When the world turns gray and indifference overshadows all feelings, the surest way out is to find something to your liking.

Why does the desire to dream and create suddenly disappear?

Joy inspires and gives a sense of the fullness of life. But suddenly something breaks - and she leaves. Do you know the feeling of hopelessness and apathy? To deal with it, you need to understand its true cause.

Fatigue is the simplest and most common reason why the world around us ceases to be enjoyable. Feelings are dulled, everything seems gray and monotonous. And the only recipe in this case is how to relax.

Sometimes it seems to us that we live a very boring life. Here, artists (showmen, politicians, journalists ...) have an interesting and eventful life, not like mine, we think. The paradox is that writers, artists, actors, and pop stars are all equally tired of what they do every day. Whoever you are, from time to time you need to break out of everyday reality and change the picture. Take a vacation and go away - to another city, another country. Free yourself from your usual routine. Breathe in the air of freedom. Learn new things. Often this step is able to restore strength and bring back the joy of each day.

The simplest and most common reason that the world around you ceases to be enjoyable is fatigue. Feelings are dulled, everything seems gray and monotonous. And the only recipe in this case is how to relax.

But it happens that the blues becomes chronic. Complete disappointment, unwillingness to do anything, awareness of the meaninglessness of life - these are the symptoms of this state. We lose joy in one case: when we cannot use life to satisfy our needs, says psychoanalytic therapist Eduard Livinsky. - A person perceives the world through the prism of what he can influence. And if he satisfies other people's desires and sacrifices his own, he feels frustration. And that's how we're raised! You go to work where no one is going to think about your personal needs. You live in a society that is focused on the accumulation of capital, and if you have other values, you have to break yourself. Joy is always the joy of one's own doing, activity for oneself among like-minded people.

6 ways to shake things up and want to live

If everyday life has become insipid, you need to look for a way to diversify them. Just do not sit back: apathy does not go away on its own!

1. Go on a trip. Change of environment and new experiences expand the boundaries of perception. All sensations become several times sharper. And there is time to think about what, in fact, is important to you.
2. Get a pet. Caring for a small defenseless creature - even a turtle - gives each of us the necessary feeling of being needed. The animal depends entirely on the owner: you will begin to receive joy when you feed it, stroke it, communicate with it.
3. Go to church for a service. Even if you are not a religious person, try to stand the service, listen to prayers and understand yourself better. People often find peace and harmony after attending church. It's not even about the ceremony, but about returning to yourself.
4. Think of a new hobby. Ask yourself: what is important for you, what have you always wanted to do and what have you denied yourself? And take this step: sign up for a dance or theater studio, start learning professional photography. There is nowhere else to put it off.
5. Start a mini-repair at home. At least rearrange the furniture and re-paste the wallpaper. Firstly, you will undoubtedly be distracted, and secondly, transforming and renewing your home, you yourself will want to renew yourself internally.
6. Help someone who is in trouble. When we do good, we always feel joy. We are changing, becoming cleaner and brighter. A visit to a sick friend, helping her mother, a few kind words to a neighbor ... And, maybe, volunteer work.

Pamper the body - thaw the soul

Bodily pleasures can be excellent therapy for apathy. To do this, turn ordinary procedures into a pleasant ritual. The simplest things that we often do in a hurry can give moments of genuine joy. For example, peeling: there is so much bliss and sensuality in the treatment of the body with a fragrant scrub! The same can be said about Ayurveda's favorite oiling ritual, for which any slightly warmed oil will do (you can take olive oil and add a few drops of essential oil to your taste). It makes sense to take a course of oil massage or several sessions of stone therapy - massage with heated stones. During such procedures, we focus on our sensations and learn to enjoy touch and tactile contact. The body relaxes, unnecessary thoughts go away along with tension. We take care of ourselves - and this gives us confidence!

There are times when sadness just rolls over. Psychologists advise not to hide from her under fake fun, but to fully experience emotions.

• Listen to yourself

If at this moment you feel sadness and longing, surrender to these difficult feelings in full. You are entitled to them.

• Find the right job

Maybe it's time to watch a sentimental movie or flip through your ten-year-old diary. Or just cry into your pillow. By the way, tears act cleansing.

• Think that it will pass

No matter how bad it is, you should always look for a thread that you can cling to. This thread is our hope for tomorrow, that everything will change for the better and we will be in great shape. Think about the good even in the most difficult periods - and it will certainly happen to you!

Pick up a brush

To express your feelings in creativity and to understand the essence of the problem that worries you, makes it possible to art therapy (healing by art) - a method of psychotherapy that has become popular in recent years. Spleen, apathy, lack of interest in life are direct indications for her. The simplest technique is to try to express your emotions in a drawing.

Depict, for example, your longing, and then your joy - and compare these two pictures, mentally transferring yourself to the field of joy. If you are overwhelmed with negative emotions, you can even create a sculpture out of paper, old newspapers, pieces of wallpaper, and then paint it in sunny colors - try to transform the negative into a positive. How good is art therapy? Firstly, you express your emotions, which means that they do not accumulate inside you. Secondly, you pull the problem out and distance yourself from it. And thirdly, the creative process itself is healing, which will capture you entirely! In addition to isotherapy, there are many other techniques: music, dance, fairy tale, photo, game, drama and even sand therapy.

Where to look for life energy

To return the world of color, you need to start doing something. Not for someone else - for yourself. Find the area where your efforts will be fruitless. Seeing the result of your work, you will want to live again!

Work that does not bring joy and serves only to earn money, relationships in which the sharpness of feelings has long been dulled, constant employment and haste, many small household chores ... How to break this vicious circle? You need to find an area where you can fully realize your abilities - and the perception of life will change.

The main task of any of us is to allow our self to do something valuable for ourselves. Therefore, any activity that brings you pleasure can get rid of the blues! The most difficult thing remains: to find something for the soul. The trouble is that often we deactivate our own self so much that it loses the ability to create desires. Psychologists recommend in this case to remember what brought you joy in childhood. Sewing outfits for dolls, creating collages, sculpting, drawing - after all, it was definitely an exciting activity. And then cast aside doubts and false shame (say, I'm no longer a child) and indulge in your favorite business! Even if you don't feel inspired at first.

It is very important not to withdraw into yourself. Find people with similar problems so that you have someone to talk to. Search for those who share your hobbies, since now it is easy to do using the Internet. But communication should not be limited to the virtual world: it is imperative to go out into reality!

Each of us needs to be appreciated and accepted by others. Therefore, find an opportunity to participate in those collective events where your activity will be welcomed! A lonely person can go on a group tour of the city: a friendly atmosphere, an exchange of opinions - and now you are no longer alone! It is enough for a young mother, who thinks that life is passing her by, to organize a holiday at home, invite friends with children - and she will perk up, advises Eduard Livinsky. - A life without meaning is a sure road to depression.

Set goals for yourself and achieve them, and this activity will bring you out of an emotional stupor. Write down five goals focused on your own needs - what you will do for the soul and good mood.

IMPORTANT! Any communication with children will bring you pleasure and sincere joy if you put aside all business and completely devote some time to the child. Teach him something, discover a new meaning for his favorite activities. Nothing makes us more happy than the success of our children.

Give children joy

The most common cause of apathy and depression is infantilism. A person expects that life will give him all the joys, not wanting to act on his own. Meanwhile, life requires effort, otherwise it turns into a swamp. Look for new meanings of existence for yourself. One of them may be caring for children who have no parents. If you are single and not too happy right now, give some warmth to those who really need it! Coming to the nearest orphanage on a weekend and reading a fairy tale to the kids, talking to older children - this will not require any special expenses. But the return can be very strong. You will feel that someone needs you, that someone is happy for you, someone is waiting for you. So, there is a meaning to life!

The Art of Gratitude

Any person feels happy when his efforts are accepted, whether at work, in the family. Imagine that you prepared a delicious dinner, having spent the whole day at the stove, and your relatives ate it with lean faces and did not even thank you - where is there to rejoice? Therefore, at home - in our microcosm, where we ourselves establish orders - we need to cultivate a culture of gratitude.

Teach your children, your husband, and learn to appreciate what you have done for yourself. Say thank you!, feeling this warm feeling inside yourself. And thank life for what it gives you.

Experience difficulties. And with honor to overcome!

Everything is fine, but everything is tired - the spleen of satiety, you can’t say otherwise. She is being treated!

Live in extreme conditions. For example, go camping with tents. The world will turn upside down. You will start to notice things that you didn't notice before. And many problems will be unimportant.

Learn another language. Communication on the courses greatly broadens one's horizons. And the head will be busy - not to apathy.

Start running. At least 3 km per day. It is not easy to break away from the TV - the favorite pastime of all the blues. But what joy you will feel every time after the end of the run! Including the fact that while running, endorphins are released into the bloodstream.

History from life

My niece brought me out of apathy

Two years ago Diana from Poltava (26 years old) was in a serious depression. She, pregnant, was left by a loved one. She lost her child from frustration. And these were not all the trials that fell to her lot!

At first everything went great. Upon learning that I was expecting a child, Denis proposed to me. We had already invited guests to the wedding, when suddenly at night we quarreled over a trifle. And Denis ... disappeared. And I soon ended up in the hospital. The baby was not saved.

I hated men. She lived in chronic apathy. Nothing made me happy. I went to work only because I had to live on something. One day I was walking home tired and thought: I want to go to the hospital with a sore throat. Our negative attitudes come true: I slipped unsuccessfully and ended up in intensive care. I was paralyzed, the doctors said that now I will lie down. But a miracle happened: I got to my feet. I was discharged from the hospital, knowing that for three years I could not become pregnant.

My sister just had a daughter. And she called me to her place in Kyiv.

She offered to change her life and stay with her, help with Karina. At first I refused, and six months later I quit my job and moved in with my sister. At first I was afraid to touch the baby. But soon she easily changed her diapers and could stay with her for the whole day. Communication with this sun energized me. We walked with her for a long time, played, I read books to her. Somehow I caught myself thinking that I want the same miracle! Karina taught me to smile again. The depression has passed. Now I am looking for a job in the capital and I hope to arrange a personal life.

By caring, we find harmony

Caring for plants and animals is a guaranteed way to love the world again. In Haruki Murakami's sensational book "Norwegian Forest", the main character, Naoko, years after the loss of a loved one, finds herself in a closed medical institution in the mountains. People who have lost their taste for life - people like her - are treated there not with medicines, but with simple activities: growing vegetables, floriculture and poultry farming.

Working near the earth, in contact with its creations, watching how sprouts break through, how fruits ripen, a person draws strength and is charged with vital energy, forgetting about his mental traumas. This primitive activity, despite all the achievements of scientific and technological progress, remains the most natural for us. But where can a city dweller look for a vegetable garden or a farm? A good way out is growing flowers. This hobby does not require a lot of money, but allows you to fully experience the joy of communicating with nature. Flowers are beautiful, they awaken in us a sense of beauty. Caring for them, we free our heads from annoying thoughts, relax and rest from the hustle and bustle.

Your sources of inspiration

We are sad when we lack something. And we rejoice when we feel connected with the world and other people. And for this you need not to engage in self-digging, but to strive to learn new things, to see the world in all its colors. And feel that you are alive!

Watching nature brings joy, because it is alive. And depression is nothing more than a loss of life dynamics. Therefore, the contemplation of nature restores. You watch how the trees bloom, clouds float, insects swarm, and you understand: life flows regardless of our petty everyday misfortunes. Against this bewitching background, their problems seem insignificant. And nature also instills faith that you can do something as important and natural as a blooming flower or a bee carrying nectar.

Art inspires and demonstrates the diversity of life, showing that not everything around us is gray and monotonous. And it also allows you to have your own emotions, pushing us to feel, experience, catch fire. Indeed, in essence, art is emotions poured into sounds, colors, movements. Depression always starts with fear of your feelings.

Books and films with a positive story, dedicated to overcoming obstacles, instill confidence in one's own strength. If the hero coped with the difficulties, then you can do it too! Joy goes away because we cannot process the situation, we get stuck in it. And someone else's example shows: there is a way out, you have to look for it! And the only question is how to do it. If you can’t find a way out yourself, you should talk with a friend, a psychologist, any person who will help you look at the problem from the outside. And make sure: there is something to rejoice in life!

Beautiful landscapes cause unconscious joy, so use every opportunity to be in nature. Alternate active rest with meditation or contemplation of awakening nature. Rejoice in spring!

4 books that will set you up for positive

• Osho. Hsin Hsin Ming: The Book of Nothing

Our mind creates dreams. To wake up and experience true joy, you need to go beyond the mind. Osho tells how to turn off the stereotypes imposed by culture, free yourself from the need for choice and start living an authentic life.

• Anna Gavalda. Just together

A kind, wise and life-affirming novel about love and how to find joy in everyday life. All the characters, at first lonely, find their happiness at the end of the story. And one of its important components is to help another in difficult times.

• Sue Townsend. The Diaries of Adrian Mole

Incredibly funny book, not leaving the bestseller list, about the adventures of an English teenager prone to blues and who considers himself an intellectual and a talented poet. Sparkling!

• Viktor Frankl. Man in search of meaning

An Austrian psychiatrist describes his personal experience of surviving in a concentration camp and shows that even in the most terrible conditions, one can find an incentive to continue life. A serious book that can turn your worldview upside down.

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Question to the psychologist:

Hello. I lost my sense of life. I don’t know when it started, but it became especially clear during the third pregnancy.

My life hasn't worked out very well. Parents were constantly busy with their older brother (a difference of 8 years) and his problems. It got to the point of absurdity, my parents bought him new suits and didn’t see that I needed a bra, and I didn’t know how to approach it. My mother just didn’t work with me, didn’t tell me anything about growing up, about anything. I got to everything myself. I started working at the age of 14, I gave almost all the money to my parents, leaving something for pocket expenses. At the same time, I still remained a notorious and terribly vulnerable person. Therefore, when I had a young man, I messed up a lot of firewood. I was insanely attached, and he didn't need it. I didn't have any friends. And I always felt lonely. A few more failed loves. And then I just got mad. She lost weight, changed her image, got a promotion at work. I didn’t make friends, but I noticed that men like me. But bile and anger just overwhelmed. It pissed me off that the opposite sex looked at me like I was a toy. And then my future husband showed up. For some reason, I was afraid to officially link the relationship, and agreed to this only when I found out that I was pregnant.

I was not ready for this news, because we were using contraception, and I planned to get pregnant in a year. Despite this, when Polinochka was born, I knew that this was my most precious treasure. I just melted into my happiness. She managed everything around the house, she was a mother, a wife, and a mistress. There were difficulties with money, but oh well.

And then I find out that I am pregnant again, despite the precautions. The ultrasound showed a girl. The husband, who dreamed of a son, threw almost a tantrum from chagrin. Okay, God be with him. Ksenya was born and I felt the second wave of happiness. I was at my best, I knew everything, I could do everything, I managed everything. But financial difficulties increased.

My education turned out to be unclaimed in remote work. I decided to leave the kids with my mom and go to work too. I was not satisfied with my employer's terms of employment and I quit my job to find a new job offer. And then I found out that I was pregnant for the third time.

I cried and for the first time began to consider the option of an abortion. They refused to hire me when I was pregnant. My husband is also tired of working alone all the time. I was of no use, all the government assistance was spent on diapers and food for children. Yes, and I was also tired of sitting at home, I wanted to go out to people. However, the question of abortion disappeared by itself. Physiology played a trick, I had a fetal wash, which I took for menstruation, and found out about pregnancy at the 12th week. The pregnancy was difficult: toxicosis, panic attacks (I first heard about them), contractions, starting from the 30th week, an early delivery on time. My beloved adorable son was born. Smarter than a child, I have not met. But in my heart all the feelings have dulled. I want to sleep all the time. I stopped doing everything around the house. If earlier I loved to cook for them, but now just to get rid of: sausages with pasta and a tomato; normal dinner. I washed the floors yesterday, so I'll vacuum tomorrow. And more and more money is not enough, because the children grow up. When my son was one year old, I still went to work. But all my kids got the flu, and I was called during sick leave and asked to write a letter of resignation. When three children were at home with a temperature below 40, I had no time for swearing, I signed everything they wanted and quickly went home. After this experience, my mother refused to help look after the children, and I have no one else to rely on. Because the son is not taken to the garden by age, for a given period of time he is 2 years old.

Attempts to sell their handicrafts were also unsuccessful. And all this my lack of demand and unfulfillment led to the fact that I do not want anything. Small housing? Come on, the main thing is that you have a roof over your head. No money for meat? Well, we have rice, hungry - eat without meat. It all boils down to can't and don't want to. The third pregnancy made itself felt even in terms of health, my hair falls out and it began to turn gray - this is in 30 years !!! And a hormonal imbalance that will never recover. And make an appointment with a doctor, so there is no record. Everything seems to be against me. Everything I do ends in failure. Even cooking does not work, some kind of nonsense. I'm already tired of fighting. I'm just tired. Everything infuriates me, every little thing that is not for me. I want one to be left alone. My father infuriates me, who teaches me how to live, but did not arrange his life. Now there is some kind of wild state that every step, even going to the bathroom to brush my teeth, requires huge efforts from me. My husband is already tired of enduring my displeasure. I understand him, anyone would be tired.

And I myself do not want to. I love my husband, I love children. I want to be their support. If only life gave a gift to somehow shake things up.

I have a dream to become again what I was before marriage, slender, free-spirited and with gorgeous hair. To be able to solve the housing and material issue, while remaining a tender loving mother and wife.

Please help me. I am lost. How can I find not a path, but a road. I can't handle myself anymore. Self-study and reading books like Louise Hay only leads me to a dead end. What should I do.

The psychologist Zhemchuzhnikova Valentina Mikhailovna answers the question.

Good afternoon, Tatyana!

I sincerely sympathize that you are in such a state and there seems to be no one to help and support you.

The first thing I want to advise is that you definitely need to go to the doctor and discuss with him how to improve your health, because hormonal imbalance can negatively affect both your physical condition and your mood. And the second is to go to the gynecologist and deal with protection so that you don’t accidentally get a fourth child, because even the very fact of pregnancy, even if you don’t give birth, will have an extremely negative effect on your morale.

I did not quite understand your relationship with your husband - how he looks at the situation, whether he supports you or does not support you, whether there is help from him in terms of everyday life and caring for children. The feeling that you are all alone with three children. Have you talked frankly with your husband about the current situation, how do you feel now, what is with your health? Have you asked your husband for help, for some kind of unloading, so that you have at least a little time for yourself?

Did you talk to your mother after she refused to help you with the children? Maybe you should try again to discuss this issue with your mother, ask for help, because you can’t cope on your own and are already on the verge both physically and mentally?

Is there anyone else in your environment who could help you (friends, relatives)?

You write that you want to become the same as before marriage. But from your letter I did not see much happiness. Yes, there were no children, and you were free, but, as it seemed to me, you have a lot of resentment towards your parents and men. It is not clear about your feelings for your husband, how you built a relationship with him and what you get from your husband. The feeling that in children you tried to find and receive what you did not receive from others - tenderness, love, care. But now it's not enough for you - just being a mom. But otherwise, nothing seems to have changed - the same relationship with the parents, there seems to be no support and care from the husband either. Only now you are not free and cannot freely dispose of yourself and your time.

It seems to me that you need face-to-face work with a psychologist (personal meetings, Skype), it is possible to contact some social centers where you can get help for free. You need to find support and support in someone, work out your relationships with parents, men, take a fresh look at the situation and see new ways of development.

If this option is not possible, then the only thing I can advise is to speak frankly with your husband and your mother, talk about your condition, about your feelings and ask for help and support. You need support, you need at least some free time for yourself (to take a walk, meet with friends, maybe go to work for at least a couple of hours if you really want to). The younger one will grow up and soon it will be possible to send him to the garden and it will become a little easier for you.

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Stop and think: how are you feeling lately? Do you feel tired and lethargic? Can you concentrate with difficulty? Are you tired of everything? This may be a temporary emotional downturn, but what if it's the start of a depression? Then "home remedies" are not enough - you need to go to a specialist.

If you are not feeling well for no apparent reason, then you probably blame fatigue, stress, age-related changes, lingering back pain or migraines. We are all usually busy at home and at work, and it is not surprising that our health is at the very bottom of the urgent list. But is the busy schedule really to blame, or is it just an excuse that allows you to overlook the obvious? Women often associate the above symptoms with physical well-being, but in reality they are more related to the state of mind. Many patients go to a therapist complaining of chronic fatigue and back pain, and expect the doctor to prescribe medication and the condition will immediately improve. However, in many cases, the real cause of this condition is mild depression. And, if the therapist is not competent enough, most likely the disease will remain undetected. You may object: “But I don’t suffer from unreasonable longing, what does depression have to do with it?” But the reality is that depressed people don't always shed tears. The disease can manifest itself in different ways, and quite often at first glance its signs are almost invisible. Symptoms of depression can range from mild sadness to complete despair and severe apathy when you are unable to get out of bed. That is why it is very difficult to recognize the disease at an early stage.

In a recent American study, psychologists asked two groups of subjects to read two different stories about a woman. The first said that the heroine had recently been desperately sad, the second - that she was no longer pleased with what used to bring pleasure: she no longer wants to go to the cinema, read books, or walk with children. When psychologists asked the question “What is wrong with this woman?”, More than half of the participants in the first group suggested that the heroine had depression. They identified - sadness and depression. However, among those who read the second story, fewer than l/3 of the participants understood that the woman had forgotten how to enjoy life because of her depression. There are no official statistics on depression in Russia, but psychologists are sure that there are more and more women who suffer from this disease. After all, it is women who have to combine so many roles and cope with so many tasks that the load becomes almost unbearable. Add to this the uncertainty about the future, disasters and crime stories that dominate the news, and the picture becomes completely clear. The difficulty is that depression does not appear instantly, like appendicitis. It can develop gradually, over several months or even years, and as a result, a pessimistic view of the world can simply become a habit. The most important thing in such a situation is to realize what is happening to you, and not to hide your head in the sand, but to begin active actions.

Allow yourself to be sad. We all go through certain moments hard, whether it is the unexpected death of loved ones, moving from the home of adult children, or attempts to come to terms with the inevitable age-related changes. Regardless of what caused your negative emotions, allow yourself to experience them. There is no good in pretending that everything is in order and life goes on as before, when all you want is to have a good cry or pour out your soul to a close friend. Don't confuse urgent with important. Psychologist's advice: if you're sad, start doing something nice for yourself every day, at least a little.

Ask for help - this is not at all a recognized weakness. Although many celebrities now openly admit that they have experienced periods of depression, for many of us this topic is still taboo. According to statistics, two-thirds of women suffering from depression do not see a doctor because they find it embarrassing. Moreover, half of them do not dare to speak frankly even with friends and relatives. One of the reasons why we hesitate to see a doctor is that depression cannot be diagnosed on a physical level. There is no such analysis that will unequivocally show: yes, you have a serious illness called depression. Here we are dealing with a state of mind. And many believe that they themselves are to blame for their condition: they were too weak to cope with real life. But the help of a psychologist, medication, or a combination of both can significantly improve your condition. AND Realizing that you need professional help is one of the most courageous things you can do.

Don't ask too much of yourself. Given the pressure of stereotypical ideas that a woman should be an excellent professional, a good mother and an ideal wife, it is not surprising that women are more likely to become victims of perfectionism. But who said your life has to be perfect? It is enough that she is good for you. If you are ready to turn inside out to impress others, stop and think: why are you doing this? If you can save time and effort, do so. High standards will make you unhappy, because constantly giving 100% is very tiring. Determine your priorities. What is truly important to you is really worth the maximum effort, for the rest, 60% is enough.

Expert opinion
Natalia Rivkina, a psychotherapist at the European Medical Center, answers the questions of "DO"

DO: What is the fundamental difference between depression and a bad mood, a feeling of melancholy?
NR: It's not uncommon in everyday life to hear, "I'm so upset! I'm depressed." This refers to a bad mood that arose for various reasons, even minor ones. However, only a set of symptoms indicates depression. Indeed, first of all, it is a lowered mood. But the mood, reduced for a long time (more than two weeks), when external circumstances (a pleasant meeting, joyful events) cannot change it. Sometimes a person may experience unreasonable anxiety, concern for loved ones, for their health. Depression is always accompanied by a decrease in working capacity, fatigue, and difficulty concentrating. The most familiar, everyday things seem unbearable, complex, difficult to accomplish. It can be very difficult to take on simple household chores or finish what you started. Even the most insignificant efforts quickly lead to fatigue, a feeling that "there is no strength to raise a hand." Irritability appears, often for trifling reasons. Disappear interest in the environment (work, favorite activities) and a sense of pleasure. The future is seen in gloomy colors - unpromising, bleak. Another manifestation of depressive disorders is sleep disturbances. Night sleep becomes superficial, intermittent, with early (2-3 hours earlier than usual) awakenings. The most dangerous symptom of depression is suicidal thoughts. Thoughts that, in the most severe cases of depression, can lead to concrete action. It can be difficult for others to understand that the patient cannot control the symptoms of depression, get rid of them by willpower. Sometimes you have to hear: “Just think, I have depression too. But I force myself to get over the blues.” The truth is, we can “handle” our bad moods. Good music, delicious food, a funny movie - and life is getting better. But depression is a disease that requires special, often drug treatment. And it is impossible to get rid of it by simple persuasion or self-hypnosis.

DO: What types of examinations allow you to make an accurate diagnosis?
NR: The main method that allows you to accurately diagnose depression is a clinical conversation with a psychiatrist. It must be remembered that a psychiatric interview is an accurate diagnostic tool only in the hands of a specialist. This diagnosis cannot be established by a psychologist, social worker, doctors of other specialties. Undoubtedly, they can assume the presence of depression and recommend a visit to a psychiatrist. But the final diagnosis, as well as the choice of treatment strategy, remains with a specialist in the treatment of mental disorders. For a reliable diagnosis, a psychiatrist must identify at least four symptoms of depression, assess the time of their onset, severity, severity, connection with external events, and only on the basis of this suggest the necessary treatment. Auxiliary methods of examination can be specially designed questionnaires. Testing can also serve as a self-assessment method that will prompt you to consult a specialist.

DO: What forms and types of depression are more common and how can they be distinguished?
HP: Clinical depression requiring treatment can be divided into two types: reactive and endogenous. Reactive depression occurs as a reaction to a traumatic event immediately or shortly after the event. A person's experiences are related to what happened, and the severity corresponds to the severity of what happened, for example, the loss of loved ones. Endogenous depression, if it occurs against the background of “troubles”, significantly exceeds them in terms of the severity of experiences. Such states exist for a long time, often persisting, even when events have long lost their relevance. Endogenous depression occurs when there is a lack of serotonin in the intercellular space. It is serotonin that is responsible for the transmission of impulses in the centers that determine our mood, and its lack can lead to a "breakdown" of the regulatory system and the development of symptoms of depression. The nature of depression is essential for the choice of treatment tactics.

DO: What types of depression require mandatory drug therapy, and which ones can be managed without drugs, for example, only by methods of psycho- or physiotherapy, etc.?
HP: Endogenous depression always requires drug treatment. Its very nature implies the need to influence the neurobiological processes of the brain. And antidepressants can quickly and effectively help to solve this problem. Only psychotherapy or manual therapy for this type of depression can bring temporary relief. In the case of reactive depression, the decision to prescribe medications is made by the doctor on a case-by-case basis. This depends on both the severity of the events and the severity of the symptoms of depression. Inability to cope with usual activities, increasing isolation, isolation, sleep disturbances, for example, require drug therapy. In the most severe cases, for example, when suicidal thoughts appear, hospitalization in a psychiatric clinic is necessary.

DO: What are the most modern and effective treatments for depression?
NR: Over the past decade, there have been no fundamentally new treatments for depression. Now psychopharmacotherapy is rapidly developing. But first of all, modern developments are aimed at minimizing the side effects of treatment in order to make it comfortable and easily tolerated. The most effective method of treatment is considered to be an integrated approach that combines drug treatment and psychotherapy. Rehabilitation programs for depressive disorders have now been developed - this includes massage, reflexology, and special gymnastics, as well as work with families of patients.

DO: Now there are a lot of private psychological help centers that employ people who have completed certain courses. How to determine that a doctor (and is a doctor?) Sufficiently qualified?
HP: The main way to determine the qualifications of a specialist is to look at his documents. Only a certified psychiatrist has the right to prescribe medication. A clinical psychologist can diagnose by testing, as well as give psychological advice. Psychotherapy can be carried out by a professional psychotherapist. In Russia, only specialists with higher medical education can officially do this. If you have applied to a little-known private treatment center or a private doctor, do not hesitate to ask him to provide you with a license and educational documents. It's about your health!

Why does the desire to dream and create suddenly disappear? Joy inspires and gives a sense of the fullness of life. But suddenly something breaks - the ion leaves. Do you know the feeling of hopelessness and apathy? To deal with it, you need to understand its true cause.

Well, here are the main reasons:

1. Fatigue.

When a person does not know how and does not want to rest, turns his existence into a continuous race for results, forgets about spiritual things, negative energy accumulates, poisoning his life. It pulls down like a chain and does not allow you to “fly up”.

2. Feeling like an unnecessary person.

This feeling calls into question the value of the individual, its usefulness, the very meaning of existence seems to be a mockery.

3. Obyazalovka.

If a person goes through life guided only by principles: I must, I am obliged, I am forced, he looks like a barge hauler on the Volga. An “eternal debt” constantly hangs over him, like a huge cobblestone above his head, and makes him unhappy.

4. Aimlessness.

Life is like a tumbleweed: where the wind blows, I move there. Please do not confuse goals with desires. Desires are more mundane. It is normal to have desires - to love, to dress nicely, to earn good money, to have a family, to live in abundance, etc. Their realization ensures the joy of existence, as an individual, as a separate person. Desires are necessary for a person for himself, as ensuring his comfortable and pleasant existence.

The goal is a higher concept, it is connected with the destination. Its meaning is through itself, its mission to make our world a better place, to do something on a global scale, to benefit humanity.

5. Obsession and one-sidedness.

It is good to do what you love and interesting, to be a professional and an expert. But ... one-sidedness does not benefit anyone. For example, if a scientist deals only with formulas and struggles with some task for many years, without getting up from the table for days, other aspects of his life suffer: relationships, physical health, social adaptation.

6. Inability to enjoy the little things.

Many people imagine a happy existence as a constantly erupting volcano of passions, emotions, extraordinary events. And the joy of life, it is in every moment, in every breath, in the clouds floating across the sky, in the realization that there is a person who will always listen to you, understand, keep silent for the company, even if he is far away.

7. Monotony of existence.

When everything in life is well and has been rolling along the planned rails for a long time, boredom sets in, interest in life is lost. This is stagnation.

Any business, any relationship and our entire existence is a process. What is a process? Motion. Change. Growth. If these parameters are missing, the process stops, life stops, death occurs. Therefore, often the loss of interest in life leads to depression and is one of its signs.

8. Setting a big goal and contemplating it in all overwhelming grandeur.

When there is a global goal, its scale may seem overwhelming and unrealistic to our consciousness. There is fear, a feeling of powerlessness and meaninglessness of existence. Dead end.

9. Desocialization.

A person who has little contact with people in life experiences an acute deficit in recognizing himself as a social being. Like it or not, but we live in a society, we need it, we need live human communication. This hunger cannot be satisfied. Not music, not games, not books, not anything else.

10. Blocking of feelings - apathy.

A person has no desires, no interest, no joy. This mechanism, as a defense, includes our psyche in order not to experience negative feelings and emotions.

But when negative emotions are blocked, the flow of positive feelings (joy, delight, interest) is also blocked. Usually this happens when a person does not even want to admit to himself unpleasant feelings - dislike for parents, spouse, children, himself.

How to find the joy of life again?

1. Start doing.

The more you do nothing, the more you don't want to do. Do it to get tired. Strain. Program yourself like an automaton, like a robot. Act without pause. Morning. Woke up. Washed up. Charger. Breakfast. Clean snow. Write a dissertation. Develop a project. Learn English. Make up a book. Dinner. Listen to music. Collect motorcycle. Change site. Plow the land. To plant flowers. Clean the flat. To read a book. Walk. Dinner. Watch movie. Write a letter to parents. Draw. To knit. Build a model aircraft. Sleep.

2. Go to an orphanage, a baby home, a boarding school for the disabled and the elderly.

3. Take care of your body.

Start running in the morning, sign up for dancing, a fitness club, a pool, a massage.

Do something that is unusual for you, that is not in your daily routine. Soul and body are connected. If the soul suffers, you can help it by working first with the body.

4. Imagine that this is the last day of your life or the last minute.

A person who has a gun pointed to his head hardly thinks that life is not interesting. Awareness of our mortality helps us to appreciate life more and be aware of every moment.

5. Stop, give yourself a rest.

To relax. Meditate. Get out into nature. Meet the dawn. Sit by the fire, contemplating the fire. Watch the flowing water. Listen to yourself, your soul. Remember the good moments of your life, feel them again. Reread your success diary.

6. Find or remember your own.

Remember your dreams, scroll the tape into the past, find those moments when life pleased, lit, was filled with meaning, find out when changes occurred, when you deviated from your path, your destiny. Find out how it happened and why. Then come back to that point and change, rewrite the past.

After that, live in harmony with your own soul, check with it. The cure for depression is in our own soul.

7. Set yourself a high goal.

Create a crisis for yourself. Translated, the word "crisis" means "danger" or "chance". So create yourself a new chance to change, grow, climb a step higher. Get started! In the process, drive, interest, a taste for life will appear.

8. Learn the "art of small steps."

Got a big goal? Fine! So that it does not crush you, break it into stages, divide the stages into blocks, paint the blocks in steps. And go! Do!

9. Go outside and smile at everyone.

Make new friends. Recall forgotten friends, arrange a meeting with them. Be open to new contacts, suggestions and ideas, see opportunities and say “yes!” to them.

10. Laugh more.

Get started. Make a list and watch comedies, funny positive films every day. It works!

Smile, be happy, be happy and enjoy life!

Many have such periods in life when all interest is lost in it. People begin to remember the years of their youth, when they were interested in any events, they aspired to something, achieved something. They rejoiced at every little thing and every evening, going to bed, they dreamed that a new day would come faster. Where do all these feelings disappear over the years, how to deal with it? How to regain interest in life?

Reasons why life becomes insipid

In fact, it is easy to understand why interest in life is lost. People begin to close themselves off from the outside world, do not want to see and hear everything that happens. In a similar way, a person exhibits a defensive reaction that helps to hide from the pain encountered on his life path.

Everyone can remember how often he says such phrases: I do not want to see this, I do not want to hear this, I have no desire to experience this again. During the pronunciation of such phrases, people trigger certain mechanisms:

• Destruction program.
• Completely close any feelings.
• The real world in all its manifestations is no longer perceived.

Regardless of whether a person understands that with such thoughts he gives an order to launch a program of destruction, he acts. There are several channels of perception, on which the understanding of the surrounding reality depends. How to regain interest in life? You need to learn how to properly perceive the world around you.

Signs of depression

If there is no interest in life, what to do? How do you know if a person has depression? Psychologists define it by the following features:

• A person ceases to please any events that previously caused positive emotions. Apathy, sadness, guilt and despondency appear.
• The person no longer sees a way out of the current situation.
• Interest in sex life is lost and physical activity is reduced. Sleep became short, and interest in food was lost.
• Self-confidence completely disappears, and a person begins to avoid other people. In some cases, suicidal thoughts appear.
• People can no longer control their feelings and emotions.

It is quite difficult to get out of this state, but it is possible, and in such a situation it would be useful to seek help from a psychologist.

Vision is a visual channel of perception

Thanks to vision, people have the ability to see, to distinguish a large number of shades, to notice everything that is happening around. When people age, their eyesight deteriorates, but not because the ability to see is lost. Scientists conducted many experiments and were able to prove that it can be 100% even in old age.

The visual perception of the surrounding reality depends on how ready a person is to notice and accept everything that surrounds him. Any resentment, manifestation of anger and irritation "closes people's eyes." Diseases associated with the loss or deterioration of vision appear due to the fact that people do not like everything they see in their lives. In children, such illnesses arise because they do not want to see what is happening in their families.

Hearing - the auditory channel of perception

Hearing is the most important channel for perception of the surrounding world. It also affects the ability to speak. Vibrations that are emitted by sound are perceived not only by the organs of hearing, but by the whole body. Therefore, when a person closes the possibility of perceiving information with the organs of hearing, he is fenced off from life and the surrounding reality.

People often ask back what was said, in large part because their attention is so distracted. Also, auditory perception is closed in cases where the interlocutor screams loudly, especially if it is something unpleasant. Children often have hearing problems due to high-profile scandals in the family, they do not want to perceive it, and as a result, various diseases arise.

Sensory channel of perception: sensations and feelings

A person receives most of the information through feelings, and he closes them, if something goes wrong, instantly. Often this happens when he is faced with insurmountable obstacles, such as fear, resentment, love suffering. Life becomes uninteresting because its taste is lost. It has a direct connection with the perception of any smells, tastes, and tactile sensations are of great importance.

People often resort to the easiest way to turn off such a channel of perception - this is smoking. Also, you can dull your feelings by closing yourself in, computer games and the Internet allow you to escape reality into another world. Today, when technology has developed to a high level, this happens very often.

If you lose interest in life, what to do? There are some rules for those who have lost interest in life, they will help to regain it.

You need to completely change your schedule. This may be a change in the route that a person follows to work. Perhaps you should abandon the transport that he follows, or get off a little earlier than your stop and continue on foot. Many people find it helpful to listen to their favorite music while traveling and commuting to work. This helps to strengthen the nervous system.

How to regain interest in life? Psychologist's advice: you need to start experimenting and stop being afraid of the new in your life. It is also important to stop eating the same food. Change your hairstyle, if it has not changed for a long time, update your wardrobe. You need to start enjoying all sorts of innovations.

It would be useful to update the interior in your home, you may even have to throw away some old things and purchase new ones. It also helps to add new colors to the interior of the apartment.

You will need to become a little selfish and get rid of those duties that were habitual and took a lot of time, but were not necessary. You need to start loving yourself and stop listening to someone, learn to believe in yourself. Rejoice in any small positive events in your life.

What needs to be done to regain the will to live

How to regain interest in life? The advice of psychologists boils down to the fact that you need to learn to accept the world around you as it is, and treat yourself in the same way, perceive yourself as real in this world and begin to respect. Be grateful for everything that happens in your life.

When a person has lost interest in life, what to do? Everything is very simple, in fact, life responds to what a person does in it, and all events do not happen by chance. To start living and enjoying what is happening, it is enough just to be a person with a capital letter, to believe in yourself and not to commit

In order to have a desire to live, a person must be completely satisfied with himself and everything that he does. Of course, it is difficult to imagine a person who will be satisfied with everything that happens, but he himself is not successful. But many believe that success is money. Everything is much simpler, a successful person is one who realizes himself and loves his kind of activity. There are people who do not have a large fortune, but consider themselves successful and enjoy life.

Success is not about having an expensive house, a car, a yacht. All these are just trifles of life compared to when a person was able to realize himself. A successful person always returns home with great joy and is glad to meet people close to him. Such people know what their meaning of life is, they have clearly defined goals to which they aspire.

If you have lost interest in life, what can be done the simplest? Even some of the world's leading psychologists advise not to lose a sense of humor in any, even the most difficult situation. And sometimes you can laugh at yourself.

There are moments that help get rid of depression.

It is necessary, as strange as it sounds, to balance the diet. Stop doing all sorts of snacks that do not lead to anything good. It is necessary to balance your diet so correctly that you do not have to resort to the additional use of some vitamin complexes. It is useful to eat a small amount of dark chocolate, it helps

It helps to cope with the problems of keeping your diary, in which you need to write down any little things that happen in life, both successes and defeats. Sometimes there are cases that help get out of depression - this is a state of shock. These are moments when a person needs to urgently act in a given situation. In such a state, he forgets about all the problems that do not allow him to live normally. It is important that such actions are under the control of a specialist, otherwise the negative consequences can be very dangerous.

Lost interest in life? You need to pay attention to such simple things as the daily routine and night. Analyze if the sleep and rest regimen is correct. First of all, you need to normalize sleep and be sure to find some favorite activity that will become a hobby. Thanks to this, you can completely escape from pressing problems.

If it seems that everything in life is bad, then how to find interest in life? You need to reconsider your views on her and understand that she is rich in many positive events. You need to become more optimistic. Believe that life can change in a positive way, and start making every effort to do so.

Most people tend to exaggerate what is happening in their lives. You need to look back and analyze what is happening, and then everything will begin to fall into place. Perhaps some of the problems were too exaggerated or even far-fetched. Best of all, in cases where depression has overcome, look around and see how colorful the world around is. Start enjoying life and things will start to get better.

Pause in your affairs as a means of combating depression

How to restore a person's interest in life with the help of a pause in business? There is nothing difficult in this. You just need to relax, maybe meditate or go to relax in nature. To feel how pleasant it is to meet the dawn in some of your favorite places. Spend the evening by the fire. Watch how the water flows, and at the same time not remember your problems. Listen to your soul and remember some pleasant moments in life.

Remind yourself of your life purpose

How to return the joy and interest in life? To do this, a person needs to remember his innermost dreams, because everyone had them. It is necessary, as it were, to return to the past and find what pleased at that time, the meaning that gave energy and the desire to live. Then it’s good to think at what exact moment a turning point occurred in life and what exactly happened, why to live. Then you need to mentally return to the place and time when it happened, and rewrite the past. After such a rethinking of everything that happens, you should begin to live in complete harmony with your soul and check everything with it. The medicine that can help overcome psychological difficulties is in everyone's soul.

How to stop blocking feelings

There are 2 options for psychologists' advice on how to regain interest in life and stop blocking feelings.

First: you need to try to look inside yourself, as it were, to understand what kind of emotions you want to hide from others and yourself. Then you need to accept them completely, feel, experience and just let go.

It is best to do this in childhood. A child can freely, without embarrassment, cry if someone offended him, and immediately forget about everything and start playing, doing his favorite thing. Thus, children easily let go of negative emotions.

It is much more difficult for an adult. He needs to find a place where no one will see him. Calm down and understand what emotions are most disturbing to him. When he has dealt with this, he needs to accept them, to feel them fully, and so he can dump negative emotions. Negative feelings will no longer be blocked, and it will become much easier.

The second option: a person needs to seek help from a psychotherapist.

Laughter is the simplest cure for depression

A person just needs to perceive everything easier. Start every morning with a smile and understand that life is beautiful, no matter what. It is very useful to watch comedy films. Such a simple therapy has helped many to begin to enjoy life and get rid of negative emotions that eat from the inside.

Output

There is a well-known truth: any correctly posed question carries an answer. A person wondering how to regain interest in life is already on the right track.