everything to create fear in you before any new endeavor. You have matured, but your “inner child” is still waiting for approval and permission to do what he wants. In advanced cases this parental behavior can lead to OCPD (obsessive-compulsive personality disorder).

A public fiasco or other traumatic experience received at an early age can also play a significant role in the formation of this type of fear.

The next stage at which the fear of mistakes is reinforced (or formed in those who are luckier with parents) is school. The school grading system is structured in such a way that the student does not have the right to make mistakes: he does the work and receives material confirmation of the correctness/incorrection of his actions in the form of a grade that affects the overall final grade. In this case, of course, it is possible to “correct” the assessment, but it will still be taken into account when summing up the results. Such a system puts the child in conditions that are more stringent than in adult life: having done his work incorrectly, a specialist has the opportunity to redo it, correct shortcomings and receive approval. The child does not have such a right.

Moreover, at a certain point, the teacher’s attitude towards the student is formed on the basis of the amount of grades that he has already received during the educational process. Teachers are real people, and it is easier for them to “rank” students, dividing them into “weak” and “strong”. Once placed in the category of “underachievers,” it is extremely difficult, sometimes impossible, for a child to get ahead from an outsider position. As a rule, this happens if the teacher or school changes, and the child begins to be assessed unbiasedly, “from scratch.”

At the same time, it is somehow forgotten that a mark is only a conditional marker that is used to mark the degree of assimilation of a particular block curriculum. At the suggestion of teachers, and often parents, it turns into an end in itself for the child. He begins to panic about getting the next “pair”, because... knows for sure that this is an irreparable step on the way to becoming an outsider. And this “fear training” takes place over the course of 11 school years!

By the way, it has been noticed that school “excellent” and “good” students are more afraid of failure than “C” students. They are more trained in avoiding failed situations. It is not surprising that it is often students with average and even low academic performance who become more successful people. They learned from childhood that failures and mistakes are normal and they stopped or never learned to be afraid of them. They simply did what they were really interested in, without participating in the general race of school perfectionists.

However, an adult differs from a child in that he is capable of being responsible for his own emotional condition. This means that children’s fears and complexes can and should be dealt with. You can also learn to control your fear of mistakes. The most effective ways to do this

• Ability to set goals correctly;
• The ability to step out of your comfort zone.

Correct goal setting

Very often, fear of failure causes a person to have difficulty setting goals. However, it is easier to develop the skill of setting goals than to start fighting the fear of making mistakes. Correct positioning goals helps a person figure out what exactly he wants, as well as find the optimal path to fulfill his desire.

It is believed that effective way motivate yourself to start moving towards your goal - visualization. However, research results show that if a person is in the grip of fear of failure, it is not recommended to use this technique: once he begins to visualize his success, he can become even more entrenched in his fears of failure and give up any attempts to implement his plans.

What's the best thing to do?

If the fear of failure is too great, start with small goals that you are sure to be able to achieve. However, the goal should not be too easy, otherwise you will not have the joyful feeling of overcoming that helps build confidence in your abilities.

For example, if you are planning to create computer game, do not try to immediately set yourself the goal of achieving a result. Start by developing the simplest prototype.

It all starts in modern reality, then the hero goes to prehistoric times, kills a monkey that was supposed to evolve into a human, and then goes into space. On a planet living according to the laws of fantasy, he magically moves to an alternative Earth, where intelligent beings evolved from dinosaurs, and from there returns to the real world and saves his beloved.

But this concept was not destined to come true. Instead of this global project, the developers focused on one simple idea: a normal hero acts in an abnormal world, and the inhabitants of this world perceive themselves as the norm. Gradually, this idea transformed and acquired a visual embodiment in the form of a world after a nuclear apocalypse.

Will Smith calls this approach to planning the “one brick at a time” principle and illustrates it very clearly:

When you start building a wall, you don't think, “Now I'm going to create the tallest, grandest, and the greatest wall in the world". You just start laying bricks. You put each one as best you can. Behind him is the next one, and another, and another... And so on day after day. In the end, it turns out that your wall is ready!

The “one brick at a time” principle allows you to gain confidence in own strength and concentrate on tasks that a person can take control of, without thinking about the frighteningly global scale of the entire project as a whole.

Of course, even small tasks should be related to your main goal. For example, this could be mastering certain skills, gaining knowledge that will be useful for the implementation of your big plan. Don’t forget to record the results, pay attention to each “building block”, then you will have more starting opportunities for analysis and setting up more common tasks on the way to building your “wall”.

Learn to juggle

When IDEO founder David Kelley came across a book for aspiring jugglers, Juggling for the Complete Klutz by John Cassid, one thing struck him:

Almost half of this manual, unlike other similar books, was not devoted to teaching how to throw and catch balls; it did not tell how to measure the force of throwing and the weight of an object. It was devoted to how to develop the skill of dropping a ball. At first glance, this is terribly stupid. In fact, having gotten used to the fact that the ball will certainly fall, the brain stops perceiving this as a “mistake” or “failure.” He gets used to the fact that the ball falling is normal and stops sending alarm signals to the muscles, causing them to tense unnecessarily.

David Kelly decided that this approach is the most effective in general for any learning anything. Indeed, train yourself to think that mistakes are normal and inevitable.

A way to get out of your comfort zone

To ensure that getting out of your comfort zone doesn’t seem like something catastrophically important, start with “trifles.” For example, why not pick up a new hobby? Choose an activity that may interest you, but at the same time, is completely new and unusual, unlike what you have ever done before. It could be anything: drawing, playing an instrument, knitting, vocals, wood carving, wicker weaving - in a word, something that cannot be mastered immediately, within one or two lessons.

Naturally, in the process of mastering a new skill, you will encounter failures and mistakes. But this is just your hobby, which means there is no reason to make a tragedy out of every mistake. It’s worth trying again - you want to finally master this skill, right? This “non-serious” attitude will reduce the degree of anxiety about possible failures and will help you learn not to attach too much importance to mistakes. of great importance. You will gradually get used to the idea that this is normal, as in the example of juggling.

The fear of feeling like a beginner and an amateur will gradually give way to the understanding that mistakes do not interfere with learning new things. Once you reach a certain level of skill, you will gain self-confidence. Over time, this feeling will spread to other, more significant areas of your interests.

And you shouldn’t assume that self-doubt and fear of failure are congenital feature character that cannot be overcome. You have already proven that you are quite capable of this when you acquired the skill of walking at the age of one to one and a half years. At first, you were also scared to stand on your feet and it hurt to fall - but you learned to walk!

After all, devoting at least a few minutes a day to something that can bring you closer to your dreams is a more effective way than just sitting and being afraid that nothing will work out.

P.S.

When we started working on SmartProgress, we were also tormented by doubts: is it worth starting? And yes, we were scared too. But fear is normal, you can simply ignore it and get on with things. In the end, “interesting” and “like” become stronger than “scary.” And now new users are joining the project, there are more and more of them, the process has started, and I want to continue without stopping halfway.

And confirmation that the resource we created is truly necessary and useful are letters from our users, grateful reviews and, most importantly, the realized goals of the project participants.

We are far from thinking that everything we have done is perfect, but the experience we have gained helps us develop, act more consciously and more clearly formulate the tasks that still need to be solved.

We are moving towards our goal, and we sincerely wish you to achieve the goals that you set for yourself.

It's not scary to start. It's scary to stay in one place without even trying to change anything.

Phobias, or obsessive fears that worsen in certain situations, are common to many people. Where do they come from? According to experts, the causes of phobias are rooted in a person’s past and serve as a protective reaction from unpleasant experiences and memories.

All types of phobias can be divided into 3 types: simple (fear of a specific object), social phobia (manifest only in the presence of others) and situational (a person is afraid specific situation, which causes him anxiety).

Getting rid of some fear is not easy, but it is possible. For example, it is necessary to “bring closer” a person suffering from a phobia to the object of his fear.

In addition to well-known phobias, such as fear of heights (acrophobia), fear of flying in an airplane (aerophobia), fear of loneliness (autophobia), fear of animals (zoophobia), fear of confined spaces (claustrophobia), fear of water (aquaphobia), fear of death ( thanatophobia), fear of blood (hemaphobia), there are quite rare species phobias. Today we’ll tell you about them.

1. Astraphobia - panicky fear of thunder and lightning

People susceptible to astraphobia feel inexplicable anxiety during thunder and lightning, especially when they are alone at that moment. As a rule, they begin to look for additional shelter where they feel safer.

This type of fear is also characteristic of animals, especially dogs, which when there is thunder (or, for example, when a gun fires during a fireworks display) begin to run in panic, hide, and whine.

2. Atychiphobia - fear of making a mistake

“He who doesn’t take risks, doesn’t drink champagne” - this saying is not for such people. They just don’t take risks, and probably don’t drink champagne, or something stronger. Such people limit their actions as much as possible and do not take on new things, for fear of not coping, making mistakes, disgracing themselves, or failing.

3. Haptophobia - fear of being touched by others

This type of phobia is rare, although it has several alternative names - aphephobia, haphephobia, haphophobia, hapnophobia, haptephobia, thixophobia. It manifests itself as fear of invasion or pollution, and is a person’s desire to protect his personal space. Sometimes haptophobia is limited only to the fear of being touched by a person of the opposite sex. Often haptophobia is associated with fear of sexual attack or is a consequence of sexual violence.

Source: lifehacker.com

4. Dysmorphophobia - fear of one’s own appearance

In this mental disorder, the person is overly worried and busy minor defect or a feature of your body. Usually found in adolescence. People with this type of phobia have a greater risk of suicide compared to people with other mental disorders.

5. Oikophobia - fear of returning home

Such people believe that everything in their home poses a potential danger to them, so they try not to be there.

6. Somniphobia - fear of falling asleep

This is usually associated with some mental disorders, recurring nightmares. One of them was a real cinema hit in the 90s. Look what a nightmare it was:

7. Traumotophobia - fear of injury

8. Pharmacophobia - fear of taking medications

Such people are confident that medications will do them more harm than good. By avoiding medications, they risk worsening not only their own health, but also that of their children, who are protected from pills and vaccinations.

“If people didn’t do stupid things, nothing smart would ever appear.”

Ludwig Wittgenstein

What do you think can hinder the fear of making wrong decisions? The answer may shock you: most people don't succeed because they have this fear. Still wondering if this article is worth reading?

Every morning we wake up and face new challenges. This is how everything works, and this is how it happens throughout life. Even if you are not always ready to accept these challenges, fate will put them on your shoulders and, in the end, you will have to accept them. And you will have to make decisions, which is not always easy for everyone.

Many people face one serious problem - fear of change, fear of making wrong decisions and making their own point of view. This instinctive fear can ruin our lives; it distorts our view of ourselves and the people around us. Be that as it may, fear is just a programmed emotion that arises automatically in response to potential danger - sometimes imaginary and rarely justified. During an attack of fear, various events occur in our body. chemical reactions– release of adrenaline and stress hormone – cortisol into the blood. And the stronger the fear, the more pronounced the reaction.

Simply put, fear can be divided into two types: healthy and unhealthy fear. For example, fear of spiders, fear of large crowds of people, fear of failure - all this is an unhealthy, unreasonable fear. This fear is counterproductive, it causes us stress, prevents us from acting, and disrupts the normal flow of things. On the other hand, when we are afraid of smoking or drinking too much because it may harm our health, this is a healthy fear. Healthy fear, as opposed to unhealthy fear, motivates us to make better decisions and better organize our lives.

Unfortunately, many of us are faced with unhealthy fears. It is because of these fears that we limit ourselves from achieving great heights in life. It is unhealthy fear that is the cause of most unfulfilled desires and unfulfilled ideas.

As mentioned above, fear arises as a result of an instinctive reaction to potential danger. In order to stop being afraid of something unreasonable, we must begin to analyze and manage the potential danger.

1. Look beyond the danger. When faced with potential danger, we begin to panic, which in turn causes us to accept right decisions or run away from responsibility. Often we don’t even think that the fear we experience is this moment not justified by anything. We begin to build mental images in our heads of a negative outcome of the situation, and this prevents us from making the right decisions. To avoid this: take a deep breath and think about everyone possible consequences and the involvement of these consequences. Most likely, everything is not as bad as we thought at the beginning.

2. Positive attitude. We have enough strength to cope with any problems, and nothing can stop us. Try to have a positive attitude towards any situation. Look at it from all sides, especially from positive side. Of course, no one is asking you to look for something good in a very deplorable situation. But in everyday problems, try to be more optimistic.

3. Expand your comfort zone. There are three important zones for us: the comfort zone, the learning zone and the panic zone. All this can be represented in the form of circles. The central circle will represent the comfort zone, middle circle the study zone, and the third outermost circle represents the panic zone. Scientists have proven that the edge of our comfort zone is best place for learning and growth. As long as we are “inside”, everything is fine, but when faced with a completely unfamiliar situation, we begin to panic. We must learn to behave correctly in a new situation, and learn to make decisions without fear, even if they are not the right decisions. With practice and training, over time you will expand your comfort zone.

4. If you want to refuse, take a step forward. Let fear and doubts torment you, let your inner critic scream at the top of your lungs, preventing you from making decisions, no matter what, take a step forward. By doing this, you will expand your boundaries, making uncomfortable situations comfortable. You never know if you will succeed if you don't try. Therefore, be bolder and make mistakes, make decisions, become stronger.

5. Don't avoid or put off tasks and activities. Often people put off or delay decisions certain tasks only because they are afraid of the result. But why put it off, because you will have to do it anyway, then it won’t get easier, you will only complicate the situation. Pressure and tension increase over time, so stop putting off or avoiding tasks and start doing everything on time. This will help you feel more confident.

6. Don't be afraid of competition. We are just competitors, just like everyone else. But we shouldn't give up simply because we're scared. Remember, just because you can't read the fear on your competitors' faces doesn't mean they aren't afraid. The most important rule of winning is participation. Also, stop looking up to others, look up to yourself. Compare only your present self with your past self.

7. Strengthen your will with religious beliefs. Faith will strengthen your spirit, and you will make decisions more easily in new situations.

8. Get enough sleep. Typically, coping with stress that arises in situations unknown to you can be much more difficult when you don't get enough sleep. Your body requires healthy rest and if you haven't gotten enough sleep for too long, you'll be faced with another problem that can make the situation worse: fatigue. Healthy sleep will allow you to be more fresh when making important decisions.

Stop being afraid of making the wrong decisions, you never know if it's actually the right one, and if you don't try, what will come of it? Are you looking forward to new opportunities? Was it worth it then to miss the previous opportunity without even trying to grab it? Be brave, and good luck to you!