Advice: if the girl has a bag (or backpack), pay attention to how she holds on to it. If a girl is holding on tight to her bag while talking to you, this may be a sign that she is a little scared or nervous, and also does not feel very comfortable around you. Better to leave her alone and try to strike up a conversation later.

Feel the ground by taking the girl by the hand or putting her arm around her shoulders. When you are alone with her, try gently touching her arm to see how she reacts. If her palm is open, try to take her hand. If this seems too bold a move for you, cling to the girl during a walk. If she doesn't lean back, try hugging her.

• If she snuggles up to you or takes your hand, keep moving for a while so you don't seem too impatient.
• Another common way to test the waters is to try pulling the girl's hair back. However, despite the fact that this gesture looks beautiful in films, it can be quite risky. The girl may think that you are reaching for her face and turn away.
• If a girl takes your hand, the chances are high that she is ready for a kiss, but if you try to hug her, you risk less. Based on how confident you feel.

ADVICE OF THE SPECIALIST

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Connell Barrett is a relationship specialist and founder and lead coach of Dating Transformation, his own relationship consulting firm near New York City, founded in 2017. Advises clients on the basis of his dating system A.C.E.: authenticity (authenticity), clarity (clarity) and expressiveness (expressiveness). He is also a dating coach for the mobile online service The League. His work has been featured in Cosmopolitan, The Oprah Magazine and Today.

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Our specialist agrees: Opportunity can present itself in many situations. For example, you may notice that the girl is making deep eye contact, or that she is leaning closer to you and mimicking yours with her body language. If that moment comes, it's probably the right time for a kiss.

Get consent by asking if you can kiss her. Don't kiss a girl without permission. You can be direct and just ask: “Can I kiss you?” You can also take a more romantic approach and say something like, “Nothing will give me more joy than kissing you this very minute,” or “You are so beautiful. I would like to kiss you right now."

• If the girl herself takes the initiative in a kiss, do not stop her to get consent. You already have it.
• Suck on a mint or chew on some mint gum a few minutes before you ask a girl for a kiss to make sure your breath is fresh.
• Once you have consent, don't waste time. Turn to face the girl and get ready!

Initiate a kiss

1. Take the girl by the hand or hug her. If you held her hand or hugged her before, maintain that position as you turn to face her. Otherwise, take a quick look at her and check where her hands are. If she has them in front of her, grab them. If they lie on the sides, put your arm around the girl's waist.

   • If you feel uncomfortable holding her hand or hugging her, you can put your hands on her shoulders. This is the golden mean between a full hug and a standing still.
   • Don't give up unless it's a playful and quick kiss. Otherwise, it will seem that you are not emotionally involved in the kiss.

2. Relax your lips and do not close them. There is nothing cute about making a duck with your lips. Keep your lips flexible during the kiss and relax your facial muscles. No one wants to kiss tight, hard lips.

   • Don't open your mouth. You kiss with lips, not teeth!

   Advice: It's okay to poke your lips out for a quick kiss on the cheek, but don't do it for a full kiss with a girl.

   Lean closer and tilt your head slightly to the side. At the same time, pay attention to which direction the girl bows her head. Tilt your head in the opposite direction so that your noses don't clash when you kiss. Tilt your head so that your nose touches the girl's cheek.

   • Avoid sudden movements and try to make it a smooth, obsessive and simple movement.
   • Lean forward with your whole body. Do not stretch your head, as if you are afraid of a girl!
   • Don't tilt your head too much so that your lips don't cross.

Connect lips

1. Close your eyes right before touching the girl's lips. After you are about 5-10 centimeters away from her lips, start slowly closing your eyes. Closing your eyes while kissing is a sign that you are comfortable in the moment. Do not open them during the entire process.

   • Kissing with your eyes open is a bad idea. This can look pretty creepy and is considered a rookie mistake.
   • Smile slightly as you lean towards the girl to show that you'll be happy to kiss her.

2. Press your lips against hers for 1-4 seconds. At the same time, do not put pressure on her and do not poke her nose in her face. Lightly snuggle up to the girl and hug her, pulling her closer to you. Kiss her for 1-4 seconds before pulling away and giving her time to catch her breath or change position. Relax your lips while kissing. Besides. relax the muscles of the face and do not pull your lips forward, touching them with the lips of the girl.

   • To pull her closer to you, try wrapping your arms around her back and leaning towards her.
   • Don't put your tongue in her mouth. Keep it in your mouth.

3. Pull away for a moment and read the girl's body language before kissing her again. If she starts to pull away, it's a sign that she doesn't want to be kissed anymore. If she continues to lean towards you, this is a sign that she is comfortable - in which case you can continue.

   Advice: if a girl doesn't want to kiss anymore, don't force her to continue. Better defuse the situation by smiling and returning to the discussion of what you talked about before the kiss. This will make the kiss feel natural and make you appear confident.

4. Tilt your head to the other side after a few kisses. Do this every 20-30 seconds. If your nose rests on the girl's right cheek, step back for a moment and move it to the other side. This will bring a little variety, besides, this way the girl will have the opportunity to give her neck a rest after a long tilt to one side.

   • You don't have to switch sides if you don't want to, but after about a minute your neck will start to tingle, especially if the girl is shorter than you and you have to lean in to kiss her.

Use different styles

1. Quickly kiss the girl on the cheek as a sign of affection. If it seems that it's too early to mate with lips, try kissing the girl, giving her a quick peck on the cheek. Take your head away from her lips and press your lips together so that no teeth are visible. Lean down on her cheek and give her a quick kiss to show affection.

   • Always get consent first, even for a simple kiss on the cheek.

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The first kiss is a special moment in any romantic story. Both the guy and the girl are waiting for him with excitement and impatience, hoping that this moment will be the beginning of a serious relationship and confirm the strength of their feelings for each other. If you still have little experience, then waiting for such an event can be a real stress.

Therefore, in this article we will talk about how to kiss a girl on the lips for the first time, and do it in such a way that both of you are satisfied with the result.

The first kiss usually occurs at the very beginning of a relationship, when the two already feel sympathy for each other, but are not yet at the stage when they can feel absolutely liberated in the company of a partner. So a kiss can both take the relationship to a new level, and put an end to the nascent feeling if something goes wrong. That is why, if you still do not have enough experience and self-confidence, I recommend preparing for the first kiss in advance.

before the kiss

Strange as it may seem, but when preparing for a kiss, first of all, you should think not about flowers, candles and other romantic attributes that girls go crazy about, but about personal hygiene. You can create the perfect atmosphere, decorate the apartment with pink balloons, but if you forget about fresh breath and cleanliness, then all efforts will go down the drain.

Remember that girls are very sensitive to the cleanliness and neatness of their chosen one, so pay special attention to the neatness of clothes and fragrance. Of course, this does not mean that before a date you need to pour a liter of cologne on yourself. Just keep in mind that there is nothing more pleasant than the smell of a clean body, mixed with a touch of good perfume.

It is not even worth mentioning once again that it is necessary to regularly take care of oral hygiene and monitor the freshness of breath.

Smooth and moisturized lips may not be among the top ten signs of a real macho, but for the first kiss this item is extremely important. Agree, you would also not be very pleased to kiss a girl who has chapped and rough lips.

If from stress before a date you suddenly have herpes, it is better to stock up on medicinal creams, but wait with kisses.

Pay attention to facial hair. If you do not grow a beard or mustache on purpose, then shaving before an important date will not be superfluous. Perhaps your girlfriend likes a little stubble, but if you are not sure about this, then at such a crucial moment it is better not to risk it. If you love hipster style and wear a beard, then just tidy it up.

Having put your appearance in order, you will immediately feel that you are already much less worried. A well-groomed appearance cannot but add self-confidence. Of course, a certain nervous tension at such a moment is inevitable. Just remember that you should not follow his lead, tremble like an aspen leaf and talk nonsense.

A girl may misinterpret such behavior, then the kiss may not reach. Tune in a positive way, take a deep breath and think only of moments full of pleasure alone with the one you like.

Keep in mind, even if someone goes wrong, it's not the end of the world. Don't take rejection or a bad first experience as a death sentence. This is just an additional reason for further development and self-improvement.

What should not be forgotten

A kiss is, of course, not quantum physics, sooner or later everyone masters the necessary technique. However, if so far you are more of a theorist than a practitioner, then it is worth remembering some important points that can seriously affect your future relationship.

Do not rush

Perhaps your more experienced friends believe that kissing a girl is necessary on the first date, otherwise you are not macho. Of course, much depends on what kind of relationship and what degree of trust has been established between the two partners. But personally, I strongly recommend not to take this opinion as the only true one.

For girls, such a rush is not always justified. Of course, if you're both in the same mood and don't want to put off kissing even for a minute, that's great!

However, remember that perhaps your girlfriend does not want to rush. She may not be ready for this step and prefers to make sure your feelings are serious first. Or she thinks that after the kiss she will immediately seem more accessible to you. In general, to understand what is happening in the head of girls at such a moment is as difficult as solving Newton's binomial. Therefore, if you are not 100% sure, it is better to wait a little with kisses. Maybe you will seem to her not very decisive, but then you will not give the impression of an ill-mannered dork.

train

If you are not yet a pro at kissing, then before inviting a girl on an important date, you should practice a little.

When you get a complete understanding of all the intricacies of this art, you will be much less nervous when it comes to practice. Naturally, in such an intimate process, there are enough little things to feel unsettled, scared and put yourself in not the best light. Therefore, before a date, I recommend that you carefully study the existing techniques and rules for kissing.

In our article “How to kiss properly” you will find detailed instructions on how to become a guru and not be afraid to take the initiative in kissing.

Remember that any awkward situation can end positively if you treat it and yourself with humor. So try to rehearse your first kiss and don't forget to smile.

Choose the right moment

Even if you have already arranged a date during which the first kiss is planned, it is not so easy to understand when the right moment has come. It is necessary to carefully monitor the behavior of the girl and correctly interpret the signals that she sends you.

You can be sure that you are on the right track and, as they say, a kiss is within reach if:

• she does not mind if you are regularly in the so-called personal comfort zone (closer than half a meter from her);
• during a conversation, she looks into your eyes and at your lips;
• on a date, she smiles a lot, plays with her hair;
• if you touch her, she doesn't pull away.

Find the perfect place

It will be better if your first kiss happens in a romantic setting. Girls at such moments prefer to be alone with their handsome prince, so try to avoid noisy places with a large crowd of people. For the first kiss, an apartment with a pre-thought-out setting is perfect: subdued lights, lit fragrant candles, or a quiet romantic park bench, or an observation deck with a beautiful view. I advise you to choose the appropriate option in advance so as not to be nervous and not put off such an important moment because you could not find anything worthy.

Traditional “kissing spots” in movie theaters are more suitable for couples who have been together for some time and know each other well. For the first time, the girl, most likely, will want to see the face of her partner and gently whisper with him, and not try to shout down the dialogues of the heroes of the next blockbuster.

Avoid sudden movements

When it comes to kissing, both the technique and the delicacy and respect with which you do everything are equally important. Remember that in no case should a girl be forced to kiss, even if it seems to you that she is just flirting with you and pretending to be touchy.

To create a romantic atmosphere and make your intentions clear to her, you can do the following:

• sit or come as close to her as possible;
• look her straight in the eye;
• slowly lean towards her and touch your lips to her mouth.

If you do everything slowly, then the girl will have the opportunity to unequivocally let you know if she is interested in a kiss, or if it is better to slow down.

So that there are no secrets left for you in the art of the first kiss, I recommend watching special videos on this topic, for example:

Don't be afraid of rejection

Although we all hope that our romantic impulse will be reciprocated by a partner, sometimes things do not turn out the way we would like. You don’t need to immediately set yourself up for a pessimistic mood, but it’s still worthwhile to think over your actions in advance in case she says “no”.

First, you must understand that there is nothing wrong with refusing. Maybe now is just not the best moment for a kiss - she has a headache, she is worried about some problems with her studies or at home. It is enough to give her time and who knows, maybe on the next date you will be lucky.

Secondly, even if the refusal is final, and she does not want to meet with you, there is nothing terrible in this either. Yes, there is little pleasant, but try to find positive aspects here too. You will not waste time on a person who is not interested in you and you will be able to meet your true soul mate sooner.

Remember that any experience, even negative, will help you make fewer mistakes in the future and will generally be useful in different life situations.

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Should I ask her permission first?

Some people think that before kissing, you should ask the girl if she wants it. Let's try together to figure out if this is necessary.

In fact, this behavior may seem a bit old-fashioned and not very masculine. Moreover, the girl, even without words, is able to clearly enough indicate that she will not mind.

Of course, you should not unambiguously dismiss the option with a direct question. A kiss, like so much else in a romantic relationship, should happen by mutual desire. Therefore, if you are sure that the girl agrees to a kiss, then you can do without additional requests. If your beloved is very shy, and you are not able to unequivocally interpret the hints that she makes to you, then the question option may be useful.

So you will not only avoid an awkward moment, but also show her your concern and do everything to make her like what is happening between you.

Conclusion

Kissing a girl means taking an important step in the development of your relationship. However, first of all, this is a moment that should bring joy and pleasure to both partners. Try to make sure that your first kiss becomes the beginning of a beautiful story, and not a funny misunderstanding that you want to quickly forget about.

Tell us in the comments about your first kisses and how you prepared for them!

She's beautiful and sweet and you're finally together...maybe it's time for a kiss? If you've never kissed her before (or never kissed her at all), you might be a little scared now. But don't worry! A little preparation and practice - and you yourself will not notice how you become a real pro. Wait for the right moment when both of you are ready to kiss. Gradually lean towards her until your lips touch hers. Passion is good, but tenderness is especially important in the first kiss.

Steps

Part 1

Foundation for success

Train! The best way to feel comfortable and good at kissing is to practice first. This advice may seem obvious, but it really helps. You can practice on your hand, with another object or another person.

• Keep in mind that you may not want to kiss another person. After all, if you already like a girl or you kiss shortly after that, and she finds out, then this will naturally upset her.

1. Check the freshness of your breath. After a kiss, a girl will not want to feel the taste of garlic or other repulsive fragrant bouquets, because this can completely discourage any desire. Before a date or meeting, brush your teeth and tongue, and rinse your mouth with a special liquid! To maintain pleasant breath, instead of soft drinks on a date, drink plain water. In the middle of a date, you can also suck on a mint, chew on a mint, or chew on mint gum for a few minutes.

   • If you are in a restaurant, bring your favorite mouth freshener with you. After dinner, excuse yourself and go to the restroom. Freshen your breath and then check that your breath smells good: hold your hand near your face, exhale and evaluate the smell.

2. Flirt a little! This should help create the right mood. Compliment her clothes; she'll love it! If she playfully pushes you or teases you a lot in a friendly way, then she wants you to touch her. As long as you don't overdo it, just take her hand as if you want to show her something. She will mentally thank you if you do not arrange awkward situations with embarrassed looks and a blush of shame.

   • If you're brave enough, put your arm around her waist as you laugh together and say something playful like, "You're so cute!"
   • If the girl likes it, offer to ride her on her back or give her a little tickle. Don't do it all the time, and when you do, remember to be respectful. Do not grab her by the ass or chest.
   • Flirting will help her open up to kissing you. Think of kissing as reaching the top of a mountain. To get to the peak, you first need to walk a little.

3. Choose the right moment. The right timing will make things much easier for you. A good opportunity for a kiss is at the end of a date, when you're saying goodbye, going out for a walk, or after watching a movie at the cinema. You will notice that all these moments are quite intimate and you will usually be alone. It is important! For the first kiss, you need to choose a time when you will be just the two of you.

   • A kiss shouldn't be in the public domain. Do not kiss and tell everyone about the kiss. That's rough.

4. Ask! It may seem strange, because we are used to charming kissing people in films, but sometimes with such a question you will show the girl how much you respect her and care about her feelings. She will appreciate your concern!

   • You can say something like, “I really want to kiss you right now. Do you mind?" or "Do you want me to kiss you?"

Part 2

We hone the technique

1. Slowly bring your face closer to hers. This is a universal signal that you are about to kiss a girl. This way you give the girl a choice to show you if she is uncomfortable. In addition, it will save you from the risk of getting slapped. Close your eyes only when you are about to kiss.

   Try a simple closed-mouth kiss first. Kiss a girl without a tongue for the first time. Close your eyes right before the kiss.

   Tilt your head. Approach a little from the side. If your head is in the same position as hers, your noses will collide instead of your lips touching.

   Move slowly and watch her response. If she prefers to kiss deeply and passionately, then she will hold your lips for a while; you don't have to make many moves.

   Get your hands on. If you like, gently place your hand on her face or slowly run your thumb across her cheek. But at the same time, do not forget to hug her tightly around the waist or lower back with your other hand.

   Be gentle and loving. A kiss is like a silent conversation. You need to be kind, gentle, forgiving ... because you want the girl to want to repeat?

   Breathe. You'd be surprised how many people who aren't used to kissing forget to breathe. If you want to continue kissing but can't figure out how to get some air to breathe, try moving from kissing the lips to kissing on the cheek or forehead.

   Stop when you're ready. Pull away slowly after a few seconds (or minutes!) and open your eyes. Congratulations! Every kiss after the first so easier given. Here you have reached your peak.

Part 3

Become a pro

Learn to French Kiss . This is the next skill to master. It's not as hard as it sounds, and with time and practice, a new killer weapon will be added to your kissing arsenal.

Learn to petting . At first, all these passionate hugs and caresses seem difficult, especially if you both have problems with the rhythm, but over time it will become much easier. Just don't overdo it and always keep it interesting.

Learn to kiss passionately . Once you have the basic techniques in your arsenal, you'll want to kiss really well, and that usually comes down to a passionate nature. You will make it easier for yourself if you relax and give vent to feelings.

Learn to kiss in front of other people . Chances are that the longer you date your girlfriend, the more often you will find yourself in a situation where you will kiss in front of others (for example, on a double date or in a large company). There is nothing wrong with this, but you must learn to do it politely and civilly!

Learn to kiss with braces . If this is your first kiss, chances are you are wearing braces too. Do not worry! Contrary to all the jokes in movies and TV shows, kissing with braces isn't as hard as it sounds.

• Take care of your lips: they should not be dry or chapped. Rub them in advance with regular sugar to remove dead skin on the lips.
• Right before your lips touch, swallow the excess saliva and lightly lick your lips to moisten them a bit. But not too obvious, otherwise the girl will feel very strange.
• Don't push. If she wants to stop, stop kissing her. You need to respect the girl's feelings. Better try another time.
• It's perfectly fine if she doesn't want to keep kissing. However, if she likes it, don't stop!
• A kiss can say a lot, so be careful. Don't kiss someone if you don't want to.
• Don't be upset if she doesn't kiss you. Maybe she's just not ready.
• To intensify the kiss, put your hand behind her neck, take her by the waist, or put your palm on her cheek. Once you do this, gently and slowly pull her closer.
• Lick the inside of your wrist or hand, and once the saliva has dried, sniff it to see if your breathing is okay. And yes, this method is better than folding your palms in a boat. Make sure no one notices.
• Keep yourself in control both during the kiss and after. During the first kiss, many people are worried - this is normal. But don't show your emotions.
• Some girls are VERY shy - as soon as you talk to them about a kiss, they immediately retreat. However, if the situation is appropriate, and she herself initiates a kiss - answer her the same!

In this article, we will fully analyze how to kiss in the classic version. In the classic version, this means with the help of lips. This type of kiss is the most popular. Among all the rest, it can also be called a gentle kiss. And also! How to kiss in the classic version?

First of all, two stages must be distinguished. The first stage includes everything that happens immediately before the kiss. In other words, preparing yourself, your chosen one and the environment.

The first stage is perhaps more important than the second, because if it is poorly passed, then the second stage may not reach at all.

The second stage, as you understand, is the most pleasant. This is where the process of kissing takes place.

For everything to go at the highest level, you must adhere to the basic rules, which we will fully analyze below. And so, let's find out in detail how to kiss properly!

First step

1. The first thing to do is prep your lips. Lips are our main tool that we use to kiss. Therefore, they should be pleasant and relaxed. To make lips pleasant - you need to avoid chapping and moisturize if necessary, there are many different ways to do this.

2. I think that this is already clear to everyone, but still you can remind! Both from the mouth and from the body there should be no unpleasant odor. If you miss this moment, then most likely you will be left without a kiss.

3. With all your appearance you should show your friendliness, openness. Your gestures should be smooth, the body should be without contraction, completely relaxed. Arms and legs, under any circumstances, should not be crossed. You need to smile more and look into the face of your chosen one, and never show negative emotions on your own face.

4. Now let's move on to subtle maneuvers! You need to pass the touch barrier. That is, make sure that your touches are familiar to your partner, and do not cause him any embarrassment. This process should be gradual, first unobtrusively touch your hand, then you can hug. This should be done calmly and not focus too much attention on it. Here you can turn on your imagination, and come up with your own methods to overcome this barrier.

Second phase

1. Now let's talk about the process itself! When you have chosen the time and place, then proceed. Slowly tilt your head towards your partner so that your lips end up touching. At the same time, pull your lips forward a little, until they remain relaxed. At the first touch of your lips, close your eyes, and turn your attention only to the sensations associated with the lips.

2. Now gently and slowly, with your two lips, kiss any lip of your chosen one. After this kiss, which should last two to four seconds, lean back so that there is a gap of three to four centimeters between your lips.

3. After you lean back, gently open your eyes and look into your partner's eyes. This is a very important point! Looking at the face, you must determine whether to move on, or to stop. How to define it? If your partner liked everything, then his face may have a smile, or a straight look, as if passing through you. He can take his head and eyes away from embarrassment - this is normal. If the face began to twist, have a displeased look, then you need to stop.

4. If you see from the previous step that everything is going well, then go back to kissing one of your partner's lips. Kiss in turn first the upper lip, then the lower, while giving the opportunity to kiss your lips too. This alternation of kisses on the lips, and there is a classic version of the kiss. From time to time, watch your partner's reactions, which will tell you when to stop. If you want something more, then you can also use the French kiss, which is done with the help of the tongue, into battle. How to do it correctly, you can read in our article called "How to kiss with the tongue", you will find this article in our side menu.

It seems that we have sorted out the basic rules in order to know how to kiss correctly.

How to learn to kiss properly

Let's talk about "adult" kisses. Agree, you always want to appear before your partner in the best possible light, to show what you are capable of, sometimes even surprise. After all, if the experienced Casanovas are always trying to hone their skills, then what can we say about us, about mortals and ordinary people who crave tenderness and affection, or about those who have not yet experienced this dizzying “kissing” pleasure?

Most likely, none of you have ever paid attention that we are used to kissing several times a day. From early childhood to the very end of life, we kiss our parents, children, loved ones and even our favorite animals. With a kiss, you can express your love, passion, affection, tenderness, gratitude, express your consent, announce a truce, in general, a lot of very different feelings.

MirSovetov offers to talk about "adult" kisses. Agree, you always want to appear before your partner in the best possible light, to show what you are capable of, sometimes even surprise. After all, if the experienced Casanovas are always trying to hone their skills, then what can we say about us, about mortals and ordinary people who crave tenderness and affection, or about those who have not yet experienced this dizzying “kissing” pleasure? People strive to learn how to kiss in order to satisfy their natural need. This need is as real as the need for food, drink, love, a constant connection to the Internet...

This need for passion and the need to touch someone, to wrap your arms around your loved one, usually brings two people together. The desire for human contact is instinctive, it comes naturally and cannot be explained. Despite this, the kissing technique can be explained. And everyone can learn to kiss.

The Art of the Kiss

So, what can you do to make the first “adult” kiss memorable for you and your chosen one forever?

Do not be shy. The fact that you, perhaps, have never had to kiss yet, does not mean anything. Believe me, the fact that your head is spinning, your knees are trembling and your palms are suddenly sweaty are just signs that you are really in love. This is nothing compared to the emotional and physical pleasure you get from the first kiss.

If possible, make the environment intimate and romantic. Candles or dim lamps are perfect.

Don't forget your breath. Stale breath can discourage a girl from kissing. If you have not had time to brush your teeth, chewing gum, an apple or a few sprigs of parsley will come to your aid.

During the kiss, do not freeze in one position. Gently run your hand through your partner's hair, touch his ears, stroke his shoulders, back.

Do not be silent. If you are kissing, this does not mean that you should be silent like a fish. Tell your loved one (or beloved) something gentle and pleasant.

Don't stress, be relaxed. Tight lips can, on the contrary, push your partner away, or he will think that he is causing you any inconvenience.

Don't stop at one kind of kiss. Many men prefer the "French" kiss, or as it is also called the "wet" kiss. Believe me, gentle biting and sucking on your partner's lips can make him even more aroused than just "communicating" with your tongue.

How to understand that the girl is already "ripe" for a kiss? You may not believe it, but more often than not, she burns with impatience and waits for her chosen one to finally dare to kiss her first? Usually this happens because the guy can’t gather his courage for a very long time, putting himself in some kind of time frame, and creating uncomfortable situations. If a girl looks into your eyes and does not try to look away, she makes it clear to you that she is already ready to kiss, and you should not wait any longer.

Women, which, by the way, is not always true, believe that a man’s kiss can determine what his character is, how suitable he is and whether he is worthy of moving into a more intimate relationship with him. But you are not afraid to show yourself, open up to your beloved.

How can you tell if you are a good kisser?

The most important thing is to monitor the reaction of the partner. Most likely, this worries more men than women. If a woman moans quietly or is carried away with satisfaction into the abyss of your boundless kiss, this is immediately noticeable, and you will certainly understand that you didn’t get into a mess. If your partner looks like she is sitting at a lecture on philosophy - think about what to do to turn her on? Remember, there is nothing better than achieving the desired result by trial and error, the same goes for the question of how to learn to kiss. Today, maybe you didn’t have a wonderful kiss, but tomorrow, taking into account all the nuances, you will kiss your beloved so that she will be ready to explode with pleasure ... Women know how to pretend and deceive, but during a kiss, they usually forget about their abilities, and do not hide their feelings.

MirSovetov advises you to pay attention to some "signs" that will clearly tell you that you should learn a little about kissing. For example, if a girl closes her mouth, gets distracted, looks away, or, God forbid, falls asleep covered in your saliva, then this is the first sign that you are doing something wrong. If immediately after the kiss she asks about the latest political news reports, or says something unpleasant, letting you know that she is not interested in you as a "kisser" - go ahead, turn on all your imagination and go to victory - practice, practice and more practice !

Biggest Mistake When Kissing

You forgot about your partner. You want to kiss only for yourself, getting great pleasure, and you think that since you like this kiss, then your partner will definitely like it. But MirSovetov would like to remind you that she also has preferences, feelings, expectations, and you will do very wrong if you ignore them.

If you think that your wide open mouth will eclipse all the expectations of your beloved, then again, you are deeply mistaken. Of course, you shouldn’t pinch your lips as if you are a partisan, and you won’t say anything to anyone - strive to find a compromise, your partner will definitely show how she likes to kiss. Reciprocate, and she, in turn, will answer you.

How to learn to kiss better?

Practice. Train. All comes with experience. The best way to learn how to kiss is your own imagination. Your fantasy can sometimes do such that you do not even immediately realize that these passionate kisses are not an amazing reality, but just your imagination.

So, sit back and relax. Imagine the object of your adoration in front of you. Imagine how you approach her, run your hand through her hair, how you begin to kiss gently. The main thing is to put more emotions and feelings into such fantasizing. The brighter the picture is, the better for you, since you did not waste time on rehearsals in vain.

And, finally, MirSovetov will tell you about one important point! Learning to kiss only on the lips is not enough. In individuals of the weaker sex, there are a lot of erogenous zones. Thanks to our ubiquitous social scientists, it is known that 97 percent of women from a kiss on the neck are instantly aroused, and sometimes almost reach orgasm. All it costs is to approach your beloved, hug her tightly from behind, brush her hair back and kiss her tenderly. When a girl feels hot male breath on her neck, his biting and kissing - she is just ready to dissolve in her arms!

A kiss is a bliss during which the souls of lovers unite. Don't be afraid to experiment. Kiss your lover the way your heart tells you. You will always keep memories of such kisses in your memory.

Video! The dry theory of "How to learn to kiss" will never give you the opportunity to feel all the joy and excitement that is transmitted when a kiss comes to life. You can see how to kiss, see a rather clear example of a gentle and simply beautiful kiss (which, by the way, lasts for two and a half minutes), you can see in the video “Demon vs Heartbreaker - You are my high”.

How to kiss? Learning to kiss passionately (+ video)

What is a kiss? A lot has been said and shown about the kiss as such. In movies and in life, in novels and in magazines, everywhere people kiss. This phenomenon is quite understandable, because a kiss, like nothing else, is able to express the affection and attitude of people towards each other. But, you see, a kiss is a kiss of discord, and, of course, a platonic kiss is different from a passionate one.

Below we will tell (and show - at the end of the article there are demonstration videos) how to kiss correctly and for what cases this or that type of kiss is suitable. Learning to kiss is very easy!

before the kiss

In order for a kiss to leave only pleasant and exciting memories, simple rules should be followed.

Prepare your lips for the kiss. Your lips should be smooth and pleasant. After all, you see, weather-beaten and parched lips look unpleasant and cause nothing but disgust. Therefore, both men and women need to take care of their lips, making them attractive. Here are just a few ways to prepare your lips for a kiss:

make a lip peel or scrub using brown sugar;

moisturize your lips with a special lip balm;

relax and open your lips before a direct kiss.

Look friendly and seductive. Sometimes our gestures and facial expressions can say even more than words. Therefore, try not to cross your arms, do not touch your face, look only into your eyes and smile. At the same time, be careful - catch the partner's body language, listen more and speak less, and then you will surely understand whether he likes you or not.

Break the barrier of touch. In the course of communication, you can, as if by chance, touch your partner’s arm or shoulder. Learn to do it gently. The ideal way is to hold hands, as many couples do. If everything goes well, kiss your partner on the cheek. If the lips are closer to the ear, continue kissing and monitor the partner's reaction.

Look at your partner's lips. To maintain eye contact, look not only into the eyes, but also at the partner's lips. Do not forget to smile while radiating friendliness. It is advisable to do this discreetly and sincerely, because it is not a fact that your partner has not read a similar article.

Get close to your partner. All you have to do is relax and bow your head slightly. Do it smoothly, unobtrusively, position yourself so that both of you are comfortable. And don't forget to make eye contact!

tender kiss

He is unusually sensual and romantic, and allows you to understand and feel each other better than any other type of kiss. Below, albeit in theory, we will tell you how to learn how to kiss correctly, giving pleasure to yourself and your partner. You just have to test it in practice! So let's get started:

In contact with a partner, slightly stretch your lips and close your eyes. Do not tense your lips and do not stretch them too much. In this case, they will become tense, which corresponds to a platonic, not a sensual kiss.

Gently touch your partner's upper or lower lip. Then you can lean back, but no more than 3 cm.

Open your eyes and smile. Only in this way will your eyes meet, and you will understand whether it is worth continuing or enough for today. If you still want to continue, move on to the next step.

Kiss your partner's lower or upper lip again. Try to make sure that the partner's lip is between your lips, and squeeze your lips a little. Don't know how to kiss a guy the right way? Right now you can practice on your index finger: squeeze your index finger with your lips - this way you will not only determine the force of compression, but you can train the muscles of the lips so that both of you are pleased.

Move on to another lip. If you kissed the lower lip, then you can proceed to the upper. The principle is the same - grab your partner's lips with your lips and gently, as if sucking, kiss them.

French or love kiss passionately

This is a sensual deep kiss, when one of the partners touches the language of the other with his tongue. Such a kiss stimulates the lips and tongue, as well as the entire oral cavity as a whole - all these areas are very sensitive to touch. Below we will tell you in detail how to kiss with the tongue correctly.

When touching your lips, try touching them with your tongue as well. Obviously, it will become clear to him that you are hinting at a French kiss. If the partner did not understand this, then the desire to try a French kiss with a suction should be left for better times.

Open your mouth slightly and try to push your tongue into your partner's mouth. The tips of your tongues should meet and seem to rub against each other. After that, you can take the tongue to the side.

Proceed to the next stage of the kiss. Open your mouth again, but this time try to push your tongue in as far as you can, so that the larger surface of the tongue is in contact.

Touch your hands to his face, keeping your fingers in his hair. Take a deep breath, and then kiss his lips passionately as if you are very thirsty and you can’t get enough - you need to kiss passionately this way. Keep sucking and biting his lips. Learn to do it naturally, without overdoing it.

Finish the kiss with gentle touches. Continue kissing, but gently - so as to leave some understatement and a desire to kiss you again.

Below you can watch a video on how to kiss passionately.

platonic kiss

This is the kiss of affection. It should not be as deep as French, and as romantic as gentle. So:

Tilt your head slightly and move closer. Turn in the direction you want to kiss your partner.

Pull out your lips. The lips should be pulled out much more than with a gentle romantic kiss. How do you know what you are doing right? Try to kiss the air. Did you hear a sound? So here, when you kiss your partner’s lips or cheek, a sonorous and non-binding “smack” should be heard.

Don't delay. A platonic kiss doesn't have to last long. Otherwise, it's not a platonic kiss at all. Learn to feel the ideal duration for such a kiss: it should last as long as that “smack” is heard. Moreover, in some cases, you can not touch the partner's skin, but imitate a kiss.

Problems with kissing, and who does not have them?

Bad kiss. Yes, it happens. Kind, attentive, sociable, but does not know how to kiss. Dont be upset. Once upon a time you didn’t know how to kiss, but somehow you learned how to kiss correctly! The clumsy will eventually learn to kiss passionately, but you will have to show maximum tact and patience.

He is taller or shorter. Does your neck hurt from the fact that you have to constantly lift your head or, conversely, lower it? These problems can be solved. You can kiss while sitting or, for example, lying down.

Be here and now. A kiss will not bring pleasure if you are busy with something else. Leave for a while the questions: “how do I look”, “is the mascara flowing”, “what is he thinking about now”, “does he like it”, “do I do everything right”. Do not poke around in yourself, but just enjoy the moment.

Don't rush things. If you are dating not so long ago, then do not rush to kiss passionately with the help of your tongue. Follow the facial expressions and wishes of the partner, perhaps from not yet ready for such kisses.

Practice. Do not doubt your ability to kiss. Kiss as best you can, only with practice can you learn to kiss passionately and "in the usual way."

And finally: do not abuse the language and do not force it into your partner's mouth, especially if you have known each other not so long ago. After all, it is unpleasant for some when there is “too much tongue” during a kiss.

Kissing right: video

First, a video on how NOT to kiss. The video is in English, but everything is clear without words!

An excellent video demonstrating both the usual gentle kisses and passionate kisses passionately:

How to kiss with tongue?

Kisses with the use of the tongue, also called “wet” or “French” kisses, are especially desirable when there is an object of love and passion nearby. Translated from French, such a kiss is called the “kiss of souls”, and this is not accidental: it is in a kiss with the tongue that partners connect not only their bodies, but also their souls.

The technique of the “French” kiss is multifaceted, and the first time it can be difficult to tune in “on the same wavelength” with a partner. However, it takes only three steps to teach a master class to any, even the most sophisticated, connoisseur of kissing with the tongue. Read this page to the end (preferably with your partner) - and then you will only have to hone your French kissing skills in practice, since the theory is simple and accessible to everyone. The only condition is your desire and the presence of a loved one nearby. Are you ready to learn how to properly tongue kiss with your boyfriend or girlfriend if you are over 14 and watch the video?

So let's get started!

Where to begin?

First of all, it should be well remembered: a kiss with the tongue begins with a regular kiss and is its continuation. Do not immediately pounce on your partner and put your tongue in his (her) mouth! French kiss develop gradually.

Correct head position

The quality of a kiss, including a French one, is guaranteed by the correct position of the head. Therefore, you need to tilt it a little to the side in order not to collide with noses.

Move from a simple kiss to a complex one should be gradual

First you need to find out if your partner wants to kiss with the tongue. To do this, during a simple kiss, slightly open your mouth. When your lip is between your partner's (or vice versa), run the tip of your tongue over his (her) lips. This will serve as a signal that you want to kiss with the tongue. If the partner is not against such a kiss, then you can open your lips a little wider and push the tip of your tongue into the partner's mouth. This should be done slowly. The thing is that the tongue is very sensitive, and the most gentle touch can bring great pleasure.

When both partners are ready for a French kiss, you need to moisturize your lips well.

To do this, it is enough to draw the tip of the tongue in a circle, first on your lips (this will give them a sexual shine and increase the desire of a partner), then on the lips of a partner (partner). At the moment of contact of the tongues, you can draw your tongue around the partner's tongue clockwise, then along the inside of the lips (in men, this zone is the most erogenous). You can do anything with tongues, the main thing is that both of you like it: light sucking, barely perceptible touches, movements from side to side. The only limitation - and this should be remembered once and for all! - Don't bite your tongue. Even the most gentle biting can negate the partner's desire to kiss with the tongue.

Ending the French Kiss

You need to finish the kiss with the tongue slowly. Remove your tongue and kiss your partner with closed lips. Kiss the neck, ear, nose. You should not abruptly stop the "French" kiss, because. this can cause confusion and bewilderment of the partner.

you can’t put your tongue too far into your partner’s mouth, because it can interfere with breathing and even cause a gag reflex (and besides that, it's just unpleasant);

should be limited only to the mouth: few people will be pleased if they lick half of their face;

it is necessary to restrain your own salivation so that your partner does not choke on your saliva (it is advisable to swallow saliva about once a minute).

Don't limit yourself to tongue kissing. They are able to diversify the love game, awaken sensuality, but very often the partner (especially girls) lacks tenderness in kisses. Excessive passion for "French" kisses can create the impression that a person experiences nothing more than passion. Therefore, even if you are fluent in the technique of kissing with the tongue, you should use it only with your loved one (after making sure of his (her) consent).

The secret of success is practice!

As you can see, mastering the technique of kissing with the tongue is not difficult at all! Be natural, don't be afraid to experiment, gain practical experience. Discuss with your partner what you like about this kiss, what you don't like, what you would like to try. The steps we have proposed are nothing more than a provisional plan. Each couple, having received the basis, develops its own, unlike the others, "French" kiss.

Most guys are shy and afraid to take this step. There are cases when a guy manages to ask a girl for permission. Please note that this cannot be done! Now you will learn what and how to do to kiss a girl for the first time.

How to kiss a girl for the first time - get rid of nerves

Before you know when to kiss a girl, you must learn to control your emotions and nerves. You are probably too bother and just numb in front of a girl just from the thought of a kiss. Only the right attitude can help you. Remember, it's only a kiss! This is not an exam or a test that you must pass perfectly. Act confidently, take your time - relax. If a girl came to you on a date, then she has some kind of sympathy for you. Even if something does not go according to plan, this does not mean that everything is lost and your relationship is over.

How to kiss a girl for the first time - the right preparation

It is imperative to prepare for the first kiss - everything must go at the highest level. Yes, the first kiss is not as important for guys as it is for girls. If you do not want to prepare for yourself, then take care of the girl. Be sure to monitor the freshness of your mouth, as this point is the most important. Any girl will lose interest in kissing if a guy has bad breath. The first kiss is an impression of you. Before a date, try not to eat food that can create a peculiar or unpleasant odor in your mouth. We are now talking about garlic, onions, dumplings with vinegar, salted fish ... To protect yourself, chew gum or mint candy on the way to a date.

How to kiss a girl for the first time - looking for a reason to kiss

Rapprochement will occur without unnecessary difficulties, provided that you have done everything that depended on you (have achieved mutual understanding and used all the ways to seduce women).

Simple trick

Start a conversation with a girl about kissing. Talk about “types of kissing” or “how kissing in African tribes”. Girls usually fall for it and try to keep the conversation going. At this moment, invite your companion to try one or another option and reward her with a sweet kiss.

Ice cream

This method has helped many guys kiss a girl already on the first date. Ask the girl if she likes ice cream. Every girl likes it, so she will ask: “Why did you ask me this?”. You must tell her this: women who don't like ice cream experience no feelings during the kiss and kiss with their mouths closed. After that, kiss her in French and ask about her impressions.

How to kiss a girl for the first time - why you can't ask permission

Most women can't get into a relationship with a man they don't know right away. If you ask permission and get a positive answer, then you can not go to a fortune teller, that she will answer your proposal to make love. Silence, a vague "I'll think about it" and the absence of a categorical refusal are clear signs that she does not mind kissing, but is holding herself back because of society's stereotypes. Don't ask, but say "let's try" and give the girl the best kiss in the world.

What if, when you try to kiss, she pulls back and says no? Say it: “Wow! You ruined the moment! Surely all your ex-boyfriends left you because you can’t kiss.” This is a risky move. The girl may no longer answer your calls, but this is the only way you will save yourself from a drop in self-esteem and confusion. There is a chance that she will reconsider her behavior and agree to a kiss already on the second date.

The right moment is up to you

Young people are constantly waiting for the right moment to kiss a girl for the first time. You don't have to be passive and sit on a date waiting for a miracle. It's up to you to create the right mood!

Make your date romantic. Music, flowers, candles... To a guy, this may seem like a trite thing, but not one girl yet resisted attention. Do you think this is a hackneyed topic? You are mistaken, the girls only saw this on TV. Create a cozy atmosphere, do your best. Happy first kiss.